(Closed) Ring Dilemma…to Tacori or not to Tacori….

posted 12 years ago in Waiting
Post # 17
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I highly recommend finding a reputable local jeweler. I love the Tiffany style of engagement rings, and Fiance took that to FBIL’s father, who is a jeweler and has found a beautiful setting that has the exact same feel of timeless elegance. We’re still making payments because we’re broke college students, and even with the discount it’s expensive for us! But the markup at small, family owned places is much less. 

Interesting thing… I had a professer last semester who worked at a Jared Galleria of Jewelry. He told us that he was automatically allowed to take a certain % off the price, but of course he never wanted to because he got commission. So he would literally pretend to go ask his boss for permission to lower the price 5% a few times, and let the couple think they were getting a deal. 

Seeing how the family jewelry store is run, on the other hand, is so different. They can’t let things go for cost with non-family, of course, but they place much more value on repeat business by way of good service. That is how they make their living, whereas the big stores can get by on one-time customers because they have all the advertising funds backing them up. 

Post # 18
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I LOVE my Tacori ring.  I would have waited longer for it if I’d had to.  But I also agree with cinemaparadiso- they sell the ring setting with a CZ for the middle stone and you need to buy the diamond separatly.  So you could just keep the CZ until he can afford to buy you the center stone later.  Probably no one would ever know!

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I second the going to find a jeweler who can do the same thing for less. There are certain things I’ll buy the name on, purses and shirts, for example. It’s really not that important when it looks the same and just as stunning, plus you’d get to have it while he was gone!

Post # 20
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Ooooo I soooo have been in your shoes. We talked about getting engaged before he left for Iraq, but he said he couldn’t afford a ring, but if i waited until his R&R, he’d get me whatever I wanted.

Buah ha, I waited and got a wad o sparkle. And i love it. I wanted to be engaged, too, but I thought about it and said, “what’s 6 more months?” and everyone knew we were going to get engaged

You could easily have a jeweler make you something that looks like Tacori without the name. Tacori’s not cheap, in addition to a center stone. But, he’s tax-free while deployed, which means lots of savings. I think the ring you picked out could easily be duplicated for less money =].

Post # 22
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

It’s the best attitude to have. I tried to get him to propose before he left (i felt like it was selfish that after 3 years of dating he couldn’t propose before he got deployed) but he felt like it wasn’t right to tease me with a ring and then run off and leave me for 8 months! So, he had a valid reason. We actually decided, togther, to get engaged on his R&R. Deployments don’t make for a lot of surprising moments in general when you’re waiting and putting your life on hold for him. But, 2 months into his deployment he was lamenting how i was right and he wished he’d propose b/c i wouldn’t talk wedding or future with him since he hadn’t proposed =]. I was like “no, i’m still your girlfriend, sorry” haha. I did get him a nice ring when he got deployed that he wore for awhile, then started keeping in his jacket pocket b/c he hated the “no we aren’t married….no, we aren’t engaged….” topic. I think he felt embarassed he didn’t “man up” and propose. BUT, it was totally worth waiting, in hindsight. It was 8 more months, and I got really quite a large, nice ring. I figured i’d waited 3 years, i could wait a ltitle longer and secretly plan without the pressure and decide on everything beforehand. Plus, i had all the time in the world to figure out what ring i wanted. That was sorta the stipulation, too–if he gave me 8 months of alone time, I would liekly stare at so many ring sites i’d find “the one” and then what? He said he just wanted me to like it and be happy so he’d get me whatever i wanted. It is SOoooooo hard to wait when they’re getting deployed. BUt, take it one day at a time. He spent 15 months overseas and I think it did a lot of good for our relationship. If i was a weak woman, I think we would have fallen apart. So you have to be strong =]. PM me someitme and we’ll talk some more. I found that I needed a lot of support for the first couple of months (i was also only 22!) and then i reachede this whole “i can whine and moan and complain or i can be a big girl and move on with my life and enjoy what i have” and i chose the latter philosophy. It went by pretty fast. I got used to no dates on Fridays and I got really close with all my girlfriends. We had email and videocam and a phone call once a week and I got a lot of “myself” figured out in that time. It was a good experience, all in all. =]

Post # 24
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401 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

To be completely honest, i dont even know what Tacori is… except from Wedding Bee of course…

Consensus seems to say the same as me: I would skip the brand name and get a better quality ring! Just copy the design ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 25
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833 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

aww glad to hear it, futureb! I’m glad you talked price options. That’s really important and we did SO MUCH price comparison! My ring is beautiful and it’s what I wanted, and we found the best deal on it! It felt great at the end ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 26
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59 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I told my fiance that I wanted a Tacori ring (any Tacori ring!).  I got it.  I’ve seen several rings that are similar to my ring, and wish he saved money on a non-name brand, in exchange for spending more on a larger diamond.  Don’t get me wrong, I love the ring and I think it’s perfect, but I love diamonds and just wish the center stone was bigger. 

Don’t settle… Try to make the jeweler work with you!  They’re probably going through hard times right now, so ask for a discount… Or say exactly what you want for whatever price you’re willing to pay.  If they’re not willing to work with you, then walk out (or at least pretend), and say you’re going to visit other jewelers to get a ring in your price range.

Post # 28
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

ohhh it’s soo pretty!!! i understand why you wanted the real thing and i’m glad that you’ll be able to get it!!!

Post # 30
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

So pretty! I was that way about Ritani rings, but we ended up getting mine from a shop that didn’t carry them. And when I tried on my (non-designer) oval halo, I didn’t want to take it off… Ritani be damned! ๐Ÿ˜‰

Ultimately when you find what you love, it’s hard to have sense talked into you. ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 31
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

My (now) husband chose a Tacori ring for me adn I love it.  He got it at a small local jeweler and I know he got a better price than others were quoting online. 

Just a thought – you dont need a ring to be engaged.

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