Post # 1
I’m currently in the obsessing over rings stage 🙂 I tried some on yesterday for the first time to see what I like and give my boyfriend some ideas (at his request). I’m so excited but now I’m also a little confused about sizing. I always thought I was a 6.25, but the first store measured me at 5.25. It felt ok once on my finger but pretty tight getting over my knuckle. I tried 5.5 and they said it went over my knuckle too easily. I thought the 5.5 was more comfortable and did not feel loose. Yes it was easier to get on/off, but definitely didn’t feel like it would slip over my knuckle on its own and fall off.
Then at the second store, they said I’m a 5. That one actually hurt a tiny bit getting over my knuckle. I HATE the feeling of tight rings and don’t think getting a ring on and off should be painful! Maybe if it was a plain band which I was never going to take off, but we’re looking at a sizable stone that I would probably take on and off to sleep, work out, etc. My fingers are also thinner now because it’s cold out so I’m worried a tight ring would be even more uncomfortable in the summer. So they said I could go to 5.25. I feel like I might even be more comfortable going with 5.5 and then getting sizing beads or one of those rubber/plastic things to put in the back. Or even getting it resized down the road – but as my friend pointed out, I want to make sure it can get on my finger when he proposes! But obviously I also wouldn’t want my ring to ever fall off.
So my question is, how does your ring fit? How does it feel going over your knuckle and once on your finger? Does it ever feel too tight or too loose or fall off? Do you think I should stay at 5.25 or could I do 5.5? Thank you!!
Post # 2
My ring takes slides on pretty easily but takes about 3 seconds of wiggling to take off. It feels very comfortable once on my finger but does rotate around a little bit. I have no concerns that it will fall unless I am swimming in a pool of lard or something, since it does take some effort to get it over the knuckle.
Are you able to shake off the 5.5? If so, I’d go down to 5.25.
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2019 - City, State
My ring is very comfortable unless my hands are really hot (like if I forgot to take it off before bed and my hands swell). But even then, it’s not like it hurts or anything, it’s just a little tight. Usually my ring slides off my knuckle very quickly if my finger is straight (like I’m trying to take it off), but stays put perfectly if I’m just going about my day. When you try rings on, keep in mind things like “am I wearing a really warm sweater?” “did I have a ton of salt the day before?” Things like that will make your hands swell and your ring feel tighter.
Post # 4
- Wedding: February 2019 - City, State
I would stick with the 5.5. You know your finger better than the jewelers. I’ve had some tell me my finger is a size 4 and I need to order a size 4 ring. I tell them no, my finger is a 4.5 and that’s what I will order and it fits perfectly. I think those ring sizers they have are deceptive. I can get a size 4 to fit on my finger, but I know it would never be comfortable to wear daily, especially in the summer.
Post # 5
Before I got my e ring resized I did quite a bit if research and the advice that kept coming up was that the ring should be relatively easy to get on and take about 2-3 seconds to get off. My stone kept spinning right around which was really annoying me (because of the diamond/weight of the cathedral setting) so I went for the more snug of the two sizes that I was considering resizing to to minimize the spinning. I also got fitted in summer when my fingers were at their most ‘swollen’ from the heat which is another reason I went for the more snug of the two options that could work for me since my fingers would shrink a bit in winter.
It sounds like the 5.25 is the perfect middleground out of the fits that you described. My only concern about the 5.5 (based on your description of how it fits your finger) is it coming off when taking off a tight sweater etc.
Also keep in mind that it depends on how thick your band is too which i don’t see a mention of. A thinner more dainty band in a 5.25 wont fit as tight as a 5.25 in a thicker band.
Post # 6
I wear mine looser than most jewelers would recommend. But that is what is comfortable to me, and I’ve never lost a ring. I think a lot of jewelers and clerks in jewelry stores believe a ring isn’t the right size unless it physically cannot spin on your finger. I think that’s just far too tight and doesn’t account for swelling, large knuckles, or different finger shapes.
My knuckles are a bit big, so the ring needs to be larger enough to slide over my knuckle but that means it will spin a bit once on my finger. Sizing beads help a lot with this.
My ring is a size 9, but the equivalent of an 8.5 with the sizing beads. Most jewelers would size me as a 7 to 7.5 but that size physically hurts to put on/take off. Plus, my fingers swell a lot in the heat and when I am on my period.
