Post # 1
Hello bees!!! First of all let me start by saying that my intention isn’t to brag at all, I really need some advice.
So, my wonderful Fiance surprised me with the most amazing ring ever, I cannot even say it’s my dream ring because not even in my wildest dreams I thought I could have something like that, it’s the Tiffany soleste, and some people might say it’s not big enough or wtv but I just LOVE it, so as you can imagine it’s a really expensive ring, and even more because I live in Mexico and Tiffany rings are sold in dollars at the daily exchange rate, so for us it’s even more expensive, but since we wanted to be traditional he chose the ring by himself, otherwise I would’ve ask for something more modest, but anyways that’s my ring and I LOVE IT. The problem is that since it’s a very expensive piece of jewelry and I’m always on the go (sometimes I take bus and public transport) my Fiance doesn’t want me to wear it all the time, just in like special occasions and such, and I totally understand, I’m not the most careful person in the world and sadly Mexico isn’t the safest place of all, and forget about ring insurance, there’s not such thing over here, at least not that I have heard of. So as a result my ring sits in its box all the time, every day, and I, well, I don’t feel engaged, not even a little, and since the wedding isn’t until about 2 years from now that doesn’t motivate me either, I haven’t started planning anything yet.
I haven’t talked to him about this because I know that he’s going to think that I’m exaggerating, and I’m afraid that he might be right, is a ring really that important? Women in my circle doesn’t even have rings so it’s not like I can ask them. I thought that maybe I could buy this cheap but beautiful ring I saw on etsy so I could have a ring I can wear all the time (I just wanna show the world that I’m engaged!) but I’m afraid I could hurt his feelings, he loves that ring as well, he’s VERY proud of it, and I don’t want to get more attached to another ring that isn’t MY engagement ring.
What should I do bees? Am I just crazy for wanting to wear a ring?
PS please excuse my English btw.
Post # 2
- Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club
gismonda : If you want to wear a ring, but do not want to wear your real ring, look into getting a cubic zirconia ring or something.
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL
I believe Jeweler’s Mutual will insure rings of residents in Canada, US and Mexico. That’s the insurance I have on my ring, and they will replace lost or stolen rings. Regardless, since it’s such a high priced item, you should really do some research and try to get it insured.
If I were you, I would get a plain gold band to wear in public, or buy your wedding ring now and wear just the wedding ring so you have something on your finger. I can understand why you want to have something there!
Post # 4
You could get a gold band to wear that can turn into your wedding ring when you get married. it’s not wrong to want to wear it and feel that moment of engagement. I’m sure he understand if you just tell him your plan.
Post # 5
I would get the matching soleste eterntiy.
Post # 6
How frustrating for you, normally I recommend wearing rings but I’m in Europe and know the reputation some areas of Mexico have for violence against the person so I’d never suggest you do something you think might compromise your safety. For that reason I wouldn’t suggest a blingy or large sim/cz either, they don’t know it’s not a diamond and you could get hurt anyway. What about a simple plain bezel solitaire with a small diamond or moissanite? Around the 0.3 carat equivalent size. It’s a very elegant look, easy to wear and low maintenance, but less likely to be a target.
Do look into insurance on your beautiful ring, I’m sure it will be available in Mexico, perhaps other Mexican Bees on here can check it out.
I’d offer and hope to pay for the ring myself in your situation, if your fiancé insists then that’s fine.
Look at the bezels on the Tiffany website for inspiration. You can get something similar but much cheaper online from James Allen or equivalent.
Post # 7
gismonda : By The Way your English is better than lots of people’s for whom it is their first language!
Post # 8
Definitely check out sites like Berricle– you can get an inexpensive ring (Like $50 in US dollars if they’re on sale) to wear while you’re on the bus and things like that!
Post # 9
Ditto on what all the other posters said.
And congratulations on your engagement!
Post # 10
Maybe just wear your wedding band now? That way it’s a ring you can still get attached to (since it will be your wedding ring) and you can have something that stays on your finger permanently. I agree with PPs though, if the ring he got you is expensive having insurance on it is a good idea.
Post # 11
Berricle has some beautiful rings at very low prices – check out online – their rings are just sterling silver and cubic zirconias – but they look like the real thing (if you like white gold – I’m not a fan). I’ve included one photo (below) from their website – this is $46.90 (Im in Canada – it looks like that might be the Canadian Conversion price – so likely more like $35-36 US). They have a 30% off storewide sale today – so it would even be cheaper. At least then if you’re robbed you’re not going to care that they take your ring.
If you want something a little better quality – check out ETSY or MoissaniteCo. I LOVE Moissanite – it actually sparkles more than diamonds – and from now on I’m going to be only buying moissanite (ethical reasons as well as great price). You can get a nice 14K gold ring with a moissanite stone for $400 – $2000. These would hurt the wallet a bit if stolen – but at least not as much as a real diamond. As it’s really 14K gold, people looking at it closely can examine the stamp inside that says 14K – and they’ll know it’s real. (A robber could even pawn the ring for the gold value – isn’t that a horrible thing to have to think!?).
Edit – only $695 at MoissaniteCo for a 1 ct moissanite solitaire “Tiffany” style ring in 14K gold. I don’t think you said what size stone you got – but you might even be able to match the moissanite to be very similar to your real ring – so you’d feel like you’re always wearing your ‘real’ engagement ring. https://www.moissaniteco.com/6prong-forever-brilliant-moissanite-solitaire-ring-p-16104.html
Post # 12
Thank you all amazing and gorgeous bees for answering so quickly!!
I agree with all of the bees saying that I should get insurance, I did look for insurance for engagement rings in Mexico but didnt find anything, I even saw a post on a news blog that was actually pointing that out, it said that there is an insurace for “personal belognings” like watches and stuff but it just covered the object in case of robbery with violence! and it just gave you a part of its value, it didnt get you a whole new object for example, wich is insulting in my opinion and in the blogger’s opinion. But I will make my research again, maybe I can find something, and thanks @FutureDrAtkins !! I will look into that insurance!!
The idea of getting my wedding ring right now isnt bad, I didnt considered that, and I thank to all the wonderful bees that gave me that idea.
Drizzle & mishybear thank you so much for your inspiration, I checked into etsy again and found a solitaire CZ & silver ring that was really nice, the stone is 0.6 equivalent, so I dont think it attracts too much attention but it shows the idea of “engagement” wich its what I want and with shipping its only 54 USD which I think isnt bad, I like this idea better because, I’m not married yet, and I want to enjoy this period of my life… haha or does it sound too cheesy? but I think I should explain to my Fiance this, at least now I know I’m not crazy nor exaggerating.
Post # 13
gismonda : I think if your Fiance doesn’t want you wearing the engagement ring all the time and to save it for special occassions, it shouldn’t bother him if you buy the etsy ring to wear everyday. The point is that you are proud to be engaged to him and want to show that.
Post # 14
Just get a cheap 200$ ring. My ring currently is a sterling silver ring that cost under 200$ I’m not getting my set until closer to the wedding. But I still plan on wearing this one when we go on vacation etc
Post # 15
I first want to say that your English is wonderful so there is no need to apologize about it.
Second, I think getting your wedding band early is a wonderful idea. That way your fiancé doesn’t feel like you’re trying to replace your engagement ring!