(Closed) Ring warming – How’s the response?

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  • Post # 17
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I’ve never heard of this, and I wouldn’t do it because I am not into nontraditional ceremonies… this goes for sand ceremonies and hand fasting too. It’s just my personal taste. Your DOC should help you achieve what you want, and if that’s what you want, go for it!

    Post # 18
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I haven’t heard of this before, but it sounds like a neat idea.  I would be afraid that our guests would be clumsy and drop the book or the rings etc (I can completely picture my guests doing this…).  

     

    We wanted to include our guests in our ceremony as well, so near the end our minister is saying (it’s a religious ceremony but the idea would be the same even if it wasn’t):

     

    I charge to you to remind them of their unbreakable bond and to help guide them by way of the Holy Word.  Signal your answer by standing to your feet.  Please join hands. Sarah and Drew, remember that you do not walk this path alone. Do not be afraid to reach out to others when together you face difficulty. Other hands are there; friends, family and the church. To accept an outreached hand is not an admission of failure, but an act of faith. 

     

    We basically want everyone to join hands and create a “unbroken circle,” (people will just be in the rows, so it won’t be an actual circle) of people we love

    Post # 19
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I love this idea, in theory, and with a small wedding you could probably pull it off. I just know that there will be people at my wedding that I wouldn’t trust not to pocket them…

    Post # 20
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I went to an outdoor wedding where the couple did a ring warming.  There were about 60 guests, and we were standing in a circle around the couple.  The rings were passed around the circle in a pretty box, and everyone held them for a moment.  I thought it was lovely!  Then you get to wear a wedding ring that each of your guests has touched, said a little blessing over, etc.

    I don’t know if we’ll do one at our wedding though… it’s mostly immediate family and they’re all divorced!  Might be bad muck or something, haha

    Post # 21
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I think it’s a lovely thing. Fill my ring up with warmth and good juju! 

    Post # 22
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    we thought it was a lovely thing to do, but ultimately decided against it because our ceremony will be hosted in a small garden with a small stream running through it. it might not happen, but i didn’t want to leave it to chance that someone was going to drop it and have it roll right into the stream. 

    it would probably work well for a small ceremony (<50 guests) 🙂

    Post # 23
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    We were planning to do it when our intended guest list was 60 people … but now we are closer to 120 people (because we found a bigger venue that we liked), and it just seems like it would take too long (we are aiming for the ceremony to be 20 minutes TOPS)

    Post # 24
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    We’re doing this!! This was the first element of our ceremony that we decided to include.  We’re having just under 30 guests so it’s feasible for us.  I’m going to make a small bag in which the rings will be passed around, and we intend to start the ring warming during a musical piece at the beginning of the ceremony.  It really means a lot to me that every time I look down at my ring, I’ll know that our family & friends blessed the rings and our union just before we exchanged vows.  I can’t wait for it! 🙂

    Post # 25
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I’ve heard of this being done, but a ribbon was strung through the pews/chairs and the rings were on the strong, so that the guest just passed the rings along the string and there was no chance of them getting dropped or lost. If I remember correctly the bride’s ring went through the bride’s side and the groom’s ring went through the groom’s side so it took half as much time.

    Post # 26
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Wow, I’ve never heard of this. I might have to run this one by Fiance to see what he thinks. I am usually against the sand and other various ceremonies for our wedding, but this is so sweet.

    Post # 27
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I’ve seen it once, but it was just with their parents… 

    Post # 28
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    One of the Bees did it recently – passed them around in a little shell, I think? Can’t think of who it was but I’ll let you know if I figure it out.

    Anyway, I think it’s a very nice gesture. Sure, a little cheesy, but weddings are cheesy! I can’t believe that your DOC would say that any of your ideas were “kinda weird,” that seems so rude to me!

    Post # 29
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I think this is an awesome idea. We’re going to have about 120 guests, but I’d love to figure out a way to make it work. The candle idea doesn’t feel right. And we’re getting married outside during the day, so it would be a logistical challenge. Sand neither.

    Infusing the rings with “physical, emotional, and spiritual warmth,” sounds really great.

    I’m afraid of the rings falling and getting lost, too. Plus our guests are going to be sitting on a wooden deck with slats in it! So we’ll have to tie the rings to something. I don’t know if there are two books that are so significant to tie the rings to, though. The “nice box” idea is good.

    Too bad about your close-minded DOC!

    Post # 30
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    Newbee

    We are going to do this, but we are placing the rings in a little bag and passing it around. Most likely those mesh like bags people use for wedding favors.

    Post # 31
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Southern Bride: If I were a guest I would want to actually see the rings and touch them. Are you worried about them getting lost?

    We did end up doing this in our ceremony and we loved it. We had the rings tied together with a thin red ribbon. Fairly early in the ceremony, our officiant explained what it meant and how it would work:

    “Later in the ceremony B. and M. will exchange rings as signs of their commitment to one another. As the ceremony proceeds, we invite family and friends to take part in The Warming of the Rings. As the rings make their way around the group, please take a personal moment to hold them, warm them with your love and make a silent wish for this couple and their future together. When these rings come back they will contain, in their precious metal, that which is more precious, that which is priceless—your love and hope and pledge of support for their union.”

    (We found some of that language at various websites.)

    Our ringbearer took the rings to the back of the house and sent them on their way. Our musicians played for a couple minutes, and the ceremony continued. We had 120 guests and there was actually enough time for the rings to make it all the way around by the time we exchanged them.

    We got several comments from our guests that it was a meaningful part of our ceremony.

     

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