Post # 1
Hi everyone – prepare yourselves for a long winded story (I apologize in advance).
Basically, I have been going through an absolute nightmare with my engagement ring and I really need someone to give me peace of mind/advice. I got engaged this past September, and received the most perfect ring – a simple white gold solitaire as I have always wanted. I will start by saying I have extremely small hands for a grown woman… but the problem is I cannot figure out exactly WHAT size I am.
Long story short, my engagement ring was *apparently* sized to a 3 as per the jeweler who sold it to my Fiance. When he proposed, it was quite hot & humid and my ring felt like it fit… but felt a smidge loose. Being paranoid of losing my brand new ring, I went to the store it was purchased and asked if I should have it made a teeeeeeeeeeny bit smaller. They said sure, and going by the notion it was a 3, we settled on sizing it down a tiny bit below the 3 mark on the mandrel. It came back a week later and was WAY TOO SMALL. I then said “forget it, just put it back to the way it was & I will deal with it feeling a bit loose”. Comes back again, and is still way too small. I ended up getting my ring re-sized three times and each time it came back too small. I figure the store screwed up and actually sold my Fiance the ring in a size 4 (NOT a 3 as they said) which is why it kept coming back small every time I tried to get it to fit.
Because of all the sizing my band it totally ruined and I have to get my diamond re-set in a brand new mount. I can still wear the ring while I wait for the new mount to come in, and I am so conflicted on what size to order the new mount in. Right now it’s a size 3 1/2 which fits me for the most part but can get quite tight when I am hot/sleeping/eat salty foods. Because of this whole ordeal I start to panic every time it gets a bit tight and just want to take it off. I also live in Canada where the winters can get super cold (and my office is quite cold)… so I don’t know what to do. Right now my hands are cold and the ring feels fine – I can shake my hands and it slips upwards a little but not over my knuckle. When my hands get really hot and the ring gets tight I can still remove it but I just get anxiety. I also worry it sort of gives me a slight muffin-top which I hate.
My question is: should I get my new band in a 3 1/2 and pray it still fits me when my hands swell in the summer & try to not panic when it gets a bit tight, or should I get it bumped up to a 3 3/4 and deal with it perhaps being a bit loose in the colder months? I am terrified a 3 3/4 will be WAY too big and will fly off all the time and be unwearable. I also know when I get a wedding band it will probably have to be a 3 3/4… ahh. I am trying to make the right choice so I can finally end this whole ordeal and enjoy my ring, but I am terrified I am making the wrong decision and will make everything worse. THANK YOU!!!
Post # 2
Girl!! I feel your pain! My ring never truly fitted me right so I get the struggle!. To be honest, my wedding band holds my engagement ring on my finger. Also, my ring finger has gotten smaller since we married. I think mostly because the weigh of my engagement ring plus the fact that I rarely take it off helped “carve” a skin wedding ring mark… idk… I would go with your regular size and hope for the best! Good luck!
Post # 3
I have your exact problem. I am a true 3.75 in the band width and type my ering is – 1.8 mm curved/comfort-fit.
I live in a climate that is cold and dry in the winter months, and I don’t like for my ring to EVER be tight. I opted to go with a size 4. I was worried it would feel too loose now in the winter, and had planned on getting these (https://www.amazon.com/Ring-Snuggies-Sizer-Assorted-Adjuster/dp/B0014DGXU8) but haven’t felt the need to.
Since you hate for your ring to be too tight, I advise going with the bigger size and putting in sizing beads, a spring, or using snuggies in the winter.
Post # 4
So did the person resizing the ring just never size your finger at all?
I would get sizing beads put in.
Post # 5
I would request a free ring sizing set (Blue Nile was the one I used). It comes with plastic rings in each size, so you can actually test them out for a bit to see how they feel throughout the day etc.
Post # 6
When I initially went back to get it taken down smaller the first time, NOPE. I was speaking with the woman who sold the ring to my fiance and she was very adament the ring was a size 3 because “she checked it herelf when she sold it” to my fiance. So unforunately (and a major reason why I am kicking myself) I will never actually know what it started out as, and I am just assuming it was a 4 because it DEFINITELY was not a 3. I also knew the woman because my family has been buying jewlery from her store for a long time so I guess I just trusted her word… lesson learned!
