(Closed) Rings and the Office: I'm anxious

posted 4 years ago in Rings
Post # 46
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Busy bee

what decade do we live in? I think you’re over thinking it. 

Post # 47
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Busy bee

If people even notice your ring, they would probably only acknowledge the fact that you are engaged and thats all. I dont think people will be judging size, if they notice the ring at all. Anyways, be confident with your ring, no matter what it is! 

Post # 48
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Helper bee

I don’t get why it matters if people think you need the job or not. It’s none of their business and as long as you get your stuff done does it matter if you financially need the job or not? No.

Post # 49
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Helper bee

Last year my company hired a woman who has a diamond somewhere in the 3 to 4 carat range. People definitely commented behind her back and made assumptions about her income.  I work with highly educated people,  most of whom have their PhDs, and yet they still gossiped for several weeks about it. There are a few other women who have diamonds around 2 carats, people make snarky comments about them as well.  I have personally gotten some rude comments about my 1.36 ct ring,  so the OP ‘s question is valid.  People do judge and make assumptions.  

Post # 50
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Helper bee

I understand her worrying about this but I have never heard of someone getting a promotion over another because of their financial situation. People will talk about you behind your back for something. Might as well have it be about how beautiful your ring is! 😉

Post # 51
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Helper bee

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ecle:  I’m gonna go against the grain and say I get what you’re saying. When I met with a lawyer, I took my mom with me for morale support and I had to stop taking her because he just stared at my moms ring the whole time. She has nothing extravagent. I don’t know why he did that, but he started paying attention to me when she stopped coming. I don’t think anyone will judge you, conversly. You are a LAWYER and you make a lot of money. It’s almost expected you would have a large ring

Post # 52
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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ecle:  Not gonna lie, your ring looks big, it’s very pretty, agree with
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MrsBuesleBee:  if you’re concerned, I would casually mention that it’s not a diamond. People may suspect that anyway, moissy looks different cut, color, sparkle especially in large sizes, plus so many of us have them now. So either way they may make assumptions-you’re either a rich biotch or a phoney with a big fake diamond hahaha.

 

Post # 53
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Bumble Beekeeper

Wow, that’s gigantic! If people notice my mid-range sized ring, I’m sure people notice yours. I don’t think there’s anything you can do about people judging you though. If it’s not your ring, it will be something else. Just do good work. The superficial stuff really doesn’t matter. 

Post # 54
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Blushing bee

From my experience, having a ring (whatever the size) actually helps if anything. I work in a male dominated industry so having a ring helps eliminate all possible future awkwardness and immediately helps you to just melt in with the bros… It’s whether there’s a ring on your finger that makes the difference not the size. When I see a big ring the only thought that comes in my mind is “her fiancé must REALLY want men to stay away from her” lol. What’s better than a bling you can see from a mile away to send out a message to the males around her. 

Post # 55
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Helper bee

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ecle:  You work in a law firm, There are probably bigger rings. It is an e-ring everyone knows your husband picked it not you. However I know where you do come from though. I have alot of bags and I was warned not to bring my chanel bags to internship because I will get judge. If my boss has a less expensive bag it is inapporiate. However that was an internship and I was only 19 years old. It might be a chinese cultural thing, I don’t know but that advice is common in our culture. Younger people are suppose to be more humble. You are there to learn not to show off your wealth.  I have never heard of e rings though because unlike bags it is picked out by your partner, but I guess it is similar. 

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