Member- veganbee2017
- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2017
Hi bees,
Hoping for advice/similar stories/words of wisdom??
Fiance suprised me with a gorgeous platinum engagment ring on NYE last year. He took inspiration from a secret pinterest board I had on my ipad which he snooped on. I absolutely love my e-ring, I don’t think I could have chosen better for myself!
Cut to wedding planning, I have been looking at wedding bands for about 6 months now. Because of the shape of my e-ring and the fact it’s currently perfectly “balanced” with the diamonds and platinum on either side, I felt it was going to be a challenge to get something to complement the ring.
I found a ring which I absolutely love. It seems to prompt mixed reactions from other people – some love it and some think it is “too much” and overshadows my e-ring. The real problem is that Fiance said it was gross and he really didn’t like it, which did take the shine off it for me. He later backtracked and said if I want it for my wedding band then I should get it, since it is my hand and I will be wearing it forever.
So, not wanting to get something Fiance hated but struggling to find anything I loved (aside from the above) we decided to go to a local, highly rated jeweller to get a custom band made. We put a deposit down of £160 as he makes the rings in silver rather than CAD. I thought this was good so that I could try it on with my ring and see how it is sitting together. We began this process in May. However, we are now on the 3rd design, which I like and is really cute – but I don’t love it.
For some reason I don’t have a pic of it on my hand, and the diamonds obviously haven’t been set, but they will be claw set on this design. The other thing is the band will be thinner than that – it will be 1.7mm to match the shank of my e-ring.
I’ve been putting off telling him to go ahead and get it cast in platinum because I don’t *love* it. I considered getting a design engraved over the band or changing the design again (which will cost even more money and time). I think deep down the reason I am being like this is because I just really love that other ring and want it as my wedding ring.
I know I need to bring this up with Fiance so we are not wasting more time/money. I just feel a bit crap that I am lusting after a band that he doesn’t like and we have already invested in getting something custom.
The band I love is £999 and the estimated total for the band we are having made at the moment is around £960 – there isn’t much price difference except that we have paid the £160 deposit with the custom jeweller.
I don’t really know what I want any of you to say but some real talk, ideas or similar stories would be appriciated 🙂
