Post # 1
So FI and I both have young sisters…mine is 11, will be 12 for wedding and his is 12, will be 13 for wedding. I am interested in making them feel special on my wedding day and I love them both dearly and am really close to both. I don’t really want to have them as junior bridesmaids and we aren’t having candles. I guess they could be guest book attendants but I was planning to have two of my high school pals do that. They are a bit old to be flower girls. I want to have some sort of “job” for them just to show them they are important to me and that I want them to be a special part of the big day. Any suggestions? I am happy to create something for them to do, just need ideas! Help!
Post # 3
@magnoliafine: I’m in the same boat: I have 3 sisters under the age of 12 but no bridal party and I’m not sure what we should do with them, as I’m pretty sure it will ruffle some family feathers if they arent incorporated somehow. Commenting to follow 🙂
Post # 4
@magnoliafine: If you don’t mind me asking, why don’t you want them to be junior bridesmaids? I’ve been to a wedding with two junior bridesmaids about that age and it was lovely. They weren’t paired with any guys.
Post # 5
@magnoliafine: Could they do a reading?
Post # 6
@paula1248: part of the reason I don’t want to have them as junior bridesmaids is because I told some ladies that were expecting to be asked to be bridesmaids that I was trying to keep costs low by only having two attendants. Also, I know it sounds petty but I’m kind of a freak about symmetry and asthetics and I think it would just really bother me to have four on my side and two on fi’s side. Idk. Maybe it’s something to think about.
Post # 7
@magnoliafine: “I told some ladies that were expecting to be asked to be bridesmaids that I was trying to keep costs low by only having two attendants.”
My response to those ladies (who never should have been pressuring you in the first place) is: “except for our sisters”. Any reasonable person would know that it’s ok to make exceptions for your own sisters, especially when they are children.
The wedding I refered to above sounds exactly like yours: it had two adult groomsmen and two adult bridesmaids; and then the two junior bridesmaids stood next to the bridesmaids. It was assymetrical but no one cared.
Post # 8
@paula1248: I totally agree. Screw the people pressuring you to be bridesmaids! That’s incredibly rude – and if they are going to get their nose out of joint because you included two children and not them, then they sound like very petty people.
Is it possible to have one junior bridesmaid on your side, and one on his for symmetry purposes? It’s not unusual for women to stand on the groom’s side these days if they’re close to him.
If the junior bridesmaid thing is definitely out – flower girl or ring bearer is still an option. They may be a little old, but I was at a wedding a few weeks ago where the bride’s sister (about 12-13 years old) carried the rings down the aisle. It was lovely and no one really cared that she was the “wrong” age.
Post # 9
I agree with others about just making them junior bridesmaids. Who cares what that other person thinks. And I also agree with @LadyElva on possibly having his sister stand on his side for symmetry. She could either wear the same dress as your sister, or wear the same dress but in a different color to match his side better. (Like, if the groomsmen are wearing black suits, she could wear a black dress with a colored sash to match your bridesmaid dresses or something like that.)
Other than that, you could just give them a role that is maybe not flower girls, but not necessarily junior bridesmaids. Like they could carry a sign together down the aisle. Something like this maybe:
Post # 10
Thank you for your help ladies, I so appreciate your input!