Post # 1
Hello, new Bee here!!
I am not *officially* engaged yet, but bf and I have been heavily talking about it, and he’s in the process of getting My ring. I’m super excited and I decided on cushion cut halo style, but I’m second guessing it like mad. I have been rocking a little diamond promise ring for two years, but I’m chubby and in turn have chubby fingers. Like size nine chubby fingers. I’m so scared anything bigger than my current promise ring will look weird. I think I’m almost afraid of getting my ring because of my man hands.
is that just crazy, or is the whole e ring thing intimidating or a lot of women to begin with?
Post # 3
If its the right size I wouldn’t worry too much! Some people get muffin tops on their fingers because their rings are too Tight
Post # 4
The only issue I see with chubby fingers is trying to squeeze a too small ring onto your finger. I’m amazed at how frequently I see this.
I have some hand insecurities myself as I’ve been biting my nails for years and even after quitting, my nails always look icky. I work with my hands too so I can’t grow my nails. I feel like a dink with this beauitful ring on my ugly hands. I get it, but girl you deserve the ring of your dreams – man hands or no man hands! And remember, you’re your own worst critic!
Post # 5
Honestly, I totally get it. I have relatively small fingers but big wrinkly (IMO) joints. My ring is beautiful to me but relatively small when compared to the Ring boards here. Between all the factors, I just cant compete with most of these bees with their slender fingers & 1+ carat rings. (And beautiful maniures, might I add)
It’s intimidating so I stay out of there but I don’t know anyone IRL that makes me uncomfortable about my ring so… Overall I was happy with my ring when I got it, then came here & was dissapointed & finally came to terms with the fact that it’s mine & I wouldn’t change it for anything 🙂
Post # 6
Just don’t get it too tight! A lot of people seem to like their rings really snug (maybe they’re scared it will fall off?) and that’s why they have the ring love handles/muffin top. It shouldn’t really matter how big your fingers are as long as your ring is the right size 🙂
Post # 7
@babybo709: “is that just crazy”
Post # 8
Hi @babybo709: First off I see this is your Debut post on WBee… so a BIG Welcome to “the Hive”
And CONGRATULATIONS on your upcoming Engagement.
This is EXACTLY WHY every gal (or couple) should go out Ring Shopping… so as to see what actually suits them.
You wouldn’t buy a piece of clothing that you are going to wear forever… without trying it on would you ???
Nah, because we all look different in different things… those great pair of Jeans on your Sister Sally don’t look the same on you… it isn’t bad or wrong… it just is what it is.
GO TRY RINGS ON, and find out what you truly like / suits you. Cause without seeing things in person you’ll NEVER know. What you think you LOVE now / suits you, you might not like at all once you see it on !!
(Lots of topics here on WBee about Ring Disappointment, don’t be one of those gals a month from now. Be proactive. AND your guy will appreciate it too… knowing he got you something you BOTH can love)
Hope this helps,
PS… For the record ring size is only the Girth of your finger. In reality, how a ring looks on has a lot more to do with the length of your fingers / size of your hand. Particularly the distance from the base of your ring finger to the first knuckle. And when trying rings on, also take into consideration what you might want for a WBand (width) as well.
Post # 9
Omg, I totally relate. I have ugly hands that I spend most of the time trying to hide–especially now since I’m pregnant and can’t have acrylic to help keep them strong and looking somewhat decent. But like a PP said, we are our own worst critics. I bet 99.9% of people don’t even notice!
Post # 10
I have 8.75 size fingers, and I too think I have “man hands” but the boyfriend says I have tiny fingers (he has 20/20 vision supposedly).
For reference, here is my 6mm round (10mm inc. halo) sapphire on my 8.75 finger and I think it looks lovely 😀
Congratulations on your upcoming engagement, and don’t worry about your fingers – you’ll find something that works for you. x
Post # 11
@babybo709: You are definitely over thinking it. Get the right ring for your style and the right size, and it will look PERFECT! Where are you getting the ring from?
Post # 12
I wouldn’t worry. It all depends on how it feels comfort-wise. Some would say my e-ring is too tight because of the pudge, but it feels perfect for me so that’s what works! Do you prefer your rings with some spin or to be somwhat held in place? Just make sure you can give a precise size and you’ll be fine! 🙂
Post # 13
@MrsBee2B: what a gorgeous ring!
I hav tried on so many rings that I basically composed a list of rings that looked good for Ty boyfriend to choose since I believe it should be ultimately his decision. We are in college and can’t afford anything fancy, so it’s all stimulants or CZ in pretty settings. I personally want to save for more wedding things than pay for a real diamond or a platinum setting. *shrugs*
I really think that maybe I just need to get over the fact people will be looking at my hands and I just need to get over it lol
Post # 14
You know what, I always secretly hated the way my hands looked, but ever since FI put that very symbolic, very beautiful ring on my finger, I don’t hate the way my hands look anymore (yes the right hand looks a lot better to me too now, for some reason).
The meaning of the ring can really sort of transfer to your whole hand somehow, and make you see the beauty that was always there. It’s kind of like a little reminder. “HE loves it doesn’t he? Yup, the proof’s right there. Now, were you saying it was ugly? Yeah, didn’t think so!”
Post # 16
I feel like I have “fat” fingers at an 8 (jewelry consultant recommended wearing a half size down, but I don’t know). But, I actually want a BIGGER ring because of it, lol.