Post # 1
My daughter is having a traditional wedding, we are paying for everything except rehearsal dinner which just includes the wedding party, The grooms mom is talking about the morning of the wedding and us both being there with MY daughter, Both of us in a picture zipping up her dress. Lizzy is my Oldest and first married, but I don’t think my future son-in-laws mother has a role with my daughter, An I wrong?????
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
Honestly, I’d say it’s up to her. If she wants her future mother in law there, then that’s great! But, if she doesn’t want her to be there then she is absolutely within her rights to tell her that she wants to keep it to just you and her bridesmaids!
Post # 4
I think it’s the bride’s decision about how involved her future mother-in-law will be when it comes to the wedding. Weddings are about bringing families together, and her fiance’s mother will soon be family. I would leave that decision up to the bride-to-be.
Post # 5
It’s up to the bride. I would just suggest you keep in mind, that while she is your daughter she is the newest family member for them and I am sure the Groom’s mom is just so excited!
That said, it’s definitely important to just have some mom-and bride pics, too.
Post # 6
I would say it is up to your daughter, but I know for me, the morning of the wedding is for me, my mom, and my sisters only.
Nothing against my Future Mother-In-Law – but this is something that is personal to us, and she would just be left out if she was there – she didn’t watch me grow up, battle possible cancer and invasive surgeries with a 10% chance of dying on the table, didn’t know about the crazy ex – all those things that happened before I knew FH.
Maybe you and your daughter should talk about how you both envisioned the getting-ready process …
Post # 7
I would suggest she help her son get ready.. instead of zipping up the bride’s dress, she can tie her sons tie. But like others said, it’s up to your daughter.
Post # 8
I’m wondering if she doesn’t have a daughter and has only one son or it’s the last to get married. Maybe she wishes that she would have been able to do this with her daughter. If your daughter wants her there, then she’s going to be there.
Post # 9
Thanks for the comments, my daughter does not want her there, The women who had promised to be the best mother-in-law in the world, is being a big pain to my daughter. George is the olderest of 3 children with a younger sister & brother, he is 38 and his mom is having a hard time letting go, Mother-In-Law is divorced and has made demands on what the father of the groom can be involved in, he was not invited to engagement party, her demand
She seems passive/aggressive my daughter has had enough and I’m just about there. I guess I should give all the details. Thanks!!!!
Post # 10
I am having my Future Mother-In-Law with me on my day. It will be my mom, my Future Mother-In-Law, my Future Sister-In-Law and my 3 BMs. We will all go get our hair done and get ready together.
However, that being said I only want to have my mom zip up my dress.
Edit – you were posting when I was writing! I think that if this is the case your daughter’s Fiance should give her a job to do the morning of to keep her out of the way!