Post # 1
Recently, I’ve been feeling some e-ring judgement and I just feel like venting more than anything. I have a 1 carat moissanite on a thin antique looking white gold band, which is what I dreamed of. However, since I have been engaged, I have felt judged. For example, my mentor gave me quite the hassle about my “huge stone” in front of others, and how when she and her now husband were engaged, they had no money for rings. She has a small, beautiful clear stone (presumably diamond) that is a quarter carat or less, and I honestly never paid attention to her ring until she made a big deal about mine and made me feel embarrassed about the size in front of others. She is a successful attorney locally. Anyway, I had another person in my field tell me my ring was “cute” and how I can always upgrade later. She is also a successful attorney and talked about her large sapphire ring, which is gorgeous, but again, this made me self-conscious. What the hell is up with this? I would never dream of commenting in a disapproving manner regarding someone else’s ring. Is this really common?
Post # 2
Sounds like you work with jerks. The only approval you need is your own. I’m sorry you have to deal with rude people. Just learn to start replying with “thanks I love my ring” to every comment even if they sound like back handed compliments.
Post # 3
“Comparison is the thief of joy”, said some wise person. And they were right! Even if it’s someone else’s unwelcome comparison. Screw what anyone else thinks of your ring. Do you love it? If so, that’s all the approval you need.
P.S. Pics, please–your ring sounds gorgeous!
Post # 5
I’ve only had nice comments about my ring. Don’t let the critics get to you. If you like it, that’s all that matters.
Post # 6
Those people are jerks. Don’t pay attention to them! All that matters is that YOU love your ring!
Post # 7
Just ignore them. The more time that passes after you get engaged, the less people will care about/notice/comment on your ring.
Post # 8
You said your ring is what you dreamed of? So why do you care what anyone else thinks about it?? Wear it, enjoy it, and brush those comments off.
Post # 9
I love this quote! Something to remember, this really hit home for me.
craigslistgirl: hikingbride: TheGridMonster:
thanks as well. I’m just surprised that people have time to think about forming these opinions. Not that I’m engaged I often feel judged by women I know when it comes to actions related to wedding planning or marriage. this one set me off because I feel like 1 carat is a great size and nothing to judge over.
Here’s a pic–I was parked and had my hand on the steering wheel when I took this (car shots are the best!):
Post # 10
I think that looks PERFECT on your hand! Not just saying that either! Totally love the proportions! Gorgeous!
Post # 11
I love your ring! Totally gorgeous and it looks perfect on your finger 🙂
Post # 12
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
Post # 13
You should just show it to us so we can make you feel better! 😉
Post # 14
Oh I was too late! Too huge I don’t think so! You have small fingers so maybe she thinks it’s enormious. She sounds jelly to me though. I think its absolutely perfect on you. Not too small or too large. But like whatevs rock it and in her face perferably.
Post # 15
The fact that you personally experienced one person commenting on your ring being too large and another person suggesting the same ring is too small, should tell you everything you need to know. Some people will find a way to criticize absolutely anything. Sorry you’re dealing with this. Ignore it. Same kind of people who will ask why you don’t have kids yet and then five years later express shock that you’re on your third.
PS – I seem to have heard a lot of stories from women about people calling their rings “cute” and asking whether they’ll upgrade. Like they couldn’t possibly be happy with what they have. I seriously don’t understand why anyone thinks it’s appropriate to say that, so I understand your frustration.