- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
My fiance and I are both in our early 30s, but I have 3 half-sisters who I am pretty close to, ages between 16-19. My fiance and I agreed early on that it would feel awkward to have my teenage sisters for my bridesmaids, while he’s having all male friends as his groomsmen, who are all our age. So, I went with my 1 full sister as my Maid/Matron of Honor and 3 friends as my bridesmaids. My little sisters said they understood and I thought it was all settled, but my mom has recently brought up to me that one of them in particular is sad that she’s not involved, and feels left out. It’s too late to backtrack, we already got dresses for the bridesmaids ordered, and I wouldn’t ask my friends to step down at this point anyway. I also don’t really want to have 7 bridesmaids and 4 groomsmen.
Besides, all my reasons for not asking them to be bridesmaids in the first place are still valid. While I don’t want a crazy bachelorette party, I was wanting to do something like a wine tasting, which the little sisters couldn’t attend, and they also all live at home with no jobs. All reasons I’ve seen for making someone a “junior bridesmaid”.
SO, I thought maybe I could make them junior bridesmaids, put them in a similar dress, and let them hand out programs. But now I’m reading that junior bridesmaids is for younger girls, and my sisters are too old for the role. So then I was reading that I could make them female ushers? We don’t have ushers, and were thinking of just having the groomsmen seat people. But 2 of my sisters are pretty shy, so maybe no seating people.
I guess what I want is to have them wear a pretty dress that coordinates with the wedding party, hand out programs and direct guests if needed, things like that. My main question is, what to call them? I don’t want to offend them by suggesting they’re still “little kids” with the junior title, but to me, I guess they are. I’ve seen the term “hostess”, and I like that, but I’m not sure.
I want a name for it, because I was thinking of making them cards explaining how they are important to me, asking them to be my [whatever], and listing what that would entail. I really didn’t mean to make them feel left out, so I’d like to make it up to them.