(Closed) Role for sister/FSIL

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 3
4525 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@magnoliafine:  I’m in the same boat: I have 3 sisters under the age of 12 but no bridal party and I’m not sure what we should do with them, as I’m pretty sure it will ruffle some family feathers if they arent incorporated somehow. Commenting to follow 🙂

Post # 4
7872 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@magnoliafine:  If you don’t mind me asking, why don’t you want them to be junior bridesmaids? I’ve been to a wedding with two junior bridesmaids about that age and it was lovely. They weren’t paired with any guys.

Post # 7
7872 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@magnoliafine:  “I told some ladies that were expecting to be asked to be bridesmaids that I was  trying to keep costs low by only having two attendants.”

My response to those ladies (who never should have been pressuring you in the first place) is: “except for our sisters”. Any reasonable person would know that it’s ok to make exceptions for your own sisters, especially when they are children.

The wedding I refered to above sounds exactly like yours: it had two adult groomsmen and two adult bridesmaids; and then the two junior bridesmaids stood next to the bridesmaids. It was assymetrical but no one cared.

Post # 8
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@paula1248:  I totally agree. Screw the people pressuring you to be bridesmaids! That’s incredibly rude – and if they are going to get their nose out of joint because you included two children and not them, then they sound like very petty people.

Is it possible to have one junior bridesmaid on your side, and one on his for symmetry purposes? It’s not unusual for women to stand on the groom’s side these days if they’re close to him.

If the junior bridesmaid thing is definitely out – flower girl or ring bearer is still an option. They may be a little old, but I was at a wedding a few weeks ago where the bride’s sister (about 12-13 years old) carried the rings down the aisle. It was lovely and no one really cared that she was the “wrong” age.


Post # 9
1168 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I agree with others about just making them junior bridesmaids. Who cares what that other person thinks. And I also agree with @LadyElva on possibly having his sister stand on his side for symmetry. She could either wear the same dress as your sister, or wear the same dress but in a different color to match his side better. (Like, if the groomsmen are wearing black suits, she could wear a black dress with a colored sash to match your bridesmaid dresses or something like that.)

Other than that, you could just give them a role that is maybe not flower girls, but not necessarily junior bridesmaids. Like they could carry a sign together down the aisle. Something like this maybe:

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