(Closed) Ring regret- Theory v Reality

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 17
91 posts
Worker bee

@MrsDogMama:  I have an elongated cushion cut unheated sapphire ring. Hands down my most prized piece of jewelry. My mom has it right now, because I lost a diamond and she’s going to get it replaced for me. I miss it!


Post # 19
6034 posts
Bee Keeper

I definitely have ring envy in theory. Especially when looking at those amazing vintage and art deco settings and ring designs, as well as the beautiful “nature-inspired” motifs I’ve seen on many rings on this board.

But, in reality, I still love my ring the best! Yay for that. Laughing I might like a larger stone in my setting one day … but, even if that never happens, I’ll still be in love with my pretty lady.

Post # 20
3051 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I’ve had the opposite of ring regret. I LOVE my ring but compared to others in my area/circle, it’s quite big. It makes me wonder if people seeing it know it’s an engagement ring (esp since my center stone is a yellow sapphire). I don’t wish I had something smaller but I do feel a bit uncomfortable occasionally

Post # 22
66 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Never! I love my ring so much – I totally made the right choice. Do I love other rings? Yes. What can I say? I love jewelry! One day, I hope to have other engagement style rings, and I would like to alternate them…but if I had the choice to trade my current ring for a different one, I wouldn’t do it.

Post # 23
154 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I actually just returned to the bee after quite a good break. When I discovered the bee I would look at every ring post and gush over how amazing and then I got engaged and loved my ring but when looking at rings on here I started to compare and read the comments others would say about quality, size, and everything else and started to think “well maybe this ring isn’t exactly what I wanted” (I helped pick it out). IRL however, I loved it more than anything else I had seen. So I took a break from the bee.  And then things were back to normal. I wouldn’t say I had ring regret but more ring envy. but after he break from looking at all the ring boards I felt much better. 

Post # 24
901 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

When I started out looking at rings, I thought for sure that I wanted a round halo with a thin band.  When we went out to look I realized that though they looked beautiful in the case, that style didn’t suit me.

I have seen many since choosing mine that I think are absolutely gorgeous but that’s less to do with stone size, more to do with settings.  The thing is, most of the settings that I tend to oogle are set high and that was one thing I knew I couldn’t live with, so I oogle them from a distance and ADORE my own.  It’s perfect! 

Post # 25
6369 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

I appreciate the beauty of rings here in the Bee but still prefer my own.

Post # 26
1427 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - parent\'s backyard

@linnylou_88:  I think I like the idea over the reality. I have a smallish diamond, which I totally asked for. whenever I think about getting a different set, I start to feel guilty and weird. I also worry that my husband, friends and family would think I’m petty.

besides, whenever I take a break from the ring boards I fall in love with my set all over again. I’m not fancy. my clothes are mostly skinny jeans, converse and hoodies. a large sparkly ring would look kind of ridiculous on me.

Post # 27
337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I love my ring..however, i dont think i will ever stop drooling over a deep dark blue sapphire halo…there is something so rich and sophisticated looking about them…

my morganite has a more feminine look to it, while i think the blue is more of a classic look

Post # 28
1660 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

@linnylou_88:  I have my DREAM ring now, so I don’t know if this counts… But I was engaged before and didn’t love my ring, I had given my ex some ideas that in his defense were all over the board, but I eventually narrowed it down and basically told him what I wanted (something with a halo), I didn’t get a halo. I tried to love my ring but I just didn’t, but eventually I got over it. But everytime I saw basically anyone with a pretty ring I would get a little upset (nothing crazy and I NEVER told my ex that I didn’t love it, but I would have to talk myself into liking my ring all over).

We eventually broke up, and a few years later found myself in a seriously great relationship that was definitely heading toward marriage. I told Darling Husband exactly what I wanted: cushion cut in a halo. size/price/details were up to him, but I really didn’t want anything bigger than 1ct. He got me a 3/4 ct. (center) cushion halo (it’s actually the very first ring link I sent him. lol) and I’m so in love with it. I don’t even get ring envy anymore, I appreciate beautiful rings (and wouldn’t mind a big RHR), but I’m so in love with mine I don’t get any ring envy or anything.

I’m actually really glad my ex got the other ring that I didn’t love, because when I got engaged “for real” I wanted a ring that was completely different than what I had before (and what DH’s ex-wife had, luckily she had a solitaire), since my first ring wasn’t what I wanted at all I was able to get my dream ring. 🙂

Post # 29
304 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I have ring envy on the Bee and IRL. My husband’s brother has a lot of money and his wife has a 1.5ct center. Even though her fingers are bigger/longer than mine I still wish I could have a 1.5ct center like her. And I always ogle at every ring I see in public. It’s the first thing I look at on a woman.


Post # 30
105 posts
Blushing bee

Oddly enough, I don’t think I’ve ever had ring regret.  I don’t really like multiple stones – my solitaire is so simple and sophisticated.  It’s perfect.  I picked it out years in advance and told him it absolutely had to be that one.  The only guilt I have is the price, but the Fiance just reminds me that I’ll be wearing it for the rest of my life.  I put a lot of overtime in to help pay for it (I can’t pick out a super expensive ring and expect him to foot the entire bill IMO) so we were able to afford it comfortably.

Post # 31
120 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

@wandering_gypsy:  I totally agree with you! I was married before and I kept telling my ex what I liked and wanted (regarding my ring) but he always did whatever HE wanted or liked…a problem that enveloped every bit of his life and hence the reason we are no longer married LOL. But even though it was pretty big, it just wasn’t my DREAM ring and I’d always find myself wandering into a jewelry store looking at the other rings. I always wanted to upgrade it or change the setting which I did twice! After a while, it didn’t even feel special to me anymore or have any sentiment attached. After we divorced, I was able to trade my old ring and setting in and with the help of my new fiance, able to get my DREAM COME TRUE ring! My Fiance told me that I could get whatever I liked because I was the one that had to wear it. He wanted me to be happy above all else and he’s like that with everything and that’s what I love so much about him. But now, I am so head over heels with my ring and everything about it. I used to compare and envy others, now I’m 1000% content!

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