Post # 1
Hey ladies (and gents?). I’ve been secretly obsessing over weddingbee since I started researching engagement rings a few weeks ago. This site is so wonderful and I love seeing all of your beautiful stories and rings! My bf and I have been dating 3 years and an engagement is probably at least another year away while we both finish grad school and get our lives together. BUUUUT I was wondering…
Do any of you have advice on what to look for? What regrets you might have? I’m thinking more in practical terms like ring maintenance and comfort. I’ve also heard of diamond bands having problems with smaller stones falling out. Has anyone experienced that? I want to hear those little things people don’t usually think to ask about.
Thanks so much in advance for your wisdom!
Post # 2
I have a friend who has lost multiple diamonds from her pave ring. I also have a band that kept losing diamonds for a while. But I think that is more about the craftsmanship of certain makers than about the style overall. I can say to make sure your stone is not too big for the band. If you have a huge stone perched on a 1mm band, it is probably going to snap off. Try different mm thickness on your fingers, as well. Some women like really thin bands and some like thick ones. It’s personal preference.
Post # 3
I would like to throw out there that I think it’s important to buy from a place that has a return policy (even if it’s just a 30 day return window). There’s nothing like wearing a ring for a couple weeks to really give you the best indication whether you made the right choice or not. Having the option to return or exchange is priceless!
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2015 - Calamigos Ranch
I recommend thinking about what you want your ring to look like when you wear it with your wedding band. My fiance surprised me with my ring and because of the way it is set, I have to buy a custom band if I want it to sit flush with the e-ring band. If I don’t there is a weird gap between the bands. 🙁
Post # 5
Definitely go try on rings in person! I had an awesome experience trying on engagement rings (FI wanted me to, but didn’t go with me). Everyone was really nice and treated me well. And on top of that, I discovered that the rings I liked from browsing online didn’t match what I liked on my actual hand! So that was helpful. If I had just relied on stock photos or other pics, I would have ended up with a ring I didn’t love on my hand.
(For example, I thought I wanted princess cut until I got to try some on and realized I much prefer round cuts!)
Post # 6
Look at some costume pieces in the styles/size you like and try them. That way you can get a feel for if you like big/small, halos, pave, solitaires, whatever. Berricle has good reviews from people on here.
Post # 7
I had heard about a lot of people snagging or hitting their ring on things with high profile settings so I chose a low profile ring. I thought I wanted princess until I saw there was less surface area so i changed my mind and went with a round. I will echo everyone else in saying that trying them in and wearing them will be the best indication
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2014 - Cape May
My biggest advice would be to try try try! Try every last ring on to know which styles suit you best. Take your time and shop around. I regret not knowing about moissanite back then because we could have saved $$$ and had a gorgeous stone.
Post # 9
It probably is a good idea to wear a mock ring in the style you think you like so you know what it’s actually like to wear. Ask yourself ‘will I want to wear this every day for the rest of my life?’. My ring had a four prong setting and after wearing it for only a few weeks I found myself sort of dreading having to wear it for the rest of my life because it caught on things so much. I had the setting changed to a non-catchy style and now I look forward to wearing it forever. My fiancé chose it but even if I had chosen it myself I wouldn’t have realised how I’d feel about that sort of setting until I’d actually worn it.
Post # 10
1) Luxury & comfort go hand in hand. Pretty sparklies can only become loved daily if they’re comfortable to wear daily, and if your honey squeezes too hard when you walk hand in hand those prongs are going to dig in like the dickens. Trust me. (Lovable oaf!) So try things on, get something with a generous return policy, buy replica pieces and test-drive them first, whatever. If you’re looking for a “forever” ring, spend some time figuring out what is both wonderful and wearable to you.
2) Warranties are only as good as the company who writes it. Tiffany & Co is still in business, many are not, but T & Co has limited locations so what if you can’t get your ring there for servicing before it lapses? Anyway, keep this in mind when considering warranties.
3) It is my understanding that bezel set stones require less check ups than prong set stones. I’ve asked around, even in T&Co, and the consensus seems to be that you can go up to 5yrs between bezel set check ups, as opposed to twice yearly prong checks, and not void the warranty. Having to go in twice a year may sound like it’s no big deal, but, trust me, after a decade or so, it can become a real nuisance.
Post # 11
My suggestion is to go for quality over size 🙂 Decide a budget, then play with specs until you find something that is ahappy medium between size and quality. I dont find it necessary to have a flawless D but a poorly cut and included diamond at a larger size might not be what you end up happy with in the future (if that makes sense). In addition, I would suggest seeing the stone in person. One SI1 with a very good cut is not the same as another SI1 with a very good cut. Presentation is everything, and each diamond has its own personality!
Post # 12
- Wedding: May 2018 - City, State
Insure it as soon as you buy it! No excuses!
Find a good balance between size and quality.
Try different sizes and styles on before you decide.
Post # 13
I got burned by a chain store, so my advice is to find a highly-rated locally-owned store. I ultimately had my chain store ring completely remade by a local store, because while I loved the design, the chain store’s workmanship was pretty terrible and their in-house “repair shop” did more harm than good.
Post # 14
Don’t be afraid of going down in color to get a larger diamond. 🙂
Post # 15
Try them on in person, and get what you like. High profile settings aren’t the end of the world. I have to pick fuzz out of mine sometimes but that’s just stuff getting caught on prongs. Big deal.
I WOULD warn you though, don’t treat your ring like it’s indestructible. Have a special place you put it when you wash your face, take a shower, garden, clean house, cook, anything where it could get tarnished. And don’t take it off to wash your hands in public. Never, never.
And yes, insure it.