Post # 1
I’ve been thinking for weeks now but haven’t come up with a solution, i need your help!
here’s the deal: my SIL has offered me (many times ^-^) how she would love if her 5-year-old was our ringbearer, so I said okay. but now she insists that I find a job for her 8-year-old as well, so that he won’t feel left out.
we’re having a small, 40 guests, outdoor wedding, only thing really fancy will be my dress, and I just can’t think of anything for him to do.
Any ideas, bees? Another problem is that he is a very sensitive child who tends to get quite teary and stubborn and performs great tantrums…
Any help would be appreciated, thank you so much!!!
Post # 3
Could he walk some of the ladies to their seats?
Post # 4
Easy. Make him an official usher and he’ll be with the adult men. He will probably love it because he’ll start to feel that he’s becoming a man rather than stuck with the womenfolk. He will certainly be less likely to through a tantrum in such a situation.
The guests will like it because they will secretly think “Isn’t he sweet”.
It’s also slightly more grown-up than what his younger brother is doing. He’ll like that too.
Post # 5
Thank you, bees!
Problem is we’re not going to have designated seating, so we don’t kneed an usher, there won’t be bridesmaids, we’re keeping everything really simple….
Post # 6
Will you be having programs? My nephew who’s that age will be handing programs to the guests.
Post # 7
He could announce that you are coming before you walk down the aisle.
Post # 8
Thank you so much for your great suggestions, but: no on the programmes, no on the aisle, I’m afraid we’re having neither –__–””
I am soooo at a loss!!! >.<
Post # 9
He could put out place names on the tables. He could open the car door when you arrive at the church/venue/reception door. He could be in charge of the confetti and the throwing of confetti. He could present you and your mom and and your mother-in-law with flowers. He could carry the pen to sign the register.
You could borrow something from him. (Traditionally the bride has something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue.)
He could be in charge of flowers to put in buttonholes. He could carry the notes for the speeches to be made at the reception. He could read out the telegrams/cards from people who couldn’t attend the wedding, he could be the one of the official decorators of the going-away car (specialising in tying tin cans to the bumper, perhaps.) He could carry the official umbrella in case it rains or a parasol in case of too much sun. He could serve some of the champagne at the reception (with a little help from an adult). He could play a musical instrument. He could sing a song. He could dance with you (after the father/daughter and husband/wife dances). He could bring the rings to his younger brother or you could have each brother carry a single ring.
You could bring a gong to signal that it’s time for the speeches and then have your nephew hit the gong at the relevant time.
You just need to think outside the box and come up with something that is fun for him and fun for you.
Post # 10
@Supersleuth: Thank you so much for your many many suggestions! I’ll surely pick one of them.. really like the gong idea ^o^ I was so stressed out because my SIL constantly kept bugging me about it…. Thanks again!!!