Post # 1
I know this is probably me overthinking it but I just got our engagement photos back today. Is it considered tacky/gaudy to put a photo of my engagement ring on the STD? It wouldn’t be the only photo and it would be a blurred shot of us with the ring in focus in the foreground, so not like a shot just of the ring. As I’m looking at STD ideas online I’m noticing that most don’t have photos showing the ring or emphasizing it, so now I’m thinking it might be considered overly showy to put a shot of it on there?
I’m guessing wedding website is different and it would be considered okay to put a shot or two emphasizing the ring in the gallery? Thoughts?
Post # 2
gettin_marrid: We did our Save-The-Date Cards as a montage of five photos. One was a ring photo which I thought was kinda cool:) I think its fine to have a ring pic.
Post # 3
gettin_marrid: we put a pic of the ring on the website for all to see. I probably wouldn’t include on any mailing.
Post # 4
gettin_marrid: Personally, I would find it very materialistic.
Post # 5
I would totally roll my eyes upon receiving a STD with a shot of the ring on it. Even if it was with a bunch of other photos.
Post # 6
gettin_marrid: I don’t think ring photos are appropriate. It looks like showing off to me.
Post # 7
gettin_marrid: I wouldn’t think anything of it. I guess everyone is different, but if you are worried about offending people, just don’t do it. Better to be safe than sorry.
Post # 8
My STD had a small pic of my ring and I posted on Facebook when we got engaged too. I guess I’m “tacky, a show-off, obnoxious, etc” according to the Bee. I just found it easier. EVERYONE was pestering me to post pics. It should be fine. Most people would probably be excited to see it.
Post # 9
I would find that super weird. To me it would read braggy. They can look at your facebook to see pictures of the ring. They’re saving the date to attend your wedding, which is the union of you two, not to look at your ring.
Post # 10
I would rather look at you than your ring.
Post # 11
Yeah, I kind of thought that some people would find it kind of showy to include on STD. I don’t know that I would think anything of it, but I can see how it might come off as bragging.
Mademoiselle-G: This is why I was considering it. I’ve had a ton of people ask to see the ring and I don’t want to flaunt it but at the same time I’m having everyone ask for photos of it!
StephieBee: I actually didn’t put a photo of my ring on fb, or even make a post about getting engaged. I just changed my status. I don’t think I even replied to comments. I didn’t even change my status until a week or two after the engagement because I didn’t want people finding out about it online when they might have felt like they derserved to be told personally. Maybe that’s a totally separate etiquette post for me to start!
I think I’m just going to go with a couple other photos for STD then put maybe one tasteful photo of the ring on the wedding website. Thanks for the input, guys!