Post # 1
I read about ring-warming ceremonies (where the rings are passed around for guests to hold them for a second and say a prayer/blessing), and my husband & i thought it was a meaningful & sweet gesture.
However, when I mentioned it to my DOC, his response was lukewarm and said he wasn’t sure if guests would take to the idea. He said it just seemed "kinda weird", and asked how I came up with the idea.
Anyone had / participated in a ring-warming at a wedding?
How did your guests react? If you were a guest, how did you feel?
Thanks in advance!
Post # 3
I have never heard of this, but I think it could be a really cool thing to add to a ceremony. I wouldn’t suggest doing this for a huge group….less than 100, I’d say, otherwise you’d be waiting forever for the rings to get up to you lol.
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2009 - Byodo-In Temple, Luau Reception
I’ve never been to a wedding with a ring warming ceremony, so I’m not much help there. But Married2MrWright has an amazing bio with photos (and a video! Ring warming ceremony starts at 2:14 of the video) of her ring warming ceremony.
Post # 5
Our officiant suggested a ring warming and it worked out really well. She described what the ring warming ceremony meant to us and we started passing the rings around. Then she continued the wedding ceremony, while the rings were passed around and later, when she reached the "Exchange of Vows/Rings" part, she asked for the rings to be passed back.
It flowed very naturally and wasn’t awkward at all. I think maybe your DOC thinks its "kinda weird" because he isn’t familiar with it?
Post # 6
Thanks ladies. I’m having only about 40 guests, which was why I thought it was a nice gesture.
@ lilneko69: thanks for the reassurance!
Post # 7
Wow — did he really say it was "weird?" Way to invalidate other peoples’ nontraditional ideas, buddy! I think it’s a great idea, especially if you and your fiance really like it and you’re having a small group of people. Maybe you could put a small note in the program letting people know that it’s going to happen so they’re not totally surprised by it.
Post # 8
I never heard of it, and I would never do that.
Post # 9
I would never do that either. I’m having an outdoor wedding and the last thing I need is for the rings to be dropped and lost in the grass! (and I’m sure the poor person who drops it would rather avoid that stress as well). There are other opportunities for our guests to give us their well wishes that don’t involve objects that cost more than 2 weeks pay (well, his ring was two weeks pay, mine was more). We’re actually having a chocolate ceremony so that we can include the guests. I thought it was a really cute idea! The ring warming ceremony sounds cute, I’d just be way too paranoid. I don’t even plan on handing my engagement ring over to Maid/Matron of Honor unless I know the ring fits on her finger (it doesn’t fit on my right).
Post # 10
I’ve honestly never seen it before, but it’s a sweet thought. As a person in healthcare, and one who’s again dealing with a son who’s under the weather (we just got back from the pediatrician this am), I don’t really like the idea of alot of people passing and touching my stuff.
He he..I’d have the minister ask the congregation to do a ritual handwashing first (with some antibacterial soap) first before they passed my stuff around for everybody to touch!
Post # 11
I’ve heard of this, and I think it’s a beautifully symbolic ceremony. I think people will have the sense not to drop the rings! Of course, if you’re worried about that, you *could* always use fake rings like they do for the ring bearer…
I say go for it!
Post # 12
heh, I don’t know if it’s a matter of sense more than a matter of accidents happen! lol I’ve lost my engagement ring before (luckily recovered it two weeks later… in cabbage) and I just don’t want to go through that again, or have someone else go through the guilt! I plan on having a wish jar as my guestbook so my guests can still offer their well wishes.
Post # 13
interesting thoughts there – esp the fears about dropping the rings, LOL.
well, i don’t intend to just have the 2 little rings passed around, but rather, have them tied on a book (we’re using a book of significance, instead of a ring pillow). So… even if there were some klutzy guests, the rings would still be tied to the book and we are also having it in a small bistro, so i guess ‘runaway rings’ are also easier to track down – if it does come down to that!
@amysue: good idea on mentioning the ring-warming in the program! thank you!
Post # 14
Thanks for bringing up this subject. I really would love a ring warming. I think you are wise to tie them to a “book of significance”. Plus I like that idea a whole lot more than shelling out $30 or $40 bucks for a ring pillow! Or, I could always sew one….anyway, thanks for asking about ring warming. I would love to do that, hope FH loves it too!
Post # 15
This is my first time ever hearing of this.
Post # 16
I’ve never heard of this before. I love the idea of it, but I don’t actually think I would have wanted to pass our rings around. Have you thought of doing a candle lighting instead? It’s a way to have all of your guests involved, and it makes for beautiful pictures!