Post # 1
Not sure if this would be the right forums to post in.
But i’m looking for a ring to get my girlfriend for our 2nd anniversary. We’re not getting engaged yet.
I personally don’t know much about rings. So I went into a shop and talked to a lady, she recommended getting https://wallacebishop.com.au/products/37SW188 Although not knowing until I got home that this was an actual bridal set with both an engagement ring and wedding ring.
So, i’m wondering how I can know the difference between engagement rings, wedding rings, dress rings etc.
What type of ring should I be getting her for a gift? Would the ring I bought, if I gave her the “engagement” rng, would it be okay if she wore it on another finger. Or would it be better to get another ring thats not like that. Is that an actual engagement type of ring as well?
I’d appreciate any help I can get right now.
Post # 2
That is a beautiful bridal set. I believe most engagement rings contain a main stone gem, usually diamond but any stone will do. Normally the wedding ring is a smooth band or as of late now fashionablly the bands have a small set of stones. Maybe go back and talk to the jewellery sales assistant to explain the difference between engagement and wedding rings.
You don’t want to over excit your girlfriend if you are just looking to get her a dress ring. A dress ring is just gem stones like you see advertised. Might I suggest if it is only a dress ring you are after and not an official engagement ring to get her a ring that is has a gem stone of her birth month.
Congrats on looking for a ring for your lovely girlfriend.
Post # 3
Thank you very much 🙂
So you’d definitely say the ring with the stone would be more towards engagement then a ring for a gift? i got told from the sales assistant at the jewllery shop it’d be a great gift, and she’d get two rings for the price. But as I mentioned, at the time didn’t think of them being a bridal set.
What would you call a ring that you’d give as a gift?
Post # 4
I would call it a gift and nothing more if there is no intention of it turing into an engagment.
However if you are thinking of one day proposing to her but not ready to do so but you want to do it.. Then the ring will be a “promise” ring because that means that one day there will be an engagement ring.
Post # 5
I would not buy that as a fashion ring, even for her right hand. Anything that looks like a typical engagement ring, i.e. a diamond imitation center stone with or without side stones, and certainly with a coordinating band is going to resemble a wedding set.
Personally I would not buy any ring at all at this stage, especially if your Girlfriend might be hoping for the real thing. How old are you?
A birthstone or colored gem can of course also be used as an engagement ring. Anything can be, but it’s probably less likely to be assumed. Fashion rings can also be all metal, large statement cocktail rings, etc.
A ring that you give as a gift is called a ring. On this forum some people like to refer to them as “right hand rings,” an expression that TBH I had never heard before or since in real life. As mentioned, a promise ring is something that some, usually very young, men give to convey a commitment before they are in a position to actually do so.
Post # 6
I agree with weddingmaven with regards to not getting a ring as a gift for a two year anniversary if here is a chance that she is hoping for a proposal. Maybe a lovely pendant or bracelet? If you have decided that it is definitely a ring you want to give her then IMO, go for one that does not resemble an engagement ring. Possibly a clustered semi precious or a turquoise, amber etc.
Post # 7
Agree with both PPs. That looks like an engagement ring and you don’t want to get her hopes up if you have no intention of proposing right now. I would avoid rings all together but if you must, don’t get one with a main center stone, and if you must, don’t choose one with a white stone
Post # 8
If this gift is neither intended to be an engagement ring nor a promise ring, you are going to let her down and complicate your relationship. Are you thinking this through? A pendant with her birth stone would be nice. But not a ring.
Post # 9
In My Humble Opinion…. no rings. Get her anything but a ring. Necklace, bracelet, earrings, whatever. Do NOT give that poor girl a ring on your anniversary and caveat with “this is not an engagement ring.” Awful.
Post # 10
DON’T BUY A RING
She would probably be on here after questioning why you got it for her with no intention especially after 2 years!
Post # 11
By what a lot of people are saying, it seems like it was a very bad choice to get her a ring.
I know she’s wanted a ring though for a while. Not an engagement ring, just a ring. Her ex gave her a ring with “Love” on it. She’ll know its not an engagement ring.
I’ve gotten her a necklace before. She doesn’t wear bracelets, and earrings she has talked to me about in the past as saying she doesn’t want any.
I know she wants a ring. Just a ring to go onto her right hand. I do understand with the ring I got her, it does indeed look like an engagement ring. I do want to go and replace it with a different style for sure.
I’m wanting to get a ring that is a promise ring as a gift. A promise that I will marry her one day when the time comes.
Post # 12
I agree this ring is not a good choice! I will say my now fiance got me a pearl ring for our one year anniversary but I was not expecting or ready for a proposal so I didn’t think twice and I told him I liked it so was kind of expecting it. If you think she may at all be expecting a proposal, avoiding a ring might be a bad idea.
If you do decide to go with a ring, Id check out Pandora. Another idea is her birthstone in a ring. (Or both of you birthstones- I don’t know if she would like that or not but I’ve always like the idea) I am including this because I’ve always thought these are cute and in the price range of the ring you posted
Post # 13
I just read your above post! Will this gift be a “promise ring”? Or just a nice gift of something she wants and likes?
Post # 14
This will be a nice gift she wants and likes. But it can also be a promise ring, as I do want to marry her.
She’s told me in the past she wants a ring to have on her finger. She goes on about her friends having rings from family and friends, and how she wants one for herself (but from me so its more meaningful). She knows I won’t be proposing, unless I get on my knees. I have no plans to do that, so She definitely won’t think its a proposal.
Post # 15
In the past she has sent me photos of what type of rings she likes.
Here are some other rings I have found that I think she might like: