Post # 1
OK, I will start by saying that I think the amount somepeople spend on weddings is crazy. I think I posted before that I nearly went postal on one lady (I restrained myself)… this was because she had just quoted me an outrageous sum for a venue, and I said that we couldn’t afford it.
“Well, we aren’t expensive”, she said. “What’s your budget?”
“£6,000-8,000 (about 9,000-12,000USD)” I replied. She sniffed.
“Well, for that money then you could always rent a church hall and serve your own, hand-made sandwiches, I suppose” she replied.
I wanted to jump across the table and throttle her. Instead, I thanked her for her time through gritted teeth, and left.
Let’s stop for a sec and think what I could buy with £8,000. I could buy a nice, two year old car which would last me for 15 years. I could then use the change to go on a holiday somewhere nice with Fiance… perhaps Brazil, or China. Once there, I could use the remaining money to go shopping and have a spending spree. That is a LOT of money! How can anyone say that is low budget? This is the issue… people lose all perspective on what constitutes value for money when it comes to weddings. If a restaurant tried to charge you £40 a head for a set menu, with no options for each course, not including wine, you’d laugh in their face and leave. So why should it be different for your wedding? AAARGH
Anyone else have stories to share?
Post # 3
The “w” word creates a money pit.
Actually, when I talked to my baker about the wedding, I asked her what we could do for 65 cupcakes. She replied that she could reserve the date and have everything ready for us for under $100, but she wasn’t going to mark it as a “wedding.” When I asked her why she said, “It’ll save you money. Trust me on this one.”
Post # 4
You are a better person than me for not letting her have it. Just because she believes the only “good” weddings cost boatloads of money does not in fact mean it cannot be done. Ew. People like that irritate the crap out of me.
The “W” word is a b*tch.
And btw? Your budget is fine! Our wedding was between 7K and 8K USD. It was lovely!
Post # 5
@Rachel631: WOW. That is so rude!
Post # 6
Oh my. I wouldn’t have been so nice, especially if I didn’t have to worry about coming back to book there. I’m pretty sure the lady at the venue we originally looked at quoted us higher because we don’t look like we come from money. I know for a fact my friend’s wedding [same venue] cost a lot less than the lady quoted us, and my friend had more frills than we did. Stupid people.
Post # 7
Actually, I’m kind of glad I didn’t choose to go there for my reception in the end… Because I go to the Uni of Cambridge, I have the “right” to use their chapels and spaces etc for my wedding, and a lot of brides do this because they think it will be cheaper. It’s not.
I also spoke to another girl who tried to book the same venue as me after this… she totally cursed them out and said that they nearly ruined her wedding and that they were so awful and unco-operative… her Fiance went to a different Cambridge College, and they tried to go half and half with the events and things in both colleges. She said that the college she and I go to tried everything in their power to stop this so they could make as much money from her as possible…
I think I had a close escape! I’m also glad I didn’t curse the woman out though, because at the end of the day we still have to share a campus, LOL!
Post # 8
Dont take their crap! Any vendor that would be so blatantly disrespectful to you is off their rocker. Do they know that the whole world (practically) is in a depression? They should be bending over backward to kiss your hiney for any amount of money, large or small, you decide to INVEST in their business. Its because of us brides that their business even exists to greet the day! And I’m totally with you on the ridiculous expectations of these places. Our budget is 18k american, and I live in the Dallas area. In Dallas, the AVERAGE cost of a wedding is 25k. Did you catch that? TWENTY FIVE THOUSAND DOLLARS. That’s two years of University, 5k more than my brand new Honda cost, what would be considered around the world as a Respectable Down Payment on a mortgage!
My Fiance and I are both in college, but our parents are pretty middle class. We’re struggling in our area to get this thing done in 18k! I’m going to have to DIY quite a lot, and family members are helping us with our dessert table and a close friend of ours is DJing. Even still, working with some vendors, they look at me like…”yeah right.” I tell those vendors where to shove it. And because of this, I’ve found an incredible florist that busts her butt to get us the best prices on floral arrangements, an amazing photographer that specifically tailored a package for us, and 10% off my brand new dress. Why? Because these people are intelligent enough to know that WE pay their bills. And if we’re not happy with the price, we walk. I’m by no means a mean person, but this is business just like anything else. DONT BE AFRAID TO SAY NO
What you have to remember is this is a SERVICE INDUSTRY. If they dont want your “budget”, someone else will!
