Post # 1
Hello! My guy has been designing a ring for me and I know it’s done, so soon it will be here and then hopefully we will get engaged. I also have huge fingers. It’s genetic, I dunno, I have been a size 9 since I was like 15. I’m not overweight or anything, and I’m actually smaller than I have been in the past right now. I’m in much better shape than I was 2 years ago when I was firmly a 9. An old ring of mine that is very thick started fitting snugly a few months ago, and I just tried it on having lost more weight since then and it is TINY. I can get it just past my knuckle and then it’s so tight. I am distraught, because the ring is supposed to be that same size, and it’s already done and paid for. Additionally, I tried to do that thing where you use a string to find your ring size, and I literally can’t even find my size on the chart. I don’t understand! My fingers just look sort of average, but according to the internet I’m like, somehow bigger than a 16? I was a 9 a year ago! My fingers haven’t visibly changed, and I’ve literally lost weight, despite not being significantly overweight in the first place. If the ring is a 9, there is no way to safely resize it to a size that doesn’t even seem to exist for rings. I’m so upset, bees. I just moved to New York and have frankly spent week dehydrated, doing tons of moving and running up and down stairs and all over the city in intense humidity, so maybe it’s at least in part swelling? And I just feel so sad because it makes me feel like some kind of alien, there are so many women with such beautiful elegant hands who can fit into every sample ring at any store, and I feel like a beast. I talked to my partner about it and he is very soothing and confident that it doesn’t matter, that we can have gold added to the band to size it up if we need to, that we can get advice from the jeweler we ordered it from or send it back to them if we’re really nervous about having the work done locally. That’s a relief–of course, I guess it was never like he wasn’t going to marry me because my fingers were big. I just wish I understood how such an insane shift could happen so fast and how my average/proportional looking fingers could somehow be the biggest fingers out there? I know this is a silly thing to be panicking about, and ultimately life is good, this is just feeding off of existing insecurities and stresses. And now I’m afraid I’ll never be able to wear my beautiful ring.
Post # 2
Have you gone to get sized at a store? Going from a size 9-16 would be noticeable.
Post # 3
- Wedding: April 2019 - USA
I think that a size 9-16 change seems excessive and is probably not accurate. I would agree with PP and go to a brick and mortar store and get sized. My fingers swell in the summer also but it would not account for more than a 1 size difference.
Post # 4
Sounds like something is off with your size chart. Are you using centimeters instead of inches? Diameter instead of circumference?
Post # 5
Humidity and exercise can make your hands swell as can other things like hormones and eating to much salt and not enough water. I wouldn’t stress to much about it. Go get sized and if you truly are jumping sizes like that I may suggest taking to your Dr. Just to be safe, I thought that was a possible symptom of diabetes.
Post # 6
rustandstardust : go to Michaels, you can buy a ring sizer like at the jewelers there and try it at home at different times of the day and under different conditions, like after doing something strenuous or the day after eating a lot of salt. I doubt you are actually a 16 but fingers are wierd and can fluctuate drastically.
Post # 7
It is almost impossible for your ring size to have changed from a 9 to a 16 without you noticing. That’s a difference that your skin would have trouble accommodating without stretch marks or without you not being able to bend them for a while. Seriously, that’s a huge difference.
My finger can vary as much as perhaps three sizes. When it is really cold, my rings fit loose, and I might be a size and a half smaller. When it is hot and I’ve been walking, my fingers can really swell and can go up a size and a half. But I can feel when that happens, and my fingers feel HUGE. I can hardly bend them because it is so uncomfortable that they are so swollen.
So something weird is going on with the measurement of your size. If you aren’t feeling like your hands are giant balloons, then your ring size has not increased by SEVEN sizes. It just can’t do that without you feeling it. So go get sized again. Yes, a ring can fit tighter or looser, but not seven sizes without something really, really weird going on.
Post # 8
I think the numbers are probably off a bit, but is there any chance you’re pregnant? My SIlLs fingers swell up a lot in the early weeks of pregnancy. It was actually what made her first suspect she was expecting their second child.
Post # 9
Don’t worry too much. The humidity can cause your fingers to swell up quite a bit. Add to that the fact that you were lifting things and that can add to it. It won’t be your normal everday size once you get back to normal life.
Also, keep in mind that your size 9 thick band that you have will fit more like a 7 1/2-8 if it is wide and thick. Your engagement ring wil probably not be as wide as that so it should fit more like a true 9. (When making a wide band, I usually make a full size bigger)
As far as ring sizing, if you are in NY it should be absolutely no problem going down to the diamond district and finding someone to size it for you. Most of the master stone setters are actually in NYC. They are considered the most experienced in the business. Do not take it to a mall jewelry store whatever you do. They for the most part have newer, underpaid bench jewelers. I would not trust them to mess with a custom ring ever, as they simply will not have the training or experience. Or send it back to the original maker if you are comfortable with that although I know shipping it can be nerve wrecking.
Hope this helps.
Post # 10
most ring jewelers will give you a free ring sizer… no need to mess around with string.
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2019 - Turkey
oh shoot! I get it. There are different sizings. For example I’m 14 in my country but according to US size it is apparently 7. So, 9 and 16 looks like the exactly same difference.