Post # 17
@hermom: Thanks for your honesty. Unfortunately, we don’t have any younger children who will be involved. We don’t even have a flower girl or ring bearer. I’m not sure who we’re going to have do any kind of seating, programs, guestbook, or anything like that, if my sisters don’t do it. As for the pictures, they’re family, so they will be in pictures anyway. Just… not standing with us during the ceremony. My fiance says 7 is too many, and I tend to agree. Can I call them bridesmaids but not have them stand up with me? And have them in a different dress from the others?
Post # 18
@corralynn: Honestly, they can still be called bridesmaids even if they don’t stand up front. But can they at least wear the same dress? You don’t want them to feel left out. By The Way I have seen bridesmaids who for whatever reason were not standing up front but were definitely in the pictures.
IMO if you ask them to help you by passing out programs they might be willing, but honestly a lot of close friends could feel slighted if asked to do that instead of stand up front.
Post # 19
I don’t think the matters at all. My younger sister is only 16, and she is going to be my Maid/Matron of Honor. The second youngest person in the bridal party (either side) is 25, but who cares. She is my sister and I’m close to her and it means a lot for both of us to include her. She even came with to celebrate after we found the bridesmaids dress. We all had martinis and she had a mocktail. It didn’t really matter what she had in her glass, what mattered is that she was included along with all the other people who are the closest to me. You could have 2 separate events- or do a wine tasting with the 21+ crowd and then the whole gang meet up for dinner. Friends come in and out of our lives- even our closest friends sometimes, but our sisters are always are sisters, even when there is a large age gap, so to me it is a no brainer to include them