Post # 16
- Wedding: September 2010 - Casa Real at Ruby Hill Winery
Haha. The main difference is the metals (one is white gold, one is platinum), as well as my ring has the diamond a bit higher (prongs are slightly closer together) and the sides don’t taper up in my ring (see how Ring #2 has the metal tapering up a little towards the diamond?). But yeah, same reaction that FH had.
Post # 17
I think it’s completely a matter of personal preference. If you really like the look of the platinum better, maybe you should upgrade. IMO, platinum and white gold look completely different, and I actually like the look of white gold better – it’s whiter, for one (platinum is a little grey) and I like the mirror finish of the rhodium plating better than the look of the platinum, which even shined up is more of a satiny finish.
On the issue of white gold changing color, that is mostly a problem if your ring was never plated correctly in the first place. If the rhodium plating is the correct thickness, it should wear for years without looking yellow. And you can have it replated whenever you like – I take ours in about every 6 months to be steam-cleaned and replated. My jeweler charges me $70 for all three rings (my e-ring, my wedding ring, and his wedding ring), but maybe that’s because we had him design and make all three rings. And they look brand-new afterwards. (I take them in pretty often just because they do get a little scuffed looking – nothing you can do about that – and because we like them shiny!!)
I have a girlfriend who is pretty superior about her platinum "upgrade" – which made me wonder for a while if we should have platinum too. There is some idea that it’s somehow "better." I don’t really think that’s true – unless you just think that more expensive is better. I would honestly just go with what you like best.
Post # 18
Ok, the pics of my ring are not close up enough to show you whats I’m talking about so I found some online. The plain band that goes in in the middle is basically what mine was like. The second pic is what it’s like now, with the band matching what my wedding band will be. I didn’t think it would look right to have that kind of band up against the band that indented. Plus a little more bling didn’t hurt! My fiance was all for it, so like i said I didn’t feel that bad. I still think you should change if you want. If you’re still early enough in your engagement that you can return it, eventually you won’t even think about it b/c it’s still the ring you had during your engagement. And if your FH thinks it looks the same anyway, then it’s basically the same as what he picked out, but in platinum! And lower, like you want. Go for it if you think you’ll always wish you did- better now than later.
Post # 19
Sorry that first pic is so large- no idea why!
Post # 21
Platinum is not dull, and it will never change color. I personally think the look is luxurious and not that different from white gold. Most people can’t tell the difference. However, white gold depending on your skin chemicals can change color to yellow as quick as weeks or as long as years. I chose platinum because I never wanted to have to get it rhodium plated. Forget about my Fiance having to do that for his w-band – not gonna happen every 6 months or a year (as experts have told me). And as far as the "scratching" on platinum. That can easily be polished out.
The other issue is changing the ring your Fiance gave you. I’d probably check with him first so as not to hurt his feelings since best to take advantage of the refund policy.
Post # 22
- Wedding: September 2010 - Casa Real at Ruby Hill Winery
So I think what I am going to end up doing, if anything, is to get a platinum band custom made for my the stone he proposed with. That way I will keep the sentimental part (at least some of it) and still fix the things that bother me (it sticking up too high, the metal). However, I am not even sure if I want to change it anymore, so I might just stick with it. I have talked to my Fiance about it and he is ok with whatever I decide, he just wants me to be happy with it. He does prefer keeping the original stone as opposed to exchanging the whole thing.
Post # 23
I was told straight from a jeweler that platinum does permanently change color over time…considering the ridiculous cost of platinum over white gold, why would they have told me that. I don’t think anyone would be able to tell the difference unless they were holding your ring in their hands and could feel the weight of platinum. I’d say as long as your’re open with your fiance about it and he’s understanding, do whatever makes you happiest.
Post # 24
I also come from believing that platinum vs. white gold is a preference, but I’m a platinum girl all the way having had one prior. I can say the patina of platinum gets more lovely over time.
I have a white gold ring and I just simply am not as fond of it as I was my platinum band (from my x). I’m going with platinum again.
Again, there is no right or wrong. Platinum is stronger, and it simply is my preference.
Post # 25
I think you are obsessing over nothing. Keep the ring he gave you, there’s not a big enough difference to be worth exchanging the original. And it’s so much more sentimental!
Post # 26
It looks the same!! I honestly cannot tell. FYI, platinum changes color and loses its luster. Like, within months. My FI’s sister has platinum and it looks dull. It needs to be professionally buffed in order to maintain that gorgeous polish! White gold DOES lose its color over time (years…) but can easily be replated and then looks brand new!
But it depends on your preference if you want platinum or white gold. I prefer white gold, but that is just me!
If you want to keep the ring you have, the setting can be lowered.
Post # 27
Platinum gets that beautiful patina over time, I personally love it! I’m not into the shiny white gold thing so I got a setting that hides most of the metal.