- 8 years ago
My boyfriend and I are ring shopping. The ring is very important to me – moreso than the dress, wedding, etc. so we are spending quite a bit on it (looking at around 2 carats).
My problem is that I care too much what people think. I am not sure what is wrong with me! Instead of enjoying this ring selection process as much as I should, I keep worrying about others’ opinions. For example, I have a couple of coworkers around my own age who are both against diamonds. I happen to love diamonds. One thinks a ring – period – is too traditional and sexist, the other thinks it’s a waste of money (as pretty much any luxury good is, according to her… she hates diamonds and brand names and all the stuff I like). I haven’t talked about rings or diamonds lately, but in the past they’ve made their opinions clear to me.
I am anticipating snarky remarks from them. One of them I’ve written off as a frenemy at best… but the other I work quite closely with and in a lot of ways I really like her, so I do care what she thinks, in some capacity at least. I also am not looking forward to my family’s reaction.. I see snarkly remarks from them as well… they’re also less traditional and think diamonds are silly. Keep in mind my boyfriend and I do have the money for a nice ring.
Anyway, I keep having these arguments in my head about what these people will think/say. As I type this out I feel so dumb. I guess I am just freaked out because I’ve never made such a huge purchase (well my bf is buying it but still)… it’s important to me that my bf and I both like the ring but for some reason I can’t stop picturing how people will react to it. It’s not like it’s anyone else’s business. I just keep imagining scenarios and trying to come up with witty retorts and I am making myself miserable. I want this ring to be something I wear forever.
Anyway, just wondering if anyone has any advice on how to stop caring so much about what others think. I am way too sensitive. I want to pick a ring that my bf and I love… and forget everyone else. Thanks for reading this far. Sorry for the long-winded post!