Post # 10
I wonder if it would be the same price if someone said “family reunion” instead of wedding, has anyone tried that yet?
Send someone else in to ask?
Post # 11
I know when we’ve talked to certain vendors, we’ve called the same places twice… once to get the “wedding quote” and again to get an “anniversary quote” or “birthday quote” …. It blows my mind that one word can make a price shoot up an extra 2-5 grand.
I was always told when talking to cake vendors especially, tell them it’s for a birthday, or a big anniversary, not a wedding.
Post # 12
@happyface: At a friend’s wedding several years ago, the room block was specific under ” [Last Name] Family Reunion”! I know it was decently priced, but I literally could see the hotel staff glare at us as we walked out to teh limo (I was a bridesmaid). On our wedding website, we mentioned teh hotel block but also mentioned that we personally are huge fans of Priceline and highly suggest using it (as well as if people are unfamiliar to ask us, b/c we’re pretty much ninjas at it by now! I acutally used Priceline to book a room for a conference I went to and my rate was almost half of teh conference attendee rate). Unfortunately, I can’t bargain my alterations as “oh this ol’ thing? It’s for a … um, family reunion”. Not a complete lie as much of my family will be there….
Post # 13
Good for not spending a stupid amount of money on a wedding! I’ve talked to people who spent more then 30K on their wedding, and they regret it. My sister planned her wedding in under 10k. It was gorgeous, and she had so many compliments, she did all DIY centerpieces, and it looked better than some 40k wedding. So stay strong with the inexpensive wedding!!!
Post # 14
My SIL suggested her manicurist for my nails – she wanted 110 Euros for bridal nails – no way in hell was I paying that! So I went in incognito the day before and got my nails done exactly as I wanted for 15 Euros – Massive saving!
Same with hairdressers – I visited some that wanted 300-400 Euros to come to the house and fix my hair, oh and they’d do my mum’s for free… When I asked how much if I came to the store I was told 200 Euros, and 50 Euros for the trial. Just by luck I passed a new hairdresser shop on the way back to the car after the visit and went in on the off-chance and asked there. I was told 25 Euros for a simple style, or 40 for an up do and trials for 20 Euros a pop – the first trial she did my hair 2 or 3 different ways, and the second trial she did it as it would be ad gave my Mum a lesson in maintaining it during the day (If a kirby grip started annoying me etc…)
My Darling Husband saved 350 Euros on his suit. If he’d have gone in and said he was a groom, they would have not shown him the suit he ended up buying (the shop-guy himself told him this) – it was MADE for him – perfect cut, fantastic material, whereas the ”groom suits” he looked through afterwards were not great and overpriced.
Post # 15
@Mashiara: Hey, Im getting married in Mesquite, not too far from Arlington and our budget is approx 5K for 70 guests. It can be done. What you need to look at is some all inclusive venues in the Dallas metro area. I came across some very beautiful ones that would have been within your budget, but not mine. Having an all inclusive venue helps tone down the stress of planning the wedding. I dont have to be up all night doing centerpieces or anything like that. As a matter of fact, my wedding is almost complete. Tomorrow 3 BMs and I are going to look at BMs dresses and we should have the officiant and the photographer booked by the end of this month. The only things I have to DIY is the flowers and my programs. Thats it!
At OP, do not get discouaraged. There is a perfect venue WAITING for you and Fiance to discover it. Keep your options open. Look into nice museums and theatres (if you dont mind those kind of places).
Post # 16
Part of the problem with people charging so much for weddings is that there are plenty of people out there who will gladly pay that and more and who buy into the idea of having the most expensive and extravagant wedding.
My BIL’s friend wanted an ice cream cake for his groom’s cake. He called and they quoted him a price of several hundred dollars. He thanked them, hung up, and called back later requesting the same cake for a birthday. They told him $50 and he just told his friends at the wedding to ignore the “Happy Birthday” written on the top.