(Closed) Ring regret? Wish you chose another setting?

posted 10 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
6303 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Well, I didn’t choose my ring, Fiance did. It’s beautiful, and I do love it, but I would have chosen something else. He designed a solitaire with diamond band. I would have chosen a halo setting w/ diamond band.

Post # 4
148 posts
Blushing bee

i kept changing my opinion too, until I found this setting and fell in love. Now i pity all other rings. ๐Ÿ™‚ You just need to find a ring you’re totally in love with, and then the fact that your Fiance proposed with that ring should do the rest. It has unique sentimental value that no other ring holds, which is why I’ll love mine forever. It’s 1 carat, but I’d never dream of upgrading it. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
1181 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I kept changing my mind about the potential engagement rings that I like.  When my little sister was a spy for my beau, I told her which rings I liked.  Months later, I freaked out and wondered if I gave her the wrong ideas.  However, the beau picked out the diamond shape I wanted and an entirely different setting than what I told my sister.  BUT I still LOVE my ring!  Maybe you can limit the choice of the ring and let your bf pick something out to surprise you? The fact that he made a choice in the ring might help ease your anxiety? 

I don’t think halos ever go out of style.  Even if a trend goes out of style, it can become retro/antique/vintagey over time.  Styles always seems to come and go but they always come back in rotation.

Show us some pictures of what you like!  Wink  I love bling. 

Post # 6
909 posts
Busy bee

I am kinda thinking now that a coloured center stone would have been nice. But i still love the ring I have.

Post # 7
840 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I can’t imagine ever not loving my ring. I gave my Fiance some specs (round stone, approximate size, not too flashy). When he proposed I was taken aback–there was more going on around the center stone than I’d had in mind, but it didn’t take long for me to fall completely for it. It’s gorgeous and like @misabell said, it will always be the ring he proposed with.

Along with what @mnp was saying, I do think the fact that he picked it out helped for me. With my ring, I’ve loved it and never looked back… but I had tons of dress regret issues because it was my choice.

Post # 8
459 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I love my ring, but since I chose a band ring, I am having major regrets.

Post # 9
743 posts
Busy bee

I honestly am with you on this one.  I have been looking at rings online for months.  I thought i KNEW what i loved.  We went shopping and i think i left more confused than him. 

I totally changed my mind because the type i wanted doesnt look right on my hand. 

I have a feeling no matter what he chooses i will love it.  Simply because he took the time to look around and find a ring he wanted me to love. 

Post # 10
772 posts
Busy bee

I am totally with you on this as well. I have a princess cut picked out, and now after months I am second guessing my initial pick and love rectangular radiant; mores specifically, I have a ring crush on:


My Ring (sneak peek)! *pic heavy* :  wedding ring 2 carat radiant platinum pave 1 Ring1

My Ring (sneak peek)! *pic heavy* :  wedding ring 2 carat radiant platinum pave 1 RingSideView1

My Ring (sneak peek)! *pic heavy* :  wedding ring 2 carat radiant platinum pave 1 RingSideView2

My Ring (sneak peek)! *pic heavy* :  wedding ring 2 carat radiant platinum pave 1 Ring2



 her ring is gorgeous…I think our anxiety will be gone ONCE the decision is made and he proposes with it- as other bees have stated.

Post # 11
249 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

wow her ring is amazing!!

ive changed rings three times already , shame on me hehe

first i had a set princess cut halo ring with its matching band

then i had a solitaire

and now i have a round center set in a square halo lol.

but yes i lean towards more blingy so the halo has always been perfect for me

Post # 12
1871 posts
Buzzing bee

I adore my ring, but I do work in a hospital and will be working with patients for the rest of my career, so I do wish I had chosen a lower setting. My prongs are medium height but I’d be so paranoid to wear it to work. It makes me sad though, because I work a lot so I don’t get to wear my ring too often ๐Ÿ™ 


Post # 13
4812 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I did not initially have an e-ring. Was engaged without one, and could not find anything I really liked when we looked in the timeframe between getting engaged and married! It was just not our relationship dynamic for us not to both participate in the process of choosing rings. I found a wedding ring, but never quite found an “engagement” ring.

After we were married, I did get a set designed as my wedding ring itself was never very comfortable to begin with (it does have sentimental value…but it remains stored safely away rather than worn)…but, it was never really “me” and I always had doubts about it. I let too many other external things & opinions influence my choice that I really should not have!

