(Closed) Ring regret?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Welcome! 🙂 I always thought that half of the significance of your e-ring is that the SO really thought it was beautiful and that it would be beautiful on you. He knew you preferred a princess-cut but picked this one instead–and it might have been because he liked this one better and thought you’d like it better too.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t understand why they can’t love something that is in line with what you love.

Your ring is beautiful.  But, it’s pretty far from what you asked for.  

Have you talked to him about it?

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I agree, your ring is beautiful! But very far from what you asked for.

Was this the ring he showed you that you said you’d like better in white gold? Maybe he took what you said as an affirmation that you liked the ring?

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

@californiaraisin:  Ouuchh. That’s tough! But he did know what he was looking for…lol…you told him princess cut and white gold. After that, the possibilities were endless!

But you did get some info from the saleslady. It seems she pushed him toward the ring, so that would indicate that he didn’t see the ring and the angels sang to him and he thought you had to have it. That makes it a little bit easier for you to talk to him about it.

What are your feelings? Do you  want a new ring? Or would you really be happy having the prongs altered?

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I don’t like it, not my tastes. Apparently not your tastes either, thats very unfortunate. I helped pick mine out, and now kinda wish it was different, we are both born in septemeber and my ring has 2 sapphires with a large diamond in the middle and diamond chips in the band. It’s pretty, but ulitmately I just don’t think it’s very me, I never wear jewelry so having something so flashing stands out.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

@californiaraisin:  Please don’t feel bad. It’s OK that you feel the way you do.

I would take the ring to a good jeweler that does their own benchwork and ask what can be done about the prongs. Then at least you can work to improve the ring you have. And pick out a fabulous wedding band that you love! Get whatever stones/style makes your heart sing when you choose a band. I think doing those two things will go a long way for you.

But if deep down in your heart, you do not want to wear this ring for the rest of your life regardless of anything that can be done to improve it, please gently tell this to your Fiance. It may hurt him at first, but maybe he will agree that you should get your dream ring.

And you can ALWAYS get yourself a beautiful princess cut right hand ring. There are beautiful and affordable CZ options – and that way, you’d get the best of both worlds.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

At one time I wanted to alter my e-ring and then I found out if we did that, it would void the warranty that we paid for. So maybe you could mention something like that to him. It worked for me….hehe and we went back and I got what I wanted without altering the ring….(traded it in).

Post # 13
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963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m sure a good jeweler could also swap out the center stone, and change it to a princess.  I know that will be more work, but I would think they should be able to do it.  I think the rest of the setting would look really nice with a princess in the middle.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

If I were you, I would first figure out what my options were (does the store have an exchange policy? How much would you get if you sell it to a jeweler?) then I would talk to my Fiance. Tell him the truth – that you thought you liked it when he sent you the picture, but the more you wear it you realize it just isn’t your style. Break it to him nicely and apologize for not being more assertive when he originally sent you the picture since you didn’t want to hurt his feelings and as a result now you’re in this situation.

But then offer up the solution that you’ve researched and ask if he’d be okay with it. It’s best to be on the same page about these things, but at the end of the day it’s just jewelry and changing it this early on means you’ll probably forget it even happened in a couple of years! Plus, you should exchange it before you pick out wedding rings so you don’t have to get TWO new rings eventually!

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Oh, they could definitely swap out the head and put in a princess diamond. For sure. So you could keep your ring set and just change the diamond.

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