Ring Question

posted 4 months ago in Rings
Post # 16
402 posts
Helper bee

Is there a reason your girlfriend isn’t directly involved in the design process?  You’d be guaranteed to get exactly what she wants that way.

Post # 18
402 posts
Helper bee

In that case, I’d trust that she knows her taste and go with the pave band.

Post # 19
81 posts
Worker bee

Absolutely go with what she wants. Besides the bad feeling that would come from listening to a jeweler over her preferences, you’re dealing with a diamond that is already hers … It just feels very wrong to go against her wishes with her own stone.

Post # 20
651 posts
Busy bee

Definitely go with what she asked for. There are many threads with ladies being upset or disappointed that they told their boyfriend exactly what they wanted only for him to do something different. If she wants pave, a Tiffany style ring is definitely not her style. Design a ring that fits what she asked for. After the proposal, if your budget allows, give her the option to change the setting if she’s not in love with the color contrast. 

Post # 21
377 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 1985

Oh my gosh!  That ring is stunning!

Post # 22
1256 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2020

1. Go with what your gf wants

2. Find a new jeweler (independent jewelers are your friend)

3. A plain solitaire at that size may look like a Ring Pop. So much for cheapening the look! I like the idea of getting whiter pave stones that make the center stone pop, but check with your gf what she prefers! Does she want pave with side stones? I love the look of a huge center stone and small side stones

Post # 23
88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2020

I would say to listen to your Girlfriend or go try on settings together or tell her too to make sure she likes that ON her hand. I originally wanted a paved setting with a none round diamond was all I told my fiance. I didn’t try anything on personally and I didn’t wanna ring shop with him, call me old fashioned but I wanted the whole thing to be a surprise. I also told him I really liked Emeralds… Hint hint. 😉 Well he got me an Asscher on a plain band and honestly it couldn’t have been more perfect. I seriously do not think I could love another ring like I do the one on my hand. I originally was gonna get a paved wedding band to go with it but really dislike the paved look next to my solitaire. And ended up getting a custom made mixed metal band to go with my stone. 


Good luck and congrats on popping the question!

Post # 24
7310 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

I wouldn’t be worrying about a 4.8 carat stone looking “cheap”. And your gf wants a pave band. Go with HER preferences, not your grumpy, judgemental jeweler. Indeed, I second (or third) the recommendation you find a jeweler who will happily help you create the ring of her dreams.

Post # 25
35 posts

I say go with your girlfriend’s opinion! In the end it is her ring and she knows what she likes the most. I would personally feel like my partner was not listening to me if he got me a different ring than what I told him I liked.

Post # 26
5620 posts
Bee Keeper

That is going to be amazing.. find another jeweler and make it happen.. but more importanly keep us informed with photos and cad’s!! 

Post # 28
20 posts

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Dave1977 :  find a different jewelr. Get what your gf asked for. A cute idea might be getting like 4+ stones on the side yellow and getting whiter as they go down the band. 

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