Ring envy?!?! Anyone else gone through it??

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I felt it when I first got married. I got a very inexpensive CZ ring because it was all we could afford. I didn’t even care or think about it until I saw my ex roommate’s engagement ring when we went out to dinner after announcing our engagements. She had received a seriously breathtaking solitaire. It was massive. I think my “ring envy” was more that she was marrying a man who is really well off, she’d just gotten a really big deal job, she was looking at houses. Her life felt leaps and bounds ahead of mine at the time, even though we used to live and party together. I kind of felt like her life was so much more grown up than mine because she had way more money!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@couawilou:

Yes! Your ring couawilou!

For me, I feel like my solitaire is a bit big, 0.75 carat equivalent. I know it’s not that big, but it feels like it in my area. What I would love, is for my ring to be more unique. I’d love a twist/braid/swirl design.
Your ring gives me serious envy…

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

I get ring envy so badly. I get really low about the fact that I know next to nothing about my stone when everyone else is spouting off their precise measurements, colour, cut and clarity. I know next to nothing.

Post # 7
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704 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Briefly. I have a tiny, 1/4 ct marquise solitaire and I loved it (and still do) but my boss kept saying it was too small, that everyone would see it and think he didn’t love me much, and she kept telling Fiance and I every day to get Fiance to buy a bigger diamond later.

After a while I did have a few occasions where I saw more elaborate rings and wasn’t so proud of my simple one. But only a few times. She managed to get to Fiance, too, because a couple of times recently, he asked if i wanted a bigger diamond and if I wanted him to change it. I very firmly went “No! I love this ring and we’re not changing it! It’s mine!”

 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Yep..definitely got it when I first got my ring and started seeing all the other rings out there. Especially on WB where everyone’s rings are gorgeous!!

You can’t help it, now and again you will feel a twinge of that blasted ring envy. But then you remember that Fiance spent his time and energy looking for this ring, then you will be reminded that it means a lot to the both of you.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

oh yeah, totally! my favorite set is LittleAudrey’s. I was so in love with her moissanite wedding band! I ordered one for myself and it was so big it overwhelmed my e-ring, so I had to return it. so sad.  I can’t help but go back and look at the pictures of LittleAudrey’s set over and over again. so pretty. 

maybe I’ll buy one as a RHR one day. 

 

Post # 11
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853 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Absolutely! I think it’s totally normal. I wish I didn’t get ring envy but i, and a lot of other people do. It doesn’t mean you don’t love your ring or the person who gave it to you.  I feel envy when I see 2 carat ginormous rings or really intricate designs. 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@SpecialSundae:  I have the card from my diamond before it was set in my ring.  The only thing I bothered to actually learn about the diamond was the size and the shape.  I couldn’t tell you the color or clarity off the top of my head if my life depended on it.

The only time I really felt ring envy was when other people had one, and I still didn’t.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I have as well.  And what I’m kind of ashamed of is that I walked into the jewelry store and picked my ering out, then went home and told Darling Husband I had found the ring I wanted and he bought it.  I had no right to be envious when I had picked out my own ering! But, right after I got engaged 2 ladies at work got engaged and got big huge rocks.  I have always felt mine is prettier because of the design but their stones were definitely bigger and got more attention.  A friend got engaged a few months after me and hers is so blingy!  Mine is not blingy.  I’ve looked at rings online and in stores since receiving my ering and though there are rings that are bigger and blingier I ALWAYS come to realize that I still like my ring better than everything else I see.  It suits MY taste and MY style which is evidently why I picked it in the first place.  

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Most of my ring envy disapated after getting married. HOWEVER everytime my sister-in-law visits it rears it’s ugly head again. My e-ring is a 1/2 carat total weight 3 stone princess cut (the center stone being .25 carat) so it seems to just blend in with the rest of the band and the wedding band. Hers is a 1/2 carat (or maybe .75) round solitaire with a thin yellow gold band. It sparkles beautifully and really stands out against the yellow gold. It is stunning, but I always try to picture myself wearing her ring set and can’t do it. It just isn’t my style.

Post # 15
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879 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Nah, I never hsve.  My ring is 0.6 Ct.  And itz not a solitare, it has 4 stones set together to look like one larger square stone, and then lots of smaller stones set around that in a square shape.

Its not huge and in your face.  I think its perfect.  but then I also told my Fiance that I did not want a house deposit, or a car sitting on my finger.

In the end we picked the ring together, and everytime I look at it it makes me smile.  I think thats all that counts. 

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@SpecialSundae: You should have it appraised for insurance! I love knowing all about my jewelry.

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