Post # 1
Boyfriend or Best Friend and I have been together for a bit over 2 years, and we are going to go look at rings next week! This trip Boyfriend or Best Friend wants to use to just learn about rings. It will be at least a year, so we just want to be really well informed, since Boyfriend or Best Friend wants to design my rings himself.
I know a few things that I want to learn about:
the 4Cs, and we want to look at different loose diamonds to see if either of us are sensitive to color or clarity etc.,
different types of settings
Is there anything else that any of you had wish you knew before getting your rings?
Post # 3
ask about the different parts of the GIA report. Find out what things like ‘surface graining not shown’ mean or what the difference in flourescene colors are. Definitely look over a few GIA reports and see what parts you have questions about
Post # 4
I wanted to make sure it had a wedding band that would go with it. If a ring is lovely but you are going to have a terrible time finding a band to go with it then it may not be worth it. Its something some jewelers won’t talk about.
Post # 5
Start here: pricescope.com
You can educate yourself a whoooole lot better by reading up on all that than by listening to someone trying to give you a sales pitch at a jewelry store. Best of luck!
Post # 6
@littlemissmango: I have checked out pricescope and it was very helpful!
Boyfriend or Best Friend wants to talk to an actual person, and see everything in person.
We are planning on going to a local jewelery store that has been used by the family of a close friend for years. Boyfriend or Best Friend knows he wants to design a ring, so he wants to go to a local place. I hoping that if I call and make an appointment that I can explain the we just want to learn all of the basics and get an idea of what we like, and that he will probably use them as a designer. Hopefully that will sort of get rid of the sales push?
Does that sound reasonable?
Post # 7
@BluegrassBunny: Oh cool! Well you’ve gotten yourself a great head start then. Yeah I would agree that it would be a great idea to see it all in person, especially with a resource like that– a personally reccommended jeweler who you can probably trust to not get pushy on you. It will be good for you to see stones right there in front of you so you can see what your preferences in size and color are, and to see how you really can’t see inclusions in most stones that are less than internally-flawless! 🙂
Although, if you are on a budget, you might want to take your ring design after you’ve figured it out, and show it to some of the PS vendors to compare quotes. There are some that can do amazing custom work for a lot less than you’ll find at pretty much any brick & mortar store. Have fun shopping!
Post # 8
I wish I had found out my ring size during our ‘educational trip’.
Post # 9
I just picked out my wedding bands (2!) this past weekend. I was torn between a thin, curved band with small diamonds all the way across and 2 (one on each side) bands with 5 bigger diamonds. The curved one was more simple, showed off my amazing engagement ring more, and fit together better (I have a 3 stone princess cut e-ring). When I was trying to decide the sales lady mentioned that the curved rings were just coming back into style and the amount they carried had quadrupled. This made me realize that the curved band would also go OUT of style and look dated pretty quickly. Thus, I chose the 2 bands with 5 round diamonds. It’s just something to think about because I never really thought about it before.
Post # 10
@MsHangry: ditto! I don’t know why getting my ring size did not cross my mind!
My ring was 2 whole sizes too big and it literally took 3 entire weeks to get it back. Most rings don’t take that long but it was not fun to part with it right after getting it!
I would also pay attention to the size of the diamonds to see what looks good on your hand, and what you are comfortable with. Have fun!
Post # 11
I just called the local place (that a friend’s family has used for years) and the guy was so nice! I told him what we were interested and he was like, well that’s what I do, come on it!
Then he said if you wanted to come in the next few days, that would be perfect because we are pretty dead right now.
I am SO EXCITED! We have been seriously talking about marriage for about 8 months. I made a ring inspiration folder when Boyfriend or Best Friend told me he wanted to design a ring, I finally got the guts to show him about 2 months ago! Weeeeee!
I know he isn’t going to buy anything til we have jobs (we both graduate in May), but it is still a really exciting first step! I’ll probably be back tomorrow to gush about it since Boyfriend or Best Friend doesn’t want anyone to know yet! (especially since everyone already says things like, “when you guys register,” “at your wedding make sure..”)
Post # 12
I would take a look at a few different colours and grades of diamonds. It is all personal preference, but just keep in mind that for the amount of money most people would spend, you cannot have it all – perfect cut, perfect colour, perfect clarity and a large diamond. So decide which factors are the most important. We decided we wanted high clarity and a better colour, but you might find that cut and carat are more important to you. So look at a lot, and decide what’s important before you choose a center stone.
Also, I second the people who said figure out your size.
Last tip – remember that you can bargain on the price of rings. I went with FH to buy my ring, and we simply said “We like this ring, but it”s a little out of our price range. Can you do any better on the price?” and she knocked 20% off the price.
Post # 13
Lots of places that offer financing will offer you a discount if you pay up front (i.e. not using their financing)– ask about that too.