Post # 1
Out of the blue, my SO started talking about rings and diamonds (again) and asked for my opinion on simulated diamonds, Moissanite, different ring styles etc. I explained him the 4 C’s (seems he did some reading) and showed him a couple of rings I like.
The ring I have a crush on since last year was one of them and he picked that one out and asked: Is this what you like to have under the tree this year? He then asked for my ring size which I don’t know exactly so he suggested to go to the store one of these days.
I’m now wondering: is this ring going to be “A nice Christmas present” or is this one going to be my E-ring? We have discussed marriage before and decided it will happen one day but not in the very near future. We are together for over 2.5 years, living together for almost 2 and both over 40.
I realy want him to propose and I wouldn’t mind a longer engagement. How can I figure out what the ring will be: X-mas ring or Engagement Ring
Post # 3
Well, if he says “Will you marry me?” or some variation of that when giving you the ring, I’m going to assume it’s an engagement ring 🙂
Post # 4
Somebody posted a few weeks ago saying that her boyfriend told her that a man wants to hear “I would like to be engaged to you, I am ready”. It’s not naggy but it lets him know that you do want this to be “the” ring. Men can be dense. “Well, she said a year ago she didn’t think we should get married anytime soon, so I won’t propose for the next 10 years.”
I’m 40 as well and am waiting (hopefully Christmas!) for an engagement. I’ll also say that he’s given me 3 rings in the 2 years we’ve been together, including one heck of a sparkler for Christmas last year, but he’s made it clear each time they were heart gifts, not engagement rings.
I think you probably have the right to get excited. When a 40 year old man starts talking the 4Cs and choosing pictures of rings that resemble solitairs, they’d have to be pretty darn dense to not notice those are engagement ring signs they’d better not even go down that path unless he’s ready to make the leap of faith and follow through.
Post # 5
@tisposeroperche: OP if he asks then you know for sure like @babytoes: mentioned. Have you ever discussed marriages or timelines like @SomedaymrsWDS:? Sometimes it’s best to put it out there.
I’m going to share a story: 2 years ago, I was black friday shopping with Mr Veryberry and we went into Kay’s. They had a wonderful white sapphire sterling silver ring for 20.00 and I HAD to have it. I tried it on and asked ‘What do you think?’, and Mr Veryberry said ‘It’s nice, but the only ring I’m buying you is THE ring’. hmmmm. I wasn’t asking him to buy the ring…I was asking his OPINION!!
My point here is: I think that MOST men completely understand the importance of the ‘ring’ and only buy the promise ring, engagement ring, wedding/eternity rings, etc….IMO anyway.
Good luck–sounds like it ccould be the one!
Post # 6
I think that most guys would not be asking so many details if it is going to be a simple jewelry gift that is not the ERING. The fact that he is asking which one is your favorite, learning about 4 C’s, etc, suggests that he wants to make sure he gets exactly what you would like for THE RING