(Closed) Ring for a small fingered lady (.5ct on a 3.5 finger)

posted 4 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
272 posts
Helper bee

I think go the IF, I’m personally for quality over quantity. I have a 0.46ct E colour VVS2 princess cut diamond from blue nile, and I am a size 6.25. Being a 3.5 your gf has super small fingers so it will look rather big in my opinion. Here’s a photo of my ring. 

Post # 3
4056 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’d go with the .5 with better quality too.

Post # 4
10596 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

I think either diamond would look great! I also am very petite and have a size 3.5 finger too..I have a .83 carat princess cut diamond in a halo..although without the halo I think it would still be plenty big enough for me..princess cuts tend to face up smaller than rounds so its actually about the same size in millimeters as a .60-.70ish round diamond. You should get the better quality diamond since i doubt the size difference is that noticeable between the two and better quality means more sparkle and will appear larger!.. Heres mine for reference

Post # 5
857 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

You won’t be able to see flaws in the bigger diamond and it’s still really good quality! I’d go bigger! I’m a 4.25 and I would love a bigger stone

Post # 6
6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’m a 3.25 ring size and have a 2 ct diamond and I agree with PP’s (and you) that a .5 will look just beautiful! I love my ring and it meant so much to my Darling Husband that he got me this size, but honestly if I could go back I would definitely convince him to go smaller. There are so many more cool things you can do with the setting and wedding band with a smaller stone and I think it’s so much more dainty and feminine.

Post # 7
274 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

.5 is the perfect and most practical diamond size in my opinion. Especially for such small hands! Im sure it will look lovely and elegant on her hand.

Honestly, You won’t really see a difference between the 2 diamonds you’re looking at in either quality or size so I say go with whichever one has a better price and feels right. 


Good luck! And congratulations! 

Post # 8
878 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Spoonboy81:  I would go with the bigger diamond. You are not going to be able to see any inclusions in either diamond, so I think going with IF is a bit of a waste. Both are near colourless and excellent cut, so why not go a bit higher in carat? A .65 carat diamond will definitely look beautiful and elegant on her hand. I promise you, it will not look gaudy. Good luck!

Post # 9
2351 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would def go with the larger stone over the IF.

Post # 11
465 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I also have small hands (3.75 when I got married, a bit bigger now after two babies =)  ). I loved my 1.5 carat stone on my 3.75 hand. Have you talked to her about size? I think that everyone is very different in the size stone that they feel good in, so I would definitely get her thoughts on it before you commit to a smaller stone. Between the two stones you are looking at, quality will definitely be the same to the naked eye, so if it were me I would go for the larger stone.

Post # 12
97 posts
Worker bee

I would get the .50/IF. I think there is something special about a flawless diamond. I have a .46/E/VS2 on a size 4 and it’s plenty big. 

Post # 13
878 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Spoonboy81:  Yes, true… and I’m sure that you, as the proud fiance, will make sure family and close friends know that the diamond is IF. But generally, I can’t imagine your fiancee will be walking around informing people about that. That being said, you should ultimately go with what you and your fiance will be most happy with.

Post # 14
357 posts
Helper bee

IMO, unless you are at a time in your life where money is truly no object, there is no reason to have an IF stone.  I mean, sure, there are “bragging rights…” but is she going to walk around telling people her diamond is internally flawless?  I highly doubt that, haha! 

I was looking at a diamond store yesterday, and I had a kind of funny conversation with the saleslady.  She talked about how the day before, she had a lady come in with a 1ct IF diamond.  She said she had to test it to make sure it was actually a real diamond!  She said to me, “It’s just funny… You spend 20k on a stone, only to have people worry it isn’t actually real! I thought it might have been a CZ.”  

Of course, an IF diamond is pretty dang cool.  Like I said, if money is no object, go for it!  Otherwise, I just don’t think it is the most important “C” to focus on.  But we all have different priorities.  And, unless the stone is a large size, it is going to be extremely hard to tell the difference between an IF, F, VVS1, VVS2, VS1, or probably even VS2 diamond.  

You obviously want a quality diamond and not something that is clearly flawed to the naked eye.  However, from what I’ve seen, you are perfectly safe going with VS2 or even SI1.

I’d rather have a ring that is unique overall, not just a small stone that is flawless in itself.  Plus, like I said… In small stones, it is much harder to see flaws in the first place.

I would talk to her about size. Not all women with tiny hands want tiny rings. Many women appreciate a nice amount of finger coverage.  Not all do, of course… but some do!  I don’t think that, say, a 1ct stone could ever look “gaudy.”  To me, it is a beautiful size that would look great on any hand.  And lucky for her, a 1 ct will look even more sizable on her fingers than it would on those with larger fingers!

You get used to whatever you wear. I’d specifically talk to her about what she finds gaudy before you buy her a IF 0.5 ct stone.  The clarity might not be the “C” she is wanting you to really focus on.  🙂  

Of course, these are just my personal musings.  I’d just try to find out from her how she feels! 😀


Another small-fingered lady (size 4.25) 

Post # 15
2837 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013


Spoonboy81:  This is .50 carats. Bezel set.  VVS1, XXX, J color, size 6 finger

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