(Closed) Ring shopping virgins

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I told Fiance some likes and dislikes but I never went shopping. I was too afraid of falling for something and then not getting it and always thinking of it.

He asked me lots of questions and I wasn’t too fond of answering. 🙂 I wanted it to be from him.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I was. Until he asked so he didn’t pick something I hate lol

Post # 5
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22 posts
Newbee

Nope – never been ring shopping either. A couple of years ago I emailed him some photos of some ring styles I liked, but that was the end of it.

Post # 6
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1595 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I actually think the majority of people DON’T pick out their rings beforehand…it just seems like more do because they are the ones that talk about it (ie:  myself!)

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Dell79:  That sounds logical.

Also – I bet most waiting ladies who haven’t talked about rings with their boyfriends aren’t thinking much about planning either. And thus aren’t on this site. Waiting ladies who’ve been talking weddings things are more likely to be waiting Bees.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

My SO and I have never talked rings or styles or anything. I’ve mentioned a few times in passing (while watching TLC or the bacherlorette) some rings I have liked but he does not know exactly which one or exact style.

As far as planning though – I am TOTALLY guilty of looking into resorts for the past 8 months or so. There get’s to be a point when you have been dating so long like I have with my SO, that you do some “research”. I have not picked any of course but just looked into different pricing and packaging because we have always said we would have a destination wedding. A little research never hurt.

Post # 10
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Helper bee

I finally went shopping with him this past weekend!  I think it helps relieve some anxiety for the guys once the shopping trip is over.  They absolutely want to get something you like since you will be wearing it indefinitely!  I like a lot of things, so basically he has a list of 5-6 rings that he can pick from or use them as a reference for picking something else!  It helps me to stop looking and obsessing so much because he knows what I like.  Everyone is different but a little shopping doesn’t hurt 🙂

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Among the people I know, I’m one of two that actually picked out the ring before he proposed, and I’m the only one I know who was literally there from start to finish (shopping around > picking out styles > narrowing down > choose THE ONE > choosing the exact diamond in it, not just the size/cut). Everyone else either got the stone as a surprise on a temporary setting/ring and they picked out the final setting themselves or they picked out the style/general carat/general color range but then the man did the final picking of THE ONE. Of course, there are a few of the “traditional” brides that got THE ONE without having any input at all.

Post # 13
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Newbee

I WANT to go ring shopping with my SO.  We just started talking openly about a ring a few weeks ago.  I was told flat out no that I was not allowed to go with him, and I was a little heart broken.  But as a compromise I’m allowed to send him “yes” “no” pictures.  Things I want my ring to have and things I would hate my ring to have.  But I felt the same as you a few weeks ago. SO and i have never looked at jewelery together, so I’m right there with ya 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@killerQueen13:  It was sort of both of our ideas. We had gotten me a Valentine’s Day present earlier that year from a high end jewelry store (I actually picked my gift out since I was forcing him to return the original gift, which I thought he had spent way too much money on) and since we were surrounded by rings, we just had that conversation (the “do you like this” or “how about that” one). I had been hinting/nagging/pushing for an engagement for several months already so I had already been showing him pictures in magazines and commenting on them. At that point, I think he was 75% ready to buy a ring so then we went to many different stores both big and small (took about 3 months total) and tried on all sorts of rings.

We are both rather particular and we knew 100% that we didn’t want upgrade my ring ever so this was a big decision for both of us. We have been together for many years and cohabitating for much of those years so we are used to making decisions as a team (whether it’s something trivial like a set of dishes or something pricier like a new couch) so in some ways, it suited our relationship to pick out the ring together. FWIW, even now in wedding planning, we literally have made every decision together, even my dress!

Post # 15
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3265 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I haven’t actually been shopping with him. My friend and I went to get ideas of what we want (little does she know her SO already has her ring :D). But I found a set I love and I told him all about it. Soooo, I’ve gone shopping, just not with him.

Post # 16
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Busy bee

@killerQueen13:  Matt knows i dont want anything set too high, I like my rings deep set so it wont catch on everything. There was a split shank ring PIPthat i loved!!!

 

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