Post # 1
I’m very new to this site (I got engaged yesterday). I am SO excited to be engaged to my boyfriend. We have been together for three years and through so much. We just got the news that he is 2 years cancer free and our lives couldn’t be better.
The engagement was a surprise while we were on vacation at one of our favorite places in the desert. He somehow knew that my favorite company for rings we Catbird and picked a really pretty ring from there. The only thing is he accidentally got a wedding band and it’s kind of throwing me off.
I’m a very un materialistic person so I feel terrible about myself for even feeling disappointed, but I’m not sure what to do. They have a 10 day return policy and my fiancé mentioned that after he gave me the ring because we have to send it back to get resized anyways, but I just don’t have the heart to tell him I’d prefer something a little different because everything about this engagement was so sweet, special, and thoughtful.
I’m also not sure how to upload a photo but it’s the Snow Queen ring from Catbird.
Post # 2
I adore that ring! But if you aren’t happy with it you should say something. He told you they have the return policy and I’m sure he just wants you to be happy. Yes, the conversation is a little awkward to start but if you are going to marry him it’s just a small test in being able to have uncomfortable conversations. Trust me, this won’t be the last one!
Post # 3
Ooh, lovely ring! Is it possible he couldn’t afford the engagement rings from there and decided to compromise by getting a wedding band from there?
Post # 4
oh man I would be JAZZED if that was my wedding ring…It’s so so gorgeous. If it’s not your taste though just be honest with him….just be gentle 😊 congratulations bee!
Post # 5
Ohh I’ve never heard of Catbird, what beautiful dainty rings! Yours is beautiful but if you aren’t happy I’d say something. Could you possibly keep it, and do things a little backwards and get an engagement type ring later when you’d be getting a wedding band? Not sure if that’s an option, just a thought!
Post # 6
First of all congrats on your fiancé being cancer free! I love hearing good news!
and congrats on your engagement! I looked at the ring and it’s beautiful! Maybe tell him that you love it, but you’d prefer to keep that as your wedding band and maybe you could pick something together as your engagement ring? If you like it maybe he’d be happy knowing you want to keep it as your ring for your special day and it’s one less thing to worry about later.
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2020 - Hampton, VA
I 2nd this because then you won’t lose the sentimental value of your ring now. Although, this idea goes off of whether it’s in the budget for a 2nd ring so close to the first.
Post # 8
This is exactly what I was thinking. Pass it off as wanting to be different or something and have your ring at the wedding be engagement-style. Especially since the band you have is so beautiful! But if you have your heart set on the traditional way, you could also ask him to shop with you for an engagement ring and maybe hold onto that one for the ceremony.
Post # 9
totally agree with your idea! That’s exactly what I was thinking.
You could even pick out an engagement ring with him and save the Snow Queen as the wedding band. It’s a gorgeous ring and he’ll be glad that you love it but I don’t think his feelings would be hurt if you gently said “I adore this ring babe, and I can’t wait to wear it but I think it’s actually a wedding band. Can we save it and look for a engagement ring to wear until our big day when I get to put this beauty on?”
Post # 10
I agree with going backwards here. Just get an engagement ring for the wedding instead if you really want one. I know a few friends who have gotten engaged with flat wedding bands, like your totally drool-worthy ring, because they’re very active or have a job that isn’t well suited for a tall band.
Also, the engagement rings on that site are on the pricy side, I agree with an above poster – could he have wanted to get you the brand you wanted, but not have been able to afford the particular ring you wanted just yet?
Congrats on all the awesomeness going on in your life right now, and congratulations to your fiancé for beating cancer! Sounds like with or without a specific engagement ring you should be a very happy lady right now!
Post # 11
That ring is stunning.
It is an engagement ring, because he asked for your hand in marraige with it.
I agree with the others, you can do it a little backwards and get an engagement ring as your wedding ring. But only if you want to keep the band you were given for your engagement. If you dont like it, then by all means, say something.
Post # 12
oh I thought he’d bought the wedding ring at the same time as your engagement ring…sorry bee. In that case I second everything the other bees say. Do it backwards. That ring really is stunning!
Post # 13
gorgeous! Oh and congrats!
Just do it in reverse order. Wear this as your engagement ring and buy a more traditional engagement ring style for your wedding band. The other option is to get a ring you like and use this as your wedding band. That way you never lose the sentimental side of the ring/proposal.
Lucky you that ring is glorious and you are going to have a hard time picking a matching ring because so many of catbirds rings go beautifully with the snow queen.
Post # 14
I had the same idea as newbee592. Could you keep the ring to be your wedding band, and pick out an engagement ring that fits with it?
Post # 15
The ring is super pretty. I like the idea of keeping it as a wedding band. Have a talk with him and express your feelings.