(Closed) Ring Dilemna, advice please?

posted 9 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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398 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

It is not uncommon for women to "upgrade" their ring.  I think it is neat that you will be inheriting a diamond that might work for your ring.  You can always use the first stone as a necklace or for earings etc.

Another option I originally thought of was to change your side emeralds. Your post makes it sound like they do stick over the band, I am not sure if this is correct or not. It is likely much cheaper to replace emeralds then it is diamonds. 

Last but not least you can always change your setting.  Use the metal for his wedding band.

As far as in the short run, all you can do is talk to your Fiance about it and see what you both feel comfortable doing. 

Good Luck!

Post # 5
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7082 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

Do you have a photo?  It might be easier to come up with suggestions if we could see what it looks like.

Post # 7
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7082 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

What about rotating the emeralds so that they go long-ways around the band instead of perpendicular?  Otherwise, it looks like your options are to upsize the diamond (and deal with all of your conflicting feelings about that) or to get used to it the way it is (which seems like you’ve sort of been there and tried that). 

Only you know what is right for you.  I don’t think it is weird to upsize and a lot of people do it… it just depends on whether that is more important than other considerations (like wearing the diamond he proposed with, cost, round heirloom diamond).

Let us know what you decide.

Post # 8
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337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I think that’s pretty! I would shy away from going bigger on the center stone, as that just seems huge to me, but I think you should talk to your Fiance and see what he thinks… boys learn a surprising amount about diamonds during their whole selection process…

Post # 9
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699 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I can see how the side stones take away from your center stone. Could you possibly turn the side stones and lower them in the setting a bit? This may help. I know you love the setting so maybe that’s not the solution.

Talk to your Fiance and see what he says. It seems that a bigger center stone is the only thing you want to do at this point. See if you can find a jewler to work with to "upgrade" the stone with. Or you can wait to replace it with the family stone.

Also, you could wait the 4 1/2 months till your wedding to see how it looks/feels everyday with the wedding band.

Let us know what you end up doing!

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Pretty style! It’s funny you posted this, sometimes I wonder if my center stone is "upstaged" by its setting, too. I have a cushion flanked with baguettes so I can imagine where you are coming from. It gives a nice shine to sparkle ratio

It sounds like you’ve already waited it out, but I like the idea of waiting to see how it all "comes together" with your wedding band. You may be pleasantly surprised. Plus, with a wedding band, your center stone wouldn’t necessarily be wider than the whole set. Maybe lightly break the news to your Fiance that your family’s stone is so pretty, what will you do with it? You don’t really want another diamond that is flashier than your engagement ring. Or so I’ve been advised. I personally wouldn’t want a right hand ring (or necklace) to upstage my wedding set. See if he’s OK with you setting your own stone in a necklace. To me, you’d still HAVE the stone he proposed with, so there’s no loss in sentimentality. And if people comment about the sizeable new stone, just comment it was a family heirloom and you wanted to incorporate it into your life. Good luck! 

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