Post # 7
It sounds like your fingers may swell enough (due to weather, hormones, salt/diet, etc) enough to make a noticeable difference in the size of your finger.
Mine do too. What I did was I had sizing beads (also called sizing bumps, I’ve even heard them called tiffany balls before) added inside my ring. It can take a bit of experimentation to figure out the right size, but here’s what I did:
I usually wear an 8 to an 8.5. But when my fingers swell, I wear a 9. So I had my ring made as a size 9, but then had sizing beads placed in the shank to make the ring fit like a size 8.5. It fits quite well most of the time, but when my finger swell, there’s a bit of extra room for the swelling.
Post # 8
nicolina03 : Well, I think the term “fiasco” is a bit dramatic. Trying to get the best fit for your ring is a problem a lot of women have, myself included.
I would get it sized at 3 1/2 and if you have to go up once you get your wedding band (which according to your stats, would be in 2 years) go up then. If you can’t get the ring over your knuckle easily at a size 3 1/2 then that’s size to go with. As long as you can’t shake it off your finger, it’s fine.
It’s perfectly normal for your finger to be different sizes throughout the day (your fingers swell at night) and depending on what you’re eating (as you see, salt can cause them to swell too). I don’t think you need to run to the jeweler each time your ring feels a bit off.
Post # 9
Get sized properly. If you are prone to swelling, go with the larger. They make ring guards precisely for this reason or you can get sizing beads put in.
Post # 10
redmango : I see what you are saying, but the reason I used the term “fiasco” is because in my eyes, it has been one. I waited a very long time for this ring and it has been nothing but an issue since I received it. It’s not very fun to be engaged for two months (and be ringless the majority of that time) and then have to get a brand new ring already due to reasons that were out of my control.
I do agree that my fingers will always change size during the day, but I just am a bit paranoid right now because multiple times I was in a jewlery store and was told my ring fit me pefectly, but each time it was much too small. I guess it’s just hard for me to think rationally about it right now! But I do appreciate your feedback :).
Post # 11
I know I am a size 3. My original wedding set was a 3, and this ering is a size 3.25 because it’s much wider than my old ring. It’s tight enough that it doesn’t budge when I’m comfortable, but when I’m cold the ring will slide a bit back and forth but never off my finger. When my hands are wet it is easy enough to come off with twisting it.
I always believe that a ring should be easy to put on difficult to take off because you don’t want it falling off when you’re cold. I would also get sized correctly.
Post # 12
I feel your pain, trust me. My ring was made as a 3.75, and it’s loose because my hands are always cold. That being said, I don’t want to size it down any further because then it won’t fit over my knuckle, and honestly I’m worried about damaging the ring in the sizing process.
I purchased these size adjusters off of Amazon (link: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B072FGK4FH/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o01_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1) and absolutely love them. They just twist on, kind of like a slinky, and they are really comfortable since they contour to the shape of the band. You get a ton of them in the pack in three different sizes. Highly recommend.
Post # 13
I would do 3.75 with sizing beads.
Try on a 3.5 with a 3.5 wedding band and see how it feels. I imagine it would be a bit snug before any ‘summer swelling’. Your rings will always fit snugger when there are more than one, and its pretty temporary that you’ll only be wearing 1.
Post # 14
I’m typically cold natured, especially in the office. My rings are a bit loose most times. When I’m at home on the couch watching Netflix with DH, I’m warm, and my rings are snug. So, I use ring snuggies to keep my ring on at work, and it works out fine.
I would advise getting a 3 3/4, and using snuggies in the winter.
Post # 15
Welcome aboard the struggle bus. I have this problem too. My finger is somewhere around a 4. But we bought a 4.25 because in the summer when I’m hot or sweaty, my finger gets a bit swollen. But in the winter, it’s super loose.. I’m afraid it’ll actually fall off. It kinda swings around my finger. I don’t have a solution. Just here to say, you’re not alone lol