Post # 1
I was chatting to a friend of mine yesterday – he is looking to propose to his girlfriend in the next 6 months or so (Just waiting until they save enough for their home deposit and start looking. They are currently living at home so he doesnt want to propose while they aren’t settled) and he was despairing at the fact that he cant get her ring size without letting her know.
He tried tying a string around her finger while she slept (woke her up!) and looked through her jewellery, but she doesnt wear rings! So his romantic notion of proposing with the perfect ring has gone out the window. That said, he is going to learn how to “make” a ring, so he proposes with a temporary ring that he has made her (pretty sweet anyway!) and then they will pick it out together.
But as we were talking he kept telling me “You need to make it easy on your boy and just go buy a ring that fits you, and say to him “this ring fits soooo perfectly” then leave it somewhere obvious”. I said I probably wouldn’t do that because I figure when the time comes, the boy will just ask me to go ring shopping, but my friend was quite insistent on finding a way to let him know my ring size without being obvious.
So what do you girls think? Leave a dummy ring somewhere? I dont want to be seen as pressuring him with something like that, but on the other hand… my friend is going through this right now and was quite insistent about how easy it would make things for him.
Post # 3
I would say, ask the girlfriend’s best friend. My college roommate and I talked about engagement rings ALL THE TIME before I got engaged – and we informed each other in case there were going to be any surprises. 🙂
Post # 4
I’m with you cupcake, while out one day he pulled into the diamond’s direct store by where we live and we browsed together. It was fun to look at all the settings together so he could have an idea of what I like and don’t like. While we were there the lady sized me and gave it to him so he would know for future reference. It was a fun experience although nothing has come of this YET!
Post # 5
FH and I NEVER looked at rings, talked about what I liked, etc. He wanted it to be a 100% huge surprise……….so he just got the ring a little too big on purpose and then the jeweler resized it the next day. It was a little sad to part with it for a day, but well worth it for the surprise factor. Disclaimer: owner of the jewelry store proposed this idea to FH (that we could resize or even change the band if I didn’t like it for no additional cost)…….jeweler is a friend of a friend. Not sure if there is usually a cost factor involved with this type of thing?
Post # 6
i think it depends on the guy. if you feel your bf might be the type who’d want to do this all on his own, maybe a properly fitting ring laying around would be a good thing. for me, the mister was agreeable to my idea of ring shopping together [apparently i validated a jeweler’s suggestion] because i mentioned that i’d need to get formally sized anyway since the promise ring he bought me a few years ago is now loose. i hope he remembers what my size was because i’ve forgotten! lol.
Post # 7
@CupcakeLove: I went to Shiels, tried on their sizing sample and found out I’m a J. My friend recently got engaged and she has much larger fingers, so i managed to drop it into conversation how I had tried on her ring and it was far too big, because she’s a size whatever and I’m only a size J.
Post # 8
I just requested a ring sizer online, because I’ve heard some of the sizers in some stores can vary a little. Anyway, I can’t remember my exact size, especially not for my slightly larger left hand. I plan on leaving my size on a sticky note on his desk. Subtle, right?
Post # 9
My boyfriend asked me what size I wore months ago. I have no other rings so he had nothing to compare it to. I’m a little worried because I don’t know if he already bought a ring or not but he commented on my ring size again last week and thought it was a size smaller then it is. I hope it’s not to hard to resize them bigger. He said “lets just say hypothetically I bought a ring I would’ve asked if I could get it resized”…I think that means he bought one and it’ll be fine to resize!
I would just tell your friend to get it big and it can be resized. It’s not the end of the world to wait for a resizing. At least then they would already be engaged so not really waiting for it! Otherwise maybe her parents might have a general idea, maybe they got her a ring at one point (class ring?).
Post # 10
I got my diamond in a temporary plain white gold band that he knew wouldn’t fit (too big). After he proposed we went and got my finger sized and he ordered my setting.
Post # 11
The ring my friend wants to get his girlfriend is not able to be resized… its a tension set ring. And I floated the idea of just finding out her ring size with him as she is a good friend of mine too but he wants it to be a 100% surprise which is sweet!
I actually chatted to the boy a bit about it yesterday and just simply said “I figure that when the time is right, youll let me know and we will figure something out!” and he said yep. But then he said “hang on, can’t rings be resized?” and I explained that some can and some cant.
But he had the opportunity to get my ring size and didnt indicate that he wanted it so either A) he isnt proposing ANYTIME soon or B) He will just ask me to look at rings!
Personally, I would prefer we go look at rings together. The idea just seems so sweet! To know it is definately coming but then having that extra little waiting game!