Post # 77
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Blushing bee
i think my BF was upset that I did not want a more expensive ring. I am not engaged yet, but my BF asked me to pick out multiple rings for him to choose from so he will know what I like, but there will still be some element of surprise. I picked out 4 or 5 that I loved, and told him which one was my favorite. They ranged from $350 to $900.
He then told me, “no you don’t understand what I am saying. Don’t worry about price, i want you to show me what your dream ring is”. I showed him the same ring I showed him before and assured him that it was my dream ring. I can’t wait to see which one he picked!
Post # 78
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Worker bee
My ring and wedding band together was $850. I didn’t feel guilt at first because I was so excited to be engaged and to have an engagment ring. It was princess cut channel setting. The center stone had to be .25 carat, i’m sure. I knew that my husband didn’t have the money like that to go out and get me a nice ring. He admitted that he felt he should spend at least 2000 on my ring but I said don’t worry about it. As time went on, the diamond got smaller and smaller and just not as nice anymore. So 2 years later, we are upgrading. This ring is about $5500 and MUCH nicer and round cut which I think is better.
Post # 79
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Honey bee
if it had been a large diamond, I definitely would have had ring guilt. SO wanted to get me a natural sapphire, but I pushed for a lab created one partially because I prefer lab created stones and partially to avoid ring guilt. Now I do have ring guilt, but it’s less over the cost and more because I don’t wear my ring much.
Post # 80
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Sugar bee
- Wedding: July 2012 - Catholic Church
Mine was just over $1000 and that was a LOT of money to us at the time (more than a month of rent!). He refused to tell me for a long time how much it cost, then gave me a ballpark number after which I felt like I was wearing a fortune on my hand. I’ve never owned anything that cost this much and I still feel overwhelmed and a little guilty about it sometimes.
Post # 81
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Busy bee
I have no idea how much it was and I honestly get very upset when I think how much it is. I’m not a person that likes to wear expensive things (it makes me super uncomfortable and very aware of what I’m doing. Yes, I’ve broken things by trying to do things one handed) and it upsets me that he doesn’t know that about me. But on the flip side I know he wanted something that I could wear for the rest of my life with no problems. He also would never buy anything he couldn’t afford. He would rather spend the money to get something that he knows will be with me forever. I try and focus on that. And him.
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