You said you thought you were a 6.25. If you wear a ring that size, can you shake your hand until it falls off?
In general, you know your finger and your body better than the jewelers.
Post # 7
Good question. I didn’t try to shake it but I’m pretty sure it wouldn’t shake off over my knuckle. Maybe turn a bit.
the fit you’re describing (sliding off when your finger is straight) sounds comfortable and right. Thank you! Regarding the swelling, it should probably be comfortable but a little tight when the finger is at its largest?
thank you! You’re right, they were kind of making me doubt myself, especially the one that shoved the 5 onto my finger.
Post # 8
- Wedding: November 2019 - City, State
It doesn’t hurt, but I do find my ring slightly uncomfortable/annoying when my fingers are really swollen. It’s sort of like I just notice that it’s tight and I wish it wasn’t…but that’s about it. But I’m pretty sensitive about tight rings like you are, so it might drive me more crazy than for other people. I often just go wash my hands in cold water and it fixes any discomfort right away.
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2019 - City, State
I’m in the same exact situation as you – always thought I was around a 6 because I really disliked rings feeling tight or causing any sort of indent / muffin top situation.
My engagement ring is a 5.5 and right now, in the winter, can feel pretty loose, especially if I’ve been outside for a bit and my hands are freezing (I have Raynaud’s so they get ludicrously cold). However, when I’m at a more normal temperature it’s secure without being tight, and when I’m hot it even feels a bit snug!
Long story short, I wouldn’t size down to something that feels very tight or is painful coming off, especially since you are getting sized in the winter. If you have a lifestyle where you don’t have to flail your hands or gesticulate wildly (idk what that would be…), having it secure without being tight is probably fine!
Post # 10
My fingers drive me nuts. They fluctuate between a 3.5 and a 4.5 depending on the season so I have it sized to a 4 with sizing beads. Its ok when it’s a 4.5 because it’s only on really hot days but during the winter I was so scared I was gonna lose it without the beads (I have small knuckles so that doesn’t stop it)
I think the best test is if you feel like you’re going to lose it when you’re washing dishes or putting on gloves then it’s too loose
Post # 11
If a size 5 is tight now in the winter, it will for sure be too tight in the summer or when your fingers swell. I would go up a quarter size. For me, a quarter size up was all it took to fit perfect. That way it is snug when my fingers swell but it’s not too
tight, and when it’s cold it will just spin a little. If you really want a 5.5 I would definitely do sizing beads, as a half size is a little more significant size difference.
Post # 12
my ring is slightly loose but it is fine when worn with my wedding ring so bear in mind it will tighten up slightly when you have another bans on. If I were you I would get the 5.5 and you could even get one of those ring snuggles until you are your wedding band.
Post # 13
Thanks everyone! Maybe I’ll try to go back and try on again to decide between 5.25 and 5.5 (and I’ll try shaking my hand around more this time). But now I feel more comfortable making my own decision and not letting them convince me I should be jamming a super tight ring over my knuckle!!
Post # 14
Based on what you mentioned, it sounds like 5.5 will give you a similar experience to mine. I was told at stores that my ring size is 6.5. When I measured it myself with moissaniteco.com’s free ring sizer, it was a 6.75. However, I preferred my ring to be a little loose as I wanted the option to stack rings in which case it might sit a little higher on my finger as well as allow some room for possible weight gain during future pregnancy. So we got a size 7 and I am satisfied with how it fits.
It doesn’t fall off if I shake my hand but it does leave a slight indent/mark after wearing it for a long time and the stone moves to the side sometimes and I have to turn it to face up which I don’t mind. Occasionally, it does feel fitted (maybe when my finger swells for any reason). I have a 1.5mm white gold band with a 6mm moissanite stone.
As you mentioned, I thought it might be easier to just use an additional plastic/rubber band if it is too loose rather than going through the hassle of resizing it so I preferred it to be bigger than smaller. I would recommend getting a ring sizer so it can simulate how different sizes will feel on your finger.
Post # 15
My ring can rotate once on my finger, but it is a bit hard to get it over my knuckle and that makes me feel better and secure… I do not want to lose my ring and I love putting my hand out the window and I dance salsa which means men grab my hands and spin me and all that grabbing could make a lose ring fall off and be lost. It makes me feel happy and confidednt to qear my ring when there is a bit of a struggle to pass my knuckle and I purposely have to take it off instead of it falling off