- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
I’m sorry 😂
I’m sorry 😂
Im absolutely dying. Now, everytime this “debate” comes up, I’ll think of spanx. Thank you bees.
My ring is a citrine and I get that reaction. I think people think, it’s a citrine so it’s cheap but I feel myself always having to justify that natural citrine is actually quite rare and the 95% of the citrine in the market is fake (heat treated amethyst or smoky Quartz). However I am going to stop justifying it because people who judge can F off.
Over the years on weddingbee I’ve seen the same arguement many times over ‘passing off’ their stone as something else…
I just felt like stating that if I choose to tell people my stone is a sapphire or not depends on the whim of what I’m feeling at the moment. If I choose not to explain what my stone is or is not simply means I honestly do not care what other people think of my stone. I always find it odd some people think ‘sapphire people’ are covering up important information if they don’t spill all their ring stats.
If you want to give specs, go for it. It might help raise awareness that not all stones are diamonds or wannabee diamonds. If you dont? Great. Its nobodys business but your own. Some people might enjoy pointing out other peoples stupidity and ignorance, but that just isn’t my idea of a good time.
The fact that a few people actually answered this vote to say strangers deserve printed specs, is absolutely mind blowing to me.
So just to be clear I had wanted a blue saphire as my center stone. My fi surprised me with my lovely ering that is a diamond with two saphires next to it. totally unexpected, but I love it because he picked it out. I am not an elitist. I’m all for different and alternative erings. I am just also all for ppl being proud of their rings and not lying about it. Like I said previously, if someone just says I lvoe your ring! saying thank you is fine. But if someone misidentifies it, I see no reason why you wouldnt correct them out of pride and love for your ring. it takes two seconds and isnt awkard unless you let it be. More ppl would stop seeing diamonds as the end all be all of erings if more ppl were proud and nonchalant about what their rock is.
I love the bee because everyone can be vocal about their love of their rings and eachothers, I just wish ppl would do the same in the real world.
My rings are aquamarines, and so I only mention it when people comment on the pale blue. It can look almost clear in some light, and so they look, expecting a diamond, and then I can tell they are confused.
I wanna know where all these women are, who scream and make a huge fuss over someone else’s ring. Especially a stranger. There’s so many threads on here about ring judgment, ring shame, ring drama etc etc but I have never once in my life ever see a scene like that actually go down. Who does that kind of thing?
I have diamonds and not-diamonds. I don’t explain either because I’d get nothing else done. 🙂
Seriously though, if someone asks me specific questions about my not-diamond I happily tell them it’s a not-diamond. If they simply ask to see my ring and make whatever unstated assumption I let them see it. You can explain too much and come off as apologetic imo. I don’t find it necessary to apologize for my personal taste in jewelry. I wouldn’t let someone make a fool of themselves laboring under a false assumption so if I see it going in that direction I go ahead and have ‘the talk’. Just not with everyone, every time. It’s not necessary.
I really don’t care what the stone is on some random woman’s finger. I only want mine to be a diamond because *I* want a diamond because I like the poetry of it and that it has the hardest composition. I still think that blue sapphires are gorg, and that other clear stones can be beautiful with the right cut, and it doesn’t make me feel any different to mistake a CZ for a moissy or a diamond. I don’t think any less of women who choose other stones (and same goes for size). If a ring is pretty, it’s pretty, end of story.
I’ve been judged because my stone is less than one carat, but I don’t care because I wouldn’t want it any other way. I love my ring and out of sheer excitement I give out Too Much Information and the “it’s not a big diamond” or the “it’s not Tiffany’s or Cartier” looks don’t matter AT ALL to me.
However, from all this debate, I get the feeling that many women see other stones as inferior? I personally would like to be corrected if I’m mistaking z for y, because I genuinely appreciate all gems and would like to know. I understand how it can be nosy, but it’s not coming from a place of judgement. Either way, I’ve learnt it’s best not to ask. I just feel that if someone was proud of their ring they wouldn’t hide what it was or get too defensive about it. Then I also understand that it could get tiring to explain what a moissanite is (I didn’t know before I weddingbee!) In the end what matters is the person who gave it to you, and the stone is trivial.
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