(Closed) Ring shopping – Or a surprise?

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Did/will you ring shop with your SO?
    Yes, of course! : (61 votes)
    43 %
    No, I want to be surprised (minus a few hints here & there), : (46 votes)
    33 %
    Yes, but I hadn't planned on it! : (20 votes)
    14 %
    Other (will explain below). : (14 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 3
    14739 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I didn’t shop with him and never tried on any e-rings.  But I do have a lot of other rings and had a pretty good idea of the style I liked.  I just dropped “hints” (aka sending him a bunch of links) and pointed out what I liked or disliked about each one.  The rest was all up to him.

    Post # 4
    1331 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    My guy and I have looked in a couple mall jewelry stores, and I tried on several styles at Helzberg Diamonds last Christmas.  The saleslady was very pushy and tried to make him apply for a credit card, but I said no way!  The rings in our budget ($1,000) were very tiny and didn’t impress me much, and I kept thinking about the extreme mark-up involved.

    He’s been saving money all year long, putting a little here and there, and I’ve told him to stay clear of any mall chains.  I’ve also sent him about 5 different links to rings I adore, so I have no idea what it’s going to look like.  I’m glad to still have a surprise but to still know that my preferences will be taken into consideration.  Can’t wait!!!

    Post # 5
    2588 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I didn’t try on any rings, but we agreed on a basic style (princess cut) and a metal (white gold). From there, we worked on narrowing down some stones and eventually decided on a rhodolite garnet.

    Post # 6
    10287 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    We shared the entire experience together and I wouldn’t have changed a thing. I respect those who’s FI’s picked out their rings but I got to decide what ring I will wear for the rest of my life. The proposal was a surprise and I liked that, but being involved in the experience was special for both of us. Not to mention, the rings that he was picking out and the rings that I liked were nothing alike. Of course I would have been ecstatic with whatever he would have chosen but getting to choose it myself made it extra special for me. Also, ring shopping was by far the most fun that I have ever had shopping in my whole life. 

    After getting engaged some of my friends and family gave us crap for me picking out the ring. I was kind of annoyed by this since theres no rule that says the guy has to choose the ring. To defend myself, I asked them if they could have chosen the ring, if they would have picked the ring their (now) husbands chose and 2/3 of them said probably not (of course they would never tell their husbands that). 

    I guess it comes down to how much involvement you really want to have and I wanted to be involved in every aspect of our wedding. 


    Post # 8
    329 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I always thought we’d go ring shopping (I didn’t think he’d want to pick it out on his own). But he totally surprised me. I had shown him a picture of what I wanted so he knew the basics, then he got my bestfriend to ok the ring before the bought it.

    Post # 9
    290 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Fiance actually proposed in a jewlery store.  I know it doesn’t sound very romantic but I was completely shocked!   We were out shopping and had stopped in a jewlery store, I was looking for a gift for someone else when Fiance called me over to the other side of the store saying “How about we get one of these?”  I looked at him and said those are e-rings thinking he was joking around until he asked the sales women to see the ring I had always dreamed of.  It was so sweet and I was completed taken of guard.  So I got to help pick out my ring, was shocked and got to have the ring slipped on my finger when I said yes.

    Post # 10
    149 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Fiance took me ring shopping as a surprise, but he just wanted a general idea of what kind of style to get. He bought me a blue flower ring while we were looking at engagement rings (so that will be my “something blue”!). I do not think my ring preference changed much after trying them on. I did not think I would like the soltaire rings and I was right. I loved the three stone rings!

    When he went to buy the actual e-ring, he took my sister with him. It is beautiful and I like that my Maid/Matron of Honor was there with him 🙂 I was also completely suprised when he opened the box, it took me a couple seconds to respond!


    Post # 12
    9053 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    We really wanted it to be a surprise, and he wanted to do it along but was nervous that he’d pick something I hated.  I told him I’d give him 10 minutes in a jewelery store to point out a few things that I liked/disliked, but he made the ultimate choice.

    Post # 13
    1297 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I hadn’t planned on it, but it happened one random Sunday afternoon while strolling at the mall.  We were walking by a store and he asked me if I wanted to try some on.  Like you, I obliged! I also thought I knew what I wanted but after trying on a simple round solitaire, it didn’t suit my hands (I have long thin fingers) that well.  I knew I wanted a little something more, so the jeweler showed us a bunch of rings and of course I fell in love with a Tacori ring. 

    I explained to my fi that I NEVER expected him to actuallly get it for me, but to use it as a guide for what I liked and looked good on me.  Needless to say, he bought me the Tacori and of course I love it.  He said he couldn’t imagine getting me something else after he saw how my face lit up when I put on that ring =). 

    We looked at this ring back in January of this year and he didn’t propose until May, so I was starting to think he had changed his mind about proposing lol I was still VERY surprised when he finallyyyy asked me!

    I wanted to add that a friend of mine was convinced that she wanted a 3 diamond princess cut and when she got it for her engagement she was less than thrilled (of crouse her Fi doesn’t know this).  It doesn’t suit her hand nicely =(

    Post # 15
    256 posts
    Helper bee

    I’ve been ring shopping, but only on my own, or with my mom.

    My FH hasn’t brought it up, or suggested we go in anyhwere…and I don’t want to be the one who does it.  If course, if he were to ever suggest we go looking together, I’d be all about it.

    I respect him wanting to choose, and have it be a surprise, but I wanted my mom to know what I like so that she can help him if he needs it.

    Post # 16
    2867 posts
    Sugar bee

    I picked out a stand-in ring until we get married and only wear wedding bands.

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