Post # 1
Hey guys! I’m having a 1 flower girl, and 1 ring bearer. My guess is that they’ll walk behind all the Groomsmen & Bridesmaid or Best Man, I know what the flower girl will be carrying…but I’m at a loss at what the ringbearer will be carrying?! I’m totally out of the loop when it comes to this.
Are they supposed to carry BOTH of our rings? & does he have to carry a pillow?
My colors are pale yellow & pale pink, if yall have any suggestions let me know! Because I surely have no idea! What’s tradition?
Post # 3
I don’t think he has to carry anything. Most traditional is a pillow, but I have also seen them carry rings in a shell or whatever you want. As far as the rings, that is up to you as well. If you want him to carry the rings, he usually has both and they are attached to the pillow or whatever with some kind of ribbon or something for safety. I know that sometimes people use “dummy” rings for the ring bearer and have the best man/MOH carry the real ones.
Post # 4
Our ring bearer will be 2.5 at the time of our wedding. Pretty young to handle that bling! He’ll carry a little pillow with faker rings. And since we’re not sure of his mood or performance on the day of, we’re going to give the rings to our minister ahead of time (we don’t have BMs or GMs). I’ve been Maid/Matron of Honor a couple of times and each time, I held/carried the groom’s band until the bride turned to hand off her flowers to me, at which time we did the switch. The Best Man did the same thing with the groom (minus the flower hand off, of course!).
Post # 5
Our ring bearer will be 3.5 and Im not sure what well do with him at that time. He doesnt behave that well right now and doesnt speak at all (Hell be 3 in April) but well see how he is closer to the wedding. Well probably just have him hold hands with our flower girl and not really have him responsible for anything!
Post # 6
We’re not having a ring bearer at all. I don’t know any little boys that I trust to be good!
Post # 7
Thanks ladies! The fake ring idea is good. But our ring bearer is about 10 yrs old, so even if we did trust him to hold the rings I think he’ll be okay! I also wonder if I should have him & the flower girl (who will be 3) walk together? Would that be weird or is that how it’s usually done?
Post # 8
Here’s a great idea for a southern wedding. My best friend had an outdoor ceremony. She had her ringbearer (who was 7) and her flowergirl (age 3) come down the aisle together. The Ring Bearer pulled the Flower Girl in a red wagon. It was so precious!
Post # 9
@TheQueen: That’s so freakin cute!! I just don’t know if I want my little flowergirl to walk or be carried, she’s just too cute not to walk!! But the idea is great…it’s a good possibility I may use it!! Thank you very much for sharing!!!!
Post # 10
My son has been a ring bearer before and he had the rings on a pillow. He was five then and walked sooo carefully with them..He knew the brides’ ring had a sparkly (what he used to call a diamond or a gemstone) on it.
for mine, the ringbearer is going to be 4.5 and the rings are going to be tied with tiny satin ribbon thru a large abalone shell!
Post # 11
mine will be carrying this from paloma’s nest on etsy. now i am not too sure about them getting our actual rings lol but we’ll see, they will be tied to the bowl.
Post # 12
I love Paloma’s Nest Cre! Good choice! And perfect for little hands to hold.
Here’s kinda what we’re doing with the abalone shell!
except where the hole is (by nature), there will be fed thru w/ a small satin ribbon and our rings will be tied to it!
Cheapest ring bearer “pillow” out there–$6 at Michaels!