(Closed) Ring Shopping: Share your Stories and Advice!

posted 6 years ago in Rings
  • poll: How was ring shopping with your SO?
    Fantastic : (29 votes)
    35 %
    Okay : (27 votes)
    33 %
    Miserable : (2 votes)
    2 %
    We didn't go ring shopping together : (22 votes)
    27 %
    Other : (2 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    5001 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Unless you want something really unique, you can probably just go to one. We went to a small jewelry store my then-BF had found and they had probably 300 CZ engagement rings that you could try on to see what style you like. They had every style you could imagine, and the guy just stood there as I tried on probably half of them! You don’t need to buy the ring from that store, but you can just find what you like, tell your Boyfriend or Best Friend, and let him do the rest of the work when he wants to buy you a ring. My Fiance brought me to a jewelry store as a surprise, and then that was the last I heard of it until he proposed. He did a lot of research and got a great deal- he ended up buying the diamonds separately and having a jeweler do the setting to put it all together. If your Boyfriend or Best Friend hates this kind of thing, don’t make it take longer than it needs to! Or maybe go for drinks first ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 5
    Member
    67 posts
    Worker bee

    I’m just like him!  I dreaded going into a store with my fiance because I knew the salespeople would try to sink their teeth into us!

    This is what I did to avoid the pressure:  I went with a friend to SEVERAL stores, because I had no idea what I liked.  I narrowed it down to 2 rings, in 2 different stores.  THEN I took my fiance back and felt there was less pressure.

    Post # 7
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    2116 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    lol ring shopping was so easy for us. I pretty much walked into Jared, located a band that I fell in love with in about 15 seconds, told the jeweler that I wanted a smaller diamond… and we looked elsewhere, but that band was 100% what I wanted.

     

    He didn’t buy it at Jared, but he’s having something made by a friend of the family who is a jeweler. I assume it will look similar to the one at Jared ๐Ÿ™‚ but I have no idea really…and I have no idea when he’ll have it in his hands!

    Post # 9
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    4948 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    We went to an independent local jeweler where the employees  DO NOT work off commission. Makes a WORLD of difference! We had zero pressure. Even better…we were looking at several stones. One was E or F in color but had a big noticeable feather inclusion that would not be able to be hidden under a prong. Even though they would have made more money from us on that diamond, the jeweler agreed that we should pass because the inclusion was visible and I wouldn’t be as happy. I really loved that he was concerned about my happiness and not about extra $ he would have made off of us.

    Also, a good jeweler will let you take the stone outside to look at it in natural light (because we all know what store lights do!).

    Post # 11
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    4948 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @discodance:  Sure thing! It really makes a huge difference in the experience. I did go to chain stores just to get a look at what was out there. But I knew I’d end up at an independent place to purchase.

    Also, I researched yelp and other review sites, along with the Better Business Bureau before going to the store. They had an excellent reputation, so that also helped win me over. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Good luck!

    Post # 12
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    3357 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I didn’t ring shop with him. my Darling Husband has zero taste in jewelry because he has zero interest in it and like your SO, feels awkward in jewelry stores (even now, when I go in for my ring maintenance). What I did was just walk into three stores with my Mother-In-Law and SIL, tell the consultant the budget Darling Husband and I had discussed, and went from there. I picked out a few settings at each store, got my sizing, and left the rest to him.

    the store he ended up going to to get my ring was very professional and basically educated him on diamonds while he was there to pick mine and I must say he did a great job ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 13
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    11325 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    This might not be a problem if you go into nicer jewelry stores, but regardless you should probably educate yourself about diamonds before you go. I went ring shopping with a friend of mine for his gf (now fiance), and I was SHOCKED at the low quality diamonds they kept shoving in our faces. Not GIA certified, poor color (I was told “oh that only looks yellow-ish because of the lights” hmmm then how come my E colored e-ring looks bright white and it only your J colored diamond that looks yellow?), visible inclusions (“oh no one really looks that close don’t worry about that”- ummm no), and not very well cut. Ultimately I directed him to bluenile.com where he could get a good quality diamond because doing that was the same price as getting a low quality diamond from a brick-and-mortar. 

    Post # 14
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    1252 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I recommend going to a reputable local jeweler rather than a chain store in a mall.  You should call ahead and make an appointment, and at that time explain to the jeweler exactly what type of diamonds you are interested in (i.e. shape & carat size, price range) so they can have some sent in to your specifications to look at during your visit.  It will make a world of difference to have a jeweler that knows what you are looking for and is ready for you before you go to the store!

    Post # 15
    Member
    8041 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @discodance:  My suggestion would be to buy from Blue Nile. That way there’s no pressure, and you get more bang for your buck because there’s no overhead costs since they’re online, and they’re also one of the biggest purchasers of diamonds in the world so they get good prices from their suppliers. You also have full control in selecting your diamond – you can see the GIA reports and pick based on which of the 4Cs is most important to you.

    That’s what we’re doing. We bought from Blue Nile before and their service is excellent. They’ve been so helpful so far answering my zillion emails that I’ve asked thus far about their policies, diamonds, settings, etc.

    Still to me it’s a bit scary buying sight unseen, but they have a 30-day money back returns policy so that’s fine.

    If you’re really set on buying from a jewelery store then I’d suggest going in with an idea of what you want. I know when I shop w. my guy he’s extremely impatient so if I have a idea of 3 or 4 things I want to look at then that’s about his threshold.

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