Ring upgrade- what people say

posted 1 year ago in Engagement
Post # 16
377 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m a Bling Lover. I don’t think I wouldn’t change the setting, however I want to add trilion cut diamonds to the sides of my ring eventually. I’m not really concerned what anyone else thinks! The longer we are married, the more stories our relationship will have! Each piece of jewelry, diamond, or stone represents a different special occasion 🙂 

Post # 17
497 posts
Helper bee

The only “upgrade” my ring would be or get… Is a nicer moissy. I have an eBay india moissy in a sterling silver setting… And SO wants to get something nicer later on. For me… My current ring is more than enough… But its SO who wants a nicer stone. When that happens… It’ll be the same setting, with the exact same stone dimensions… He’d like to have the setting designed in rose gold to match the wedding band I want… But its all him and his ideas. I love my ring just the way it is. 

Post # 18
748 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

My mom has like, five rings she swaps out depending on her mood and what she’s doing that day. They all come from major milestones – 10 year anniversary, etc. She was engaged with a tiny diamond (like .25) but it got lost in a move, so she got a very blingy band to replace it, since she is an artist and doesn’t want a raised stone. Literally no one has ever said anything. I think we pay way too much attention to these things, and others barely give It a second thought. Someday I’d like a moissy for when we go on vacation, or hiking, etc. so I can leave my original, sentimental ring at home. I doubt anyone will even notice that I’m wearing a different stone. 

Post # 19
1344 posts
Bumble bee

i don’t have an upgraded ring, but i imagine i would deal with it the same way i deal with any inappropriate comments. i usually pretend not to notice the snippy, judgemental tone that comments or questions are made in. i respond to their questions like they were said innocently. most people can’t continue being a jerk if you are responding to them like they had pure intentions. 

“did husband get you another engagement ring?”
he gave me this for our 5th anniversary. he is just the sweetest!

“wasn’t your first ring good enough?”
oh you’ve seen it, i’m sure you remember how lovely it was. 🙂

“you guys must have a lot of extra money lying around”
i know what you mean, jewlery is such a luxury item. thats what makes this such a treat!

if that fails i’m very direct in calling them out on their inappropriateness. it makes for some very uncomfortable moments.

Post # 20
193 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I am amazed how this “upgrade topic” became so controversial on the Weddingbee. So many bees express negative emotions towards upgrades, judging those who would want it. But if you look on this at another perspective? Do you think women should be given jewelry once in a lifetime? Is it not appropriate to give your wife another piece of jewelry, ring included, during your life together? I am totally jewelry person, whether i can afford it or not, i always like to stare at jewelry items at any store on my way, or on friend’s or stranger’s wearing beautiful rings, earings etc. I am the one who will always sincere compliment if somebody wearing smth that catch my eye. And of course i would love to have another piece of jewelry by myself. Recently i got a ring from my husband, which looks like an engagemeng ring (i posted a review). But i don’t see it as my ering upgrade. My ering was 0,16 RCB with heart halo, my husband picked it by himself and i was over the moon to get it. I will always love it and wear it! It will always be the ring i was engaged with. My new ring is a different style and i picked it by myself, and i completely see it as an anniversary ring (it was given to celebrate 10 years together), yeah, it looks like engagement ring and i sometimes wear it on that finger, so what?! I like this different from my original ring style as well! What i am trying to say is it is normal to have another ring (or having both at the same time), if you want it and can afford. Our taste changes with age and seasons. Nothing criminal.

Post # 21
399 posts
Helper bee

I don’t think I’ll ever get an upgrade, I’m far too sentimental so it wouldn’t be right for me. But, I don’t have a negative view of others who do, each to their own, I wouldn’t understand snide comments you’d get either…I mean really?! Why can’t people just be happy for others?!


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