(Closed) Ring envy

posted 13 years ago in Rings
Post # 17
1485 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I think it’s completely a matter of personal preference.  If you really like the look of the platinum better, maybe you should upgrade.  IMO, platinum and white gold look completely different, and I actually like the look of white gold better – it’s whiter, for one (platinum is a little grey) and I like the mirror finish of the rhodium plating better than the look of the platinum, which even shined up is more of a satiny finish. 

On the issue of white gold changing color, that is mostly a problem if your ring was never plated correctly in the first place.  If the rhodium plating is the correct thickness, it should wear for years without looking yellow.  And you can have it replated whenever you like – I take ours in about every 6 months to be steam-cleaned and replated.  My jeweler charges me $70 for all three rings (my e-ring, my wedding ring, and his wedding ring), but maybe that’s because we had him design and make all three rings.  And they look brand-new afterwards.  (I take them in pretty often just because they do get a little scuffed looking – nothing you can do about that – and because we like them shiny!!)

I have a girlfriend who is pretty superior about her platinum "upgrade" – which made me wonder for a while if we should have platinum too.  There is some idea that it’s somehow "better."  I don’t really think that’s true – unless you just think that more expensive is better.  I would honestly just go with what you like best.

Post # 18
499 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Ok, the pics of my ring are not close up enough to show you whats I’m talking about so I found some online. The plain band that goes in in the middle is basically what mine was like. The second pic is what it’s like now, with the band matching what my wedding band will be. I didn’t think it would look right to have that kind of band up against the band that indented. Plus a little more bling didn’t hurt! My fiance was all for it, so like i said I didn’t feel that bad. I still think you should change if you want. If you’re still early enough in your engagement that you can return it, eventually you won’t even think about it b/c it’s still the ring you had during your engagement. And if your FH thinks it looks the same anyway, then it’s basically the same as what he picked out, but in platinum! And lower, like you want. Go for it if you think you’ll always wish you did- better now than later. 

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Post # 19
499 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Sorry that first pic is so large- no idea why! 

Post # 21
48 posts
  • Wedding: June 2010

Platinum is not dull, and it will never change color. I personally think the look is luxurious and not that different from white gold. Most people can’t tell the difference. However, white gold depending on your skin chemicals can change color to yellow as quick as weeks or as long as years. I chose platinum because I never wanted to have to get it rhodium plated. Forget about my Fiance having to do that for his w-band – not gonna happen every 6 months or a year (as experts have told me). And as far as the "scratching" on platinum. That can easily be polished out.

The other issue is changing the ring your Fiance gave you. I’d probably check with him first so as not to hurt his feelings since best to take advantage of the refund policy.

Post # 23
35 posts
  • Wedding: October 2021

I was told straight from a jeweler that platinum does permanently change color over time…considering the ridiculous cost of platinum over white gold, why would they have told me that. I don’t think anyone would be able to tell the difference unless they were holding your ring in their hands and could feel the weight of platinum. I’d say as long as your’re open with your fiance about it and he’s understanding, do whatever makes you happiest.

Post # 24
3952 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I also come from believing that platinum vs. white gold is a preference, but I’m a platinum girl all the way having had one prior. I can say the patina of platinum gets more lovely over time.

I have a white gold ring and I just simply am not as fond of it as I was my platinum band (from my x).  I’m going with platinum again.

Again, there is no right or wrong.  Platinum is stronger, and it simply is my preference.  

Post # 25
266 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think you are obsessing over nothing. Keep the ring he gave  you, there’s not a big enough difference to be worth exchanging the original. And it’s so much more sentimental!

Post # 26
8375 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

It looks the same!! I honestly cannot tell. FYI, platinum changes color and loses its luster. Like, within months. My FI’s sister has platinum and it looks dull. It needs to be professionally buffed in order to maintain that gorgeous polish! White gold DOES lose its color over time (years…) but can easily be replated and then looks brand new!

But it depends on your preference if you want platinum or white gold. I prefer white gold, but that is just me! 

If you want to keep the ring you have, the setting can be lowered. 

Post # 27
226 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Platinum gets that beautiful patina over time, I personally love it! I’m not into the shiny white gold thing so I got a setting that hides most of the metal.

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