(Closed) Ring Purchase

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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1939 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@armychica06:

without a doubt, I would. Although we are in the same field, he will probably always make more money than me, though, so I don’t know that it would ever be necessary. I actually just spoke with him about starting to save and I planned to tell him that I would contribute if it meant we could be engaged sooner, but apparently he already has money set aside. Once we get married, all of our funds would be pooled anyways. If I didn’t contribute, I would definitely take over other bills to allow him to put more of his money towards the ring. I think thats a good compromise if you aren’t comfortable putting money towards the ring (assuming you have bills together, of course).

Post # 4
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6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

No. But my “dream ring” is something that he would (and did) surprise me with. I feel like it’s more about him making the effort to pick out and buy my ring, that’s what makes the ring so perfect.

Post # 5
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5797 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

No, I think he would feel emasculated if I offered to help.

Post # 6
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Newbee

Personally, I would not pay but that’s something the couple should decide and whatever the decision is, I respect that.

My SO is the traditional type and he plans on picking the ring, which is fine with me because he has better taste than me. LOL.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Yes I would purchase it.

I have a lot of trouble with the fact that the guy is supposed to buy the ring. Whatever happened to getting what I want in life with working hard and saving? To me, it was irritating to rely on a guy to buy what I really wanted. I hated how dependent I felt?

In the end he purchased my ring. I probably would have gotten a much bigger ring if it was up to me.

Post # 9
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391 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I hope he asks about it first. Boyfriend or Best Friend thinks if he’s going to marry a girl he’s going to pick a ring that she absolutely will love. I’m actually not all that confident in his decisions on what I like. There has been a few honest misses when it comes to jewelry selection.

He got my a Tiffany’s ring last Christmas and it was little sterling hearts joined together in a circle. I’m not a big heart kind of girl, but I love wearing it because it’s from him. Also, I’ve seen a promise ring to an ex Girlfriend and it also has a heart motif.

I just hope he doesn’t get me a ring with any hearts on it. Bad association.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

No, he wouldn’t accept my money because “it would make him not feel like the type of man he wants to be for his future family.” Yeah, big jump on that, but that’s just how he is. *shrug*

Post # 11
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3374 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My mom was adamant that the guy pay for the whole ring because to her it showed that he was capable of making a good income, saving, and supporting a family.

Post # 12
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3942 posts
Honey bee

Yes, I will be helping to pay for it. We own a house together and all our money is combined. For us personally, it doesn’t make sense for him to pay for it on his own….since the money is ours anyways.

Post # 13
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2091 posts
Buzzing bee

Yes, we are both paying for it. He bought my stand-in CZ ring for me to wear, but we are both putting money away to go towards the moissanite ring we both picked out weeks ago.

Post # 14
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759 posts
Busy bee

Not unless it was something very expensive, that I wanted specifically.  But since I don’t want an expensive ring, I would say No.

Post # 15
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797 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I would help pay, but he’s the kind of guy who wouldn’t let me even if he needed help paying for it.  Besides, my dream ring is a moissy on the moissaniteco website so he won’t need help paying for it anyways. 

Post # 16
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870 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

If he was open to it I’d be willing to help pay for a ring. We make roughly the same amount and money would be pooled after that anyway, so who cares. However I know he has the money to buy a ring and is not interested in input from me, either monetary or style-wise. He wants the whole thing to be a surprise, and since I don’t really have a “dream ring” (just a couple of jewelry no-nos that he already knows about from buying me other jewelry, like not yellow gold) I’m fine with him picking out whatever. I even mentioned that he didn’t need to buy a ring at all, but he’s pretty traditional. 

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