Post # 1
We were recently married (within last 3 weeks) and just returned from the honeymoon. Upon return, it was brought to my attention that proper etiquette would have been to give our ringbearer (the only child at the wedding) some kind of gift at our rehearsal dinner when the rest of the wedding party received their gifts. Somehow, a gift for the ringbearer did not cross my mind at all and now I feel terrible about it and take full responsibility for it. From what I understand, a ringbearer gift is proper wedding etiquette and one should be given. However, other people have told me I shouldn’t feel bad about it and the ringbearer shouldn’t really get one because he didn’t really do much (which I agree with) unlike Groomsmen or Bridesmaids who provide support and help during the process as well as attend bachelor/bachelorette parties, which can be costly although in my opinion I would say my 7 year old ringbearer nephew did more than some of the groomsmen.
So, should I now get him a gift and what would be the best way to go about it at this point? Also, if I should get a gift, should it be wedding related (i.e. engraved pewter coin bank truck or mini engrave baseball bat) or just an everyday toy (i.e. videogame) or maybe tickets to a new movie we would attend together.
Post # 3
We will be giving our ring bearer just a small gift, a children’s book about being a ringbearer.
Since it’s after the wedding, I’d embrace the fact that you forgot and go with something that you can do together. You can even position it with the child (and/or his parents) and say “Hey, in all the wedding chaos, we didn’t get out to get X a gift but now that things are quieter, we’d love to take X to…..(insert ball game, day at the beach, children’s museum, etc.) as a thank you for doing such an awesome job on the wedding day”
Post # 4
You should still give the gift if you can, and make it the traditional kind just as if you would have given on the first day. The sooner is better, in terms of thoughtfulness. But don’t feel bad about it, you didn’t know!
Post # 5
I LOVE the idea of something engraved (like a bank or keepsake box). When he’s older, and understands more what weddings are about, he can look back at it fondly and maybe recall your wedding and stories.
I have a locket that I was given from being a flower girl when I was 6, and when I come across it in my jewelery box it makes me smile and think of how nervous I was to walk down the aisle, and how proud I was afterwards.
Post # 6
Any other ideas besides an engraved bank? I like this, and am myself looking for more thoughtful keepsake items for a 6 year old boy. My flower girls are easy (jewelry), but I have no clue what are keepsakes for little boys….thanks
To the OP, I’m sure he’ll still appreciate the late gift. Any cool theme parks nearby?