When circumstances meant a new ring set was required, I first relied on my memory database of the thousands of settings and rings I have looked at and tried on and thought awesome over the years…and searched out the “perfect” forever set and nothing ever quite felt totally right as there were always things that made me think “not quite”, but ultimately when I found the set I am now getting I knew immediately it was “me”. It is not traditional by any means, but it most certainly is very reflective of my style, lifestyle and personality. It spoke to me! There were a couple customizations I wanted to suit me, but I definitely know this set will be my forever set (also, I promised no more unless it was a twist tie!). I am just waiting to get it into my hands!

Even if look and admire other rings (which I will, I am sure, as I still do look often!) I have no desire now to OWN the other ones – not even really as RHRs (I wear pretty plain textured stacking bands as RHRs) and do not second guess my own choice. This is very different than previous times! And yes, sure again it will come later in the marriage, but this does not mean there is no sentimental value for me. To me the sentimental value comes more from my rings being there with me and in my marriage day to day, as well as wearing something I really love and that I can look at and see a symbol of my commitment. I am wearing my mixed stackers as placeholders right now and when I look at them I see the symbol of my commitment, and gosh feel sentimental about that even! It could be a twist tie and still mean something to me – I just like something a little more sparkly and fun ๐Ÿ˜‰

When I see girls post “which one should I get?” posts or ask for input on things like “solitaire or halo?” I want to say “go with what your own heart is telling you”. I think as soon as you start choosing for what others would want and think, you are more likely to second guess your choice later.



Post # 14
104 posts
Blushing bee

I can definitely relate!  I got a princess cut halo with 2 round diamonds on either side and a twisted band.  I wish I had just gone more simple and got a round diamond on an eternity style band.

Post # 15
334 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I can forsee this happening to me.  I’ve been married for a few years now, but while we were still engaged I lost my round solitaire engagement ring.  We had never had insurance on the ring, so at the time we didn’t replace it.  We’re just now starting to look again.  It seems my mind is always changing, so I’m sure we’ll end up going with what in my mind is a sure thing (solitaire again).  While I may go through stages of loving other rings, I think it will always be classic.  Therefore, I don’t think I’ll ever dislike it, which is necessary being I’ll never upgrade (no offence to those who do, it’s just not something I really personally understand).  I do worry that I won’t have an attachement to the next ring being it isn’t the ring he got down on one knee with. As silly as it sounds, because of my indecisiveness, some days I wonder if we should even replace it or if I should just keep wearing my plain band.  Sure, I’d love a stone, but I also never want to look back, dislike it, and wonder why in the world we ever spent so much money on something like it when I managed to lose my original in the first place. 

Post # 16
594 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

For the longest time I was SURE that the only thing I wanted for an engagement ring was a pave set halo.  Then, while browsing one day with my friend, a saleslady made a point that stuck with me.  She said, “Halos are pretty, but in 20, 30 years, do you want people to say, “Oh, she must have gotten engaged in 2010? (11, 12, etc.)”.  That gave me food for thought. 

On one hand, I LOVE halos.  I also knew that I loved vintage jewerly.  In fact, my mother gave me a ring that we bought at an estate jewelry store for my 21st birthday.  It was a filigree ring which I NEVER took off.  Ever.

Upon further reflection, I thought about my personal style and how I normally like to do things traditionally but with a small twist.  I looked at rings online and went back to a few stores to just try some on again. 

Eventually, I got overwhelmed and decided that I would suggest the shape of the stone I liked (square/rectangular) and mention some buzz words like micropave and let him do the rest.  I figured that I should be lucky to have a man who is willing to put a ring on my finger.  Period.  It didn’t matter if it was halo or EXACTLY what I wanted.  What mattered was that he and I would be together forever.

What he ended up bringing home and proposing to me with is something that I could not have done a better job with myself even if I tried. It captured my sense of tradition with an elegant, modern twist with a slightly vintage feel. 

So, think about your personal style.  Are you somewhat traditional or do you tend to gravitate towards something trendy?  Rounds are gorgeous and do present the best fire and shine!

Worst case scenario: you get a halo and get tired of it in 10-15 years…..you will have plenty of diamonds to re-set into something that you like better!  ๐Ÿ™‚

Good luck!

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