Post # 1
All of my fiance’s siblings and their kids have a role in the wedding (his sisters are bridesmaids, his older nephew is a groomsman, his young niece is the flower girl), except for one… I can’t figure out where to place his other nephew! He’ll be almost 13 at the time of the wedding.
Problem is, we can’t make him a junior groomsmen because our venue has a limitation on the size of the wedding party… He can’t be a reader because we’re getting married in a Catholic church and the readers have to be Catholic, and he’s not (so I’ve asked my cousins already)… he’s probably too old to be a “ring boy”… any other ideas about how I can include him? I don’t want him to be the only one not involved.
Originally, he and my cousin (who’s the same age) were going to carry the altar gifts in the church, but my fiance doesn’t want the mass portion of the ceremony, so now we don’t know what else we can do 🙁
Post # 3
Just a thought, he could be an usher. Hand out programs (if you’re having them) and show people to their seats. It would give him a roll, and a little responsibility. If that won’t work, you could ask him to be the groom’s “right hand man” for the day. help get ready, get him food and drinks, kinda like a valet. IDK…just some thoughts.
Post # 4
@LilMrsChamp: I was just going to suggest Usher… My FI’s younger brother is right around that age and we are having him usher with the help of some of the older boys. He was a program hander in his sister’s wedding a few years ago and wasn’t thrilled, so he was glad to get a more mature role. Plus he’s excited to be able to wear a suit!
Post # 5
Helper to ushers and greeters
Collect forgotten programs
hand out bubbles, rice, confetti, tissues
does your church have a place to hang jackets? He could caot check
help the elderly
Hope these random ideas help!
Post # 6
i dont know if its true that readers have to be catholic – all mine were, but they never asked me if they were or not….i would find out about that because reading would be a great place for him!
Post # 7
i found this site: so far i havent been able to find anything about not allowin non-catholic readers -but every chruch is different. this website just says pick a person of faith and someone who is a good public speaker 🙂
Post # 8
@smileyd: These are all great ideas! When I was 11 or 12 I was a greeter and passed out bubbles for a wedding and loved it. Those are all ways to let an older kid feel involved and give him a job to keep him busy. We are probably going to make FI’s 11-year old nephew an usher/greeter.