(Closed) Ring Isn't The One I Wanted – Perspective is Requested

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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1941 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I get where you are coming from…. but do you really want to make a big deal about it for such small differences? Maybe you can post the two rings so we can compare, but if you DO love your ring and it is VERY similar to the one that costs $2,000 more than I would say just be happy you have a ring you love. 

Post # 4
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1424 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017 - Downtown Riverfront Cafe

Well…

you never did hear back from the other/original jeweler. Also, you did manage to save the both of you $2k. I would be glad you went that route because I am quite thrifty and feel guity about spending money on myself very easily. It’s still a symbol of your love, afterall, and $2k is a LOT of money.

Post # 5
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5504 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

Yours is custom!!! 🙂

Post # 7
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288 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@Coral99:  I completely understand what you are feeling. It is something you look at closely every day, and you notice the small details that aren’t the same as your dream ring. I think if he supports it, get the setting you wanted. You should be 100% happy. I am in the process of re-setting my diamond and my husband is completely supportive. 

Post # 10
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5504 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Coral99:  I totally understand your feelings! But you will probably be glad yours isn’t cookie cutter down the line. No one has yours! Mine was custom-ish. I bought the head from one jeweler and took it to another jeweler where I liked a band and voila 🙂

Post # 11
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288 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@Coral99:  actually my husband proposed with a solitare so I could choose my own setting (he knows I am picky). The setting I chose had some issues so now I am getting the pricier setting I always wanted. I am not super sentimental about things, and it didn’t bother me to change from the solitare setting after the proposal, as this was his plan. I do like that I have the original diamond he picked. I understand if you want to keep the ring he chose though. 

Post # 12
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3645 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@Coral99:  You “might” have got the setting you really wanted, but given how hard the jeweller was to get in contact with I think that if he had pursued that route you would have a lot of other problems. If they can’t even return phone calls then who knows how shoddy the work might have been (loose prongs, not the right size etc) and your FI probably would have had a lot more stress in trying to get it right.

Plus you saved him $2000! 

That ring is a symbol of how healthy your relationship is, you compromised, talked openly about cost and chose something that you are both happy with.

It sounds to me like you go the right ring after all. 

Post # 13
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3430 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Coral99:  🙂 Please Don’t over think this, it’ll make you go crazy! You’re engaged! hooray!! Sounds like my FI and yours have much in common. My guy tends to be a people pleaser, always wanting to make everyone (especially me) happy and wanting the best of everything.  

He had a custom setting made for me and though it was a wee bit different than the designer’s original, I Loved it!  The Jeweler made it just for me:) It was special.

Unless you are unhappy with the design of your ring, embrace his gift and be sure to reassure him you love it…Newsflash men can be babies sometimes:) I’d love to see a pic:)

Post # 15
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82 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Coral99:  Did something happen besides him confessing that you talked him out of it? You need to focus on your oringinal feelings, and remember that what your fiance did was do what he thought you would love! Sounds like he listens to you very well, and takes your input very seriously. That is something I think more girls would love in their SO! You could have had a different ring, but remember your fiance got you a ring he thought you loved, and would love, and thats why you were so impressed in the beggining 🙂

Post # 16
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5664 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Here’s some perspective: until he told you this lovely tidbit of ringformation, the ring you got WAS the one you wanted. Don’t let the idea of something else let you forget that!!

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