(Closed) Ring. Is that real?

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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1112 posts
Bumble bee

Maybe it’s just me, but I’m not that sensitive. I’ve had a couple of people ask if mine is real, and I just say umhm and smile. I don’t even get offended whatsoever, nor do I consider them rude. I think a lot of people here take their ring comments too seriously compared to people in real world.

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 11 months ago by  Mrs.DK.
Post # 3
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2023 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

 

luv2trvl:  Some people are idiots 🙂 It’s inconsiderate/lacks tact but some people are just clueless. She’s got a great response and I’ll have to hold onto it 😉

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

luv2trvl:  I agree with the person above, some people are idiots! I’ve had comments like that about my ring as well. Keep going with what shes saying, that’s hilarious! I sometimes say “No, it isnt real, it came out of a christmas cracker”… My OH proposed on christmas day and made his own cracker and put the ring inside!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

luv2trvl:  

 

So far, I only met one idiot asked me if mine is real.  It’s a guy, what do you expect, right? 

It’s one of my co-worker came congrat me for my engagement and said “ohh, your bf must love you very much, how many cart?”   and after “inspecting my ring”, he added “… or is it real?”

 

 

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Sometimes when I’ve gotten that comment, it is cute and harmless.

Like this young teller at the bank the other day. She was soooo sweet and really friendly and she asked me that question. I knew she meant no harm and she was just young and meaning to compliment me.

Post # 7
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1377 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I’ve had one coworker ask me that question, and she definitely meant it in a very rude manner. She followed the “is it real?” question with a “*snotty sigh* Yeah, honey, blue diamonds don’t exist. He’s obviously lying to you” and flounced off. I had never met her before in  my life and haven’t seen her since. The coworker that was with me did know her and apologized up and down, and I just laughed and laughed. Because really? I don’t care about your opinion, random chick! Plus, your life must be horribly boring if all you can do is try to insult random strangers! lol

Post # 8
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5188 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

I always thought “is it real?” comments were a compliment. As in, that stone is so perfect looking it’s hard to believe it’s real. 

Post # 9
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889 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

i’m apparently in the minority because i don’t think it’s a huge deal when someone says “omg is that real?” they have probably either never seen a stone that big or with good clarity or something like that and it’s meant as a compliment (like omg your ring looks like something that no one i know could afford and i hope you know it does and that it’s so pretty i can’t believe it’s real). that kinda thing.

i also think people get wayyyyyy too serious over ring comments. they’re hurt if no one says anything, they’re hurt if only 2 people tell them it’s pretty, they’re hurt if they are asked if it’s real, blah blah blah. too sensitive.

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper

Funny, but I can’t see stooping to the same level.  

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper

I think people get offended by the “real” question because it implies that an engagement ring is only real if it’s a diamond. No matter what kind of ring I had I would always answer “yes” unless they were more specific, i.e. “is that a real diamond/sapphire/ruby/etc.”. Because if it’s round and on your finger, it’s a real ring!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Obviously, there’s something to be said for tone and context, but when it’s not a sort of excited, “Holy shit! Is that real!” kind of thing, I do think it’s offensive to ask if someone’s ring is “real” because you’re already setting up a false hierarchy that certain things are “real” (in this case, probably diamonds) and that others are somehow inauthentic. A girl that has a moissanite or CZ stone probably doesn’t see it that way and it’s rude to imply that she should. 

Part of me wonders if I might respond to anyone asking me that if their boobs are real. 

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