(Closed) Ripped off by a baker acquaintance

posted 6 years ago in Legal
  • poll: What should I do?
    Say nothing and move on : (33 votes)
    58 %
    Tell her the cake was bad but don't bring up the $ : (20 votes)
    35 %
    Ask for a partial refund or another cake : (3 votes)
    5 %
    Other: write below : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    7560 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    At this point I would not say anything and chalk it up as a lesson learned. If there was an opportunity to say something, it would have been when you first got the cake. Now it would just be her word/memory against yours, and probably not end well. To me, $80 is not worth making my work and school environment uncomfortable. Best of luck! 

    Post # 4
    4770 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Guess it depends on the relationship with her.  If you are kindof close I’d mention that she should have some more practice…I mean maybe she thinks it is really good.

    But yeah other than that it is your fault, for winging it.

    Do you have a pic of the cake?  I’m intrigued.

    Post # 5
    9053 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I think honest reviews are probably one of the best things you can get in the early stages of starting a business.  If you have a decent relationship with her, I’d probaly mention that a lot of your guests thought the cake was too dense, and you think that in the future she should only use pictures of cakes she’s actually made, and knows she can make again when sending out proposals. 

    Post # 6
    691 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    You get what you pay for. $80 cake, someone with no experience, blind purchase.

    You’d be doing her a favor in nicely telling her that the cake didn’t taste good rather than silently fuming about her cashing the check. Perhaps she was waiting for feedback which never came?

     And why would you feel taken advantage of? You paid $80 for a cake and never told her it sucked!

    Post # 7
    734 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I would tell her (kindly) that you know she’s just starting out and so you want to give honest feedback and let her know that you didn’t like the cake. I know $80 isn’t the kind of money you want to just throw around, however, I don’t think its worth fighting over. I think that maybe she made a mistake or over-estimated her abilities rather than intentionally trying to screw you over.

    Post # 8
    238 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    If she is starting a business she needs to know her cake didn’t taste nice. Maybe bring it up some how? Of course try to be as nice as possible, you do work with her!

    Post # 10
    3053 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    @sarabande:  Do you have a pic of it vs the pic she showed you?

    Unless I was close to her & could figure out a way to say something without coming across as a bitch or rude, I would probably not say anything. I don’t like confrontation & I can’t see it resulting in anything positive if you aren’t close….she will get hurt & defensive & things will be awkward. If you were close I’d say you could do her a favor of telling her but it doesn’t sound like you are so I doubt you’ll have welcoming ears.

    Post # 12
    3569 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    From your story I don’t think you were ripped off. It sounds more like she delivered a bad product. That being said as a consumer you have to protect yourself, I would have asked to seen pictures of previous cakes, and would have had  a taste test. Give her honest feedback if you have too, and use this as lesson for next time.


    Post # 13
    5400 posts
    Bee Keeper

    @sarabande:  I would cut your losses and move on. While honest feedback is helpful for business owners, you’re not just a previous customer–you work with this lady and take a class with her. I personally wouldn’t want to cause conflict in my place of work. This lady will find out soon enough that she’s not very good…and it doesn’t have to come from you. 

    Post # 14
    13096 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I would cut your losses and move on.

    I really don’t think you got ripped off honestly.  You chose to make an expensive cake purchase with no tasting, no pictures of previous work, and no references/reviews from previous customers.  So really, IMO, the fact that you weren’t happy with what you got for the money is really on you.  Yeah – it sucks to spend $80 and not get what you wanted.  But you didn’t do the necessary legwork to help ensure you’d be happy with the final product.

    Post # 15
    818 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @AlwaysSunny:  +1 this. . 

    @BlondeMissMolly:  +1 this as well. 

    That really sucks OP! I too am curious to see the pictures and discrepancy. On the positive side,  you and your partner will always remember how not awful future delicious cakes will taste by comparison and laugh about it down the line :]

    Post # 16
    3618 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    Since the check has been cashed and you two seem to have a lot of interaction together. I wouldn’t say anything unless she asked you how the cake was. I would expect her to ask too since she should want feedback if she is trying to start a business. I would just be honest about the quality of the cake she made and mention that the price was a little steep for that kind of quality and her lack of experience (but more sugar coated.)

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