Post # 32
I didn’t come out and ask my fiance what his ring budget was prior to ring shopping (I actually didn’t know what maximum he’d settled on in his mind until he was asked at the jewelry store). We do, however, talk very openly about finances.
That being said, before we looked at rings, I showed him several options online that I really liked. Tacori has the price range listed for each ring style, so we looked at that and I got a better feel for the range he was hoping to stay within.
I voted “something else” because I think you can discuss it without saying, “So, what’s your ring budget?” There’s nothing wrong with being so frank, but I think it can be more useful to show him some of your favorite ring styles online and discuss the pricing. That way, you’ll both be on the same page with regard to what you’re looking for and what he’s likely willing to spend … And you’ll be able to do this without putting him on the spot (this is especially helpful if he’s more private about money issues).
As many other posters have mentioned, you’ll definitely have to talk finances at some point in the near future. In my opinion, though, this conversation doesn’t have to start with the ring budget.
Post # 33
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@Christy42213: I agree about disagreeing with
@Mrs.KMM: I specifically told my Fiance I would agree to whatever he could afford because I did not want to start wedding planning in debt for my ring.
Post # 34
I would approach it in a different manner, discuss what is important to you both in a ring, i.e. quality of diamond vs carat size, what kind of metal, etc. Let that lead into who much to spend.
Post # 35
discuss it before going to the store. you dont want to put him in an awkward situation if you find a ring you like and he can’t afford it, then the sales guy is trying to push it on him….
Post # 36
We discussed it before we went to the store. I’m really glad we did because the sales associates definitely talked to him about it in front of me. We had some good experiences in ring stores and some awful experiences in ring stores, but I’m glad we went. Most guys are clueless about the cost of rings before they go, so it was an eye-opening experience for SO. The only problem now is that SO wants to save for a nicer ring and I rather have a less expensive ring now!! he he. Happy Shopping!!!