(Closed) Ring Shopping with friend’s boyfriend?

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

If you know your friend, you can hopefully have an idea of what she likes (white vs yellow gold, classic style versus modern or extra sparkle.) I would go and pick what you think she would like, but have several options for him to choose from, so he can have the final pick. Your friend is more likely to have a ring she loves if her boyfriend asks someone who knows her style 🙂

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010 - MacLean Park

It is pretty common. Men like to know that their girlfriend will love the ring he buys, and often ask advice from her close female friends and relatives. I actually sent my husband images of ones I loved, but then, we had very open conversations about when we’d be engaged and get married. I think you can easily reassure him that your friend won’t be pissed, she’ll appreciate the thought behind the gesture. I mean, it seems he really wants to make her happy, and who knows a girl’s taste better than her friends?

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010 - MacLean Park

Oh, and a handy help for him would be for you to “borrow” one of her rings, to get her size

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

My best friend and I had this discussion and I would have been happy for her to go and help out my fella with this. As it was the fella and I both went ring shopping together and he pointed out the ring I ended up getting (its perfect!) so he would have done a great job anyway.

It’s a lot of pressure on the guy to buy a ring that a) is going to be on your hand for the rest of your life and b) if it isn’t quite right has a whole lot of awkward consequences! I think getting some advice from a close friend is a great idea – I certainly wouldn’t have been upset if my bestie knew before me (in fact I knew before she did when her husband was going to propose to her) and I think it’s nice that the guy clearly wants to do a great job and is willing to seek advice and get some help on such an important purchace!

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think bringing a close friend is a great idea.  I wouldn’t have been upset at all if my husband had done this.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Oh, and an other idea– he could always get her a simple solitaire and then she could go in and pick her setting.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think it’s pretty common and a lot of times people will also bring a sibling to do this.  I have to say for myself, though, I wouldn’t have loved if my hubby has brought someone along to look with him other than me.  I can’t explain why, but I just wouldn’t have been a fan.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My best friends went with my Hubby. I was not mad at all.

The best part is my HB picked out my ring without her help. He knew it was “the one”.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

It’s very common! My best friends and I actually exchanged pictures of our dream rings so that if our guys ever ask our friends for advice, we’ll have references handy. 🙂

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

My Fiance took my sister, but as soon as he saw the ring he knew that was what he would buy. My sister even asked him if he was sure he didn’t want to look around some more and he said “no, i know this is the one that she would love”…he didn’t even need her help, just more liked having her there for emotional supportLaughing

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