Ring Size Fiasco – Losing my Mind! HELP :(

posted 1 year ago in Rings
Post # 2
10 posts

Girl!! I feel your pain! My ring never truly fitted me right so I get the struggle!. To be honest, my wedding band holds my engagement ring on my finger. Also, my ring finger has gotten smaller since we married. I think mostly because the weigh of my engagement ring plus the fact that I rarely take it off helped “carve” a skin wedding ring mark… idk… I would go with your regular size and hope for the best! Good luck!


Post # 3
2511 posts
Sugar bee

I have your exact problem. I am a true 3.75 in the band width and type my ering is – 1.8 mm curved/comfort-fit.

I live in a climate that is cold and dry in the winter months, and I don’t like for my ring to EVER be tight. I opted to go with a size 4. I was worried it would feel too loose now in the winter, and had planned on getting these (https://www.amazon.com/Ring-Snuggies-Sizer-Assorted-Adjuster/dp/B0014DGXU8) but haven’t felt the need to.

Since you hate for your ring to be too tight, I advise going with the bigger size and putting in sizing beads, a spring, or using snuggies in the winter.

Post # 4
9086 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2016

So did the person resizing the ring just never size your finger at all?

I would get sizing beads put in.

Post # 5
615 posts
Busy bee

I would request a free ring sizing set (Blue Nile was the one I used). It comes with plastic rings in each size, so you can actually test them out for a bit to see how they feel throughout the day etc.

Post # 7
1924 posts
Buzzing bee

It sounds like your fingers may swell enough (due to weather, hormones, salt/diet, etc) enough to make a noticeable difference in the size of your finger.

Mine do too. What I did was I had sizing beads (also called sizing bumps, I’ve even heard them called tiffany balls before) added inside my ring. It can take a bit of experimentation to figure out the right size, but here’s what I did:

I usually wear an 8 to an 8.5. But when my fingers swell, I wear a 9. So I had my ring made as a size 9, but then had sizing beads placed in the shank to make the ring fit like a size 8.5. It fits quite well most of the time, but when my finger swell, there’s a bit of extra room for the swelling.

Post # 8
1177 posts
Bumble bee

nicolina03 :  Well, I think the term “fiasco” is a bit dramatic.  Trying to get the best fit for your ring is a problem a lot of women have, myself included.

I would get it sized at 3 1/2 and if you have to go up once you get your wedding band (which according to your stats, would be in 2 years) go up then.  If you can’t get the ring over your knuckle easily at a size 3 1/2 then that’s size to go with.  As long as you can’t shake it off your finger, it’s fine.

It’s perfectly normal for your finger to be different sizes throughout the day (your fingers swell at night) and depending on what you’re eating (as you see, salt can cause them to swell too).  I don’t think you need to run to the jeweler each time your ring feels a bit off.

Post # 9
3458 posts
Sugar bee

Get sized properly. If you are prone to swelling, go with the larger. They make ring guards precisely for this reason or you can get sizing beads put in.

Post # 11
5961 posts
Bee Keeper

I know I am a size 3.  My original wedding set was a 3, and this ering is a size 3.25 because it’s much wider than my old ring.  It’s tight enough that it doesn’t budge when I’m comfortable, but when I’m cold the ring will slide a bit back and forth but never off my finger. When my hands are wet it is easy enough to come off with twisting it.

I always believe that a ring should be easy to put on difficult to take off because you don’t want it falling off when you’re cold.  I would also get sized correctly.

Post # 12
769 posts
Busy bee

I feel your pain, trust me. My ring was made as a 3.75, and it’s loose because my hands are always cold. That being said, I don’t want to size it down any further because then it won’t fit over my knuckle, and honestly I’m worried about damaging the ring in the sizing process.

I purchased these size adjusters off of Amazon (link: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B072FGK4FH/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o01_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1) and absolutely love them. They just twist on, kind of like a slinky, and they are really comfortable since they contour to the shape of the band. You get a ton of them in the pack in three different sizes. Highly recommend.

Post # 13
5007 posts
Bee Keeper

I would do 3.75 with sizing beads. 

Try on a 3.5 with a 3.5 wedding band and see how it feels. I imagine it would be a bit snug before any ‘summer swelling’. Your rings will always fit snugger when there are more than one, and its pretty temporary that you’ll only be wearing 1. 

Post # 14
1556 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I’m typically cold natured, especially in the office. My rings are a bit loose most times. When I’m at home on the couch watching Netflix with Darling Husband, I’m warm, and my rings are snug. So, I use ring snuggies to keep my ring on at work, and it works out fine.

I would advise getting a 3 3/4, and using snuggies in the winter.

Post # 15
1052 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Welcome aboard the struggle bus. I have this problem too. My finger is somewhere around a 4. But we bought a 4.25 because in the summer when I’m hot or sweaty, my finger gets a bit swollen. But in the winter, it’s super loose.. I’m afraid it’ll actually fall off. It kinda swings around my finger. I don’t have a solution. Just here to say, you’re not alone lol

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