(Closed) Ring envy

posted 10 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Helper bee

That’s a toughie.  Could it be that your prongs are more raised?  I hear that platinum turns grey after some time too.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

platinum scratches easy and white gold can be re-rhodiumed to look like new!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009 - Ceremony: The Kraine Theatre, Reception: Midtown Loft & Terrace

They look pretty much the same to me

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I thought it was the same ring from 2 different angles.  I would keep the ring you have.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

White gold does wear over time and the rhodium coating rubs off to reveal the yellow gold underneath (because white gold is jsut yellow gold with a coating over the top of it). But like vistagirl said, it can be resurfaced to be made white again.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

Personally, I think the two look nearly identical.  But you are the one who will wear it for the rest of her life – so you should be happy with every part of it.  If you want to reset it in platinum, go for it.  Atleast it would stilll be the same diamond that he proposed with…right? Do you just prefer the setting or the fact that it is platinum?  I suppose it doesn’t really matter, because either could be changed.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

The designs are similar enough that I don’t think an exchange is warrented, but of course, you’re the one wearing it. 

Do you already have your wedding band picked out?  That’s something to take into consideration as well.  Platinum is typically a good bit more expensive than gold and you’ll probably want a band in the same metal as your engagement ring.  So that would be an additional expense.  I’ve also heard that platinum also ages over time but I don’t know of anything you can do for that. 

My band is rhodium plated gold and yes, it has worn off a bit but the only place that has happened is underneath.  You can’t tell just by looking at it.  Besides, it’s $60 to get it replated and then it will look as good as new. 

I vote for keeping the ring he gave you.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I changed my setting so I say if it’s something you want to do, do it. I liked the setting my fiance picked out and it was what I said I wanted (it was a thin band, which I requested) but what I didn’t like about it was that the inside corners around the diamond (solitaire) went in really skinny as they got closer toward the stone. It was pretty but when we went to look at bands, nothing laid flat against it. We were also planning on doing diamonds all around my wedding band and it didn’t look right up against the plain band, especially because of the indents toward the stone. (I know it’s kind of hard to picture). My fiance told me he didn’t love the band either but it was the thinnest they had and he knew I wanted that so he’d gone with that one. So, they designed me a matching band (setting) and wedding band that are the exact same size, fit up right against each other, and both have tiny diamonds around them. 

I was a little sad it wasn’t the "ring" he proposed with, but it was the stone he’d spent hours picking out, and they just switched the stone anyway. So it technically IS the same. And it looks way better, and I’m a LOT happier with it.  Moral of the story is change it if it’s something you want to do, IMO. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Bean, your ring is just like mine!

I always thought I wanted plantinum, but that metal dulls over time, so I think the white gold is the way to go.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I do have a picture of it but I don’t think you can tell cuz it’s not close up enough. I will look tonight or tomorrow and see if I can find one where you can tell. If I were you, I would return the ring while you can. I know it’s a sentimental thing but it shouldn’t only be about the ring, it’s what the ring symbolizes, not it itself. If it’s a concern of yours, change it. My first one also stuck up a lot more than this one does (just like your pics) and I requested this setting to be further down, and now I’m more comfortable with it. 

Both the original setting and my new one are platinum and I’ve been very happy with it. I like that I don’t have to get it dipped once a year to keep it from yellowing. I have a white gold ring my parents gave me that I often have to get dipped and it’s quite honestly a pain.  If you’re not the type that minds that, then it’s not a big deal, but I guess I’m lazy. I’d rather spend more money now than have to be taking the time and money to do that for the rest of my life. 

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

hi there!  coming from a family of jewelers, here’s my advice.  any good quality jewelry can redesign your ring, which means you can change the setting any time.  white gold versus platnium is based on preference.  platnium is a higher quality and despite what people say about it scatching easily, yes, it’s true but platnium is also the only medal that can be polished out without losing the weight of the metal. hope this helps!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

Frankly I can’t tell the difference between the two you posted!

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