Post # 1
So we’ve been engaged since November and I have been wearing a gorgeous morganite/ rose gold combo that I picked out and fell in love with. I’m ethically not a big fan of diamonds and thought that Morganite would be a really pretty alternative! Since I’ve had the ring, it has gotten cloudy, it doesn’t really sparkle like I want it to..and I just feel sort of indifferent about it. I never get compliments on it (I know, it shouldn’t matter.. but it does) and I just feel like people don’t think it’s an engagement ring. Not to mention, I work in the wedding industry and see so many beautiful examples of more classic style rings.. I keep finding myself having serious ring regret and just wanting something more traditional. I know that ethically-sourced diamonds exist and there are other similar alternatives.. I’m just not sure what to do?
Do I bring this up to FI? How do I do that? Will I eventually get over it?
Post # 3
Can you post a picture of the ring?
Post # 4
I don’t think asking your Fiance to change your ring is a good idea because it has special meaning… Any ring that comes after this one is not THE ring so i think it kind of loses it’s intended value. I can understand about the whole compliment thing, however I am guessing because you work in the wedding industry you are just more in tune with hearing compliments about rings/dresses/weddings. You can always add diamond bands or get 10 year or 20 year rings if you’d like but I just feel like your Fiance might feel crushed if you wanted to change something he got for you from his heart.
Post # 6
Perhaps just change the center stone with a peachy-pink moissanite? It will have lots of sparkle but your ring will still look pretty much the same! Or change the look and go with a clear moissanite, if you want something more traditional looking.
Post # 7
Morganite is not a forever stone, and cannot be worn in an everyday ring. The cloudy is likley abrasions on the top of the stone, And it is beryl, so just not that highly refractive. I would approach him honestly. And say you made a bad call on the stone, that morganite needs to be babied and is not to be worn everyay, or will get ruined…like your stone And then get a more durable stone to replace it. Like sapphire, moisanite, or diamond. 🙂 I would keep the setting, and just replace the stone.
Post # 8
I LOVE that its a Emerald style center (thats what I have) I can see what you mean is it possible to just change the stone? maybe Moissy? the ring is a beautiful ring for sure and the Rosegold is fantastic (wont lie gives me ring envy at times LoL) so I think all it would take is swapping out the stone or even taking it to a jeweler to ask about how ot keep the stone clear and bright!
Post # 9
Maybe get it cleaned and polished and you’ll fall in love with it again?
I can see why people might not think it’s an engagement ring, it looks like it could be a RHR
Post # 10
Oh my god I love your ring! I love emerald cut stones. I know morganite isn’t a forever stone, but it should definitely last longer than a few months without getting cloudy! I don’t know where you got it from but maybe they have some sort of warranty or return policy you can take advantage since it’s gotten cloudy so fast. If you do this, you could definitely get a peachy moissanite or sapphire like PP said. It will be the same color but will be super sparkly and shiny!
And as far as your Fiance goes, if you picked out the ring, I don’t see it being a problem if you approach him about changing it. That way he sees it as more your bad call, not his (although I don’t think it’s a bad call at all, but I understand wanting it to be shiny). Just tell him that this is your e-ring and you want it to last forever, and you didn’t realize that morganite wouldn’t last very lng, so you want to replace it with something that looks the same, but will last longer! I wouldn’t change the entire ring, though, I think most FIs might be offended by that. Just the center stone, that way he knows it’s not the whole ring that you don’t like, just the cloudiness
Post # 11
Ooo i seccond the idea of a Peachy Pink Sapphire those are BEAUTIFUL
Post # 12
My peachy pink sapphire also gets cloudy sometimes, but after I clean it it is a lot better. It just needs cleaned more often than a diamond because it doesn’t reflect light the way diamonds do.
I’m not sure how you would clean a morganite though… I don’t want to suggest anything because my sapphire is harder. Morganites are a bit softer… but maybe talk to your jeweler and clean it every couple of weeks.
Post # 13
Morganite is not a “sparkly” stone. And it’s a relatively soft gemstone, 7.5 – 8 on the Mohs scale. The surface of your stone may have been abraded through daily wear, so perhaps it could be polished again.
If you don’t like diamonds, rubies and sapphires are much harder stones, and suitable for daily wear. If you are ok with lab grown, there are all different colors of moissanite.
Post # 14
The barely pink moissanite is a much closer colour match to morganite that the peachy pink, but emeral but is not available, You would have to get a radiant. A sapphire would be the only way to get that colour and a step cut. I do love your ring though, OP. 🙂 But the center stone looking dull would bug me too.
Post # 15
That is such an original, awsesome ring!!! I love the emerald cut. If it were me.I would tell my fiancee. I would say I love my ring but..and express your concerns…x
Post # 16
If you change the stone, you will still have your ring. The center stone isn’t the important part IMO, the ring part is–hence “engagement ring” rather than “engagement diamond/stone”.
When Fiance proposed to me, the ring still had the jewelry store CZ in it, and it will stay there until we figure out what we want to put there. When I change the stone out, it won’t be any less “my ring” (though I probably will keep the CZ since I am a little sentimental about it. Maybe put it in a pendant or something.)
ETA: I would talk to him about it. It’s still at a point where it can probably be polished and used in another piece of jewelry, but if you keep wearing it and keep polishing it, eventually you won’t be able to. Over time, it may develop deep abrasions that can’t be fixed without significantly impacting the look of the stone. Just let him know you didn’t know this would be the case, and see if he would be open to a moissanite or something. It would be a much more durable stone and more traditional-looking, but wouldn’t cost nearly what a diamond of a similar size would.
Alternately, you could put a temporary Asha in for now until you save the money for your dream